Wedding Planners Drowning in Details

“My bf and I are college students and we’re trying to figure out if we can get married while still in school or if it’s better to wait until after graduating. submitted by /u/Ok-Entertainer-270 [link] [comments]”

“Hello! My fiance and I are getting married next month (woo!) and are having a destination wedding. I have a question about the registry. For guests that are attending, we've made it *SUPER CLEAR* to not get us anything. (Like, I've literally told them please do not get us anything you are traveling all the way there and we are so grateful for your presence and that is more than enough.) For the guests who aren't able to attend (my parents, part of his family, many friends, etc.) we&#”

“My parents and I are splitting the wedding costs 50/50. I did not want a reception party, but because my parents insisted they would help us, I thought why not take advantage and throw a party. Ever since then, my mom has taken complete control over wedding planning. My mom is upset that I am having a Catholic cermeony instead of an Orthodox one and she brings it up almost every single day. Once I think the conversation is over, she brings it up again. I never liked the church I grew up in and I”

“Hi all, my fiance and I are struggling with this. We want the wedding and party but everything is so expensive. We have already taken alot of ppl off of our guest list and are basically ready to just settle with whatever venue is cheapest. We have talked about eloping but it always goes back to us wanting atleast our immediate family there. The only problem with that is our immediate family is around 60 people (we both have big-ish families). So we're just going in circles of what to do. Ano”

“Hey! Getting married in March and went for the classical package (the middle ground) at the venue we have chosen! However, when choosing the menu options in which we have to choose 2 options for each (starters, mains and desserts) they are saying that we HAVE to choose 1 meat/fish (ie like chicken, beef) and HAVE to choose 1 vegetarian/vegan option for all courses. There is no option to have a meat and a fish for example. I wondered if this was standard practice as it doesn’t seem very inclusive”

“Hi! So for my September wedding, my fiance and I are getting married in a traditional church. The programs are very detailed and on the cover we can’t decide if we should use an engagement photo (which most of our family members have already seen) or if we should do a watercolor picture of the church. Personally I feel like I have seen people putting the church on their programs a lot but when I asked my family for advice they didn’t like it and said it has no meaning to “us”. Any input would be”

“Hi hi! I’m starting to feel crazy because my partner and I are planning our wedding, and I want to have various forms of entertainment for our guests, but apparently that’s an unpopular opinion online? To be honest, I have ADHD, so maybe that’s affecting my judgment, but I get pretty bored and antsy at weddings or events where the main entertainment is just dancing. Talking and dancing aren’t really my thing, and most of our family and friends are pretty big nerds. At every wedding I’ve been to,”

“After manager discussions with my man, we picked a venue, and a date for 2027 and a guest list. We settled with doing a mico wedding. With 22 guest. The ceremony and reception will be on a Saturday. But im trying to figure out a timeline for a smaller wedding. What have others done? submitted by /u/VegetableUsed9139 [link] [comments]”

“I’m putting together some information that our venue requested and a lot is about music and I guess I hadn’t really thought about that yet. What are important moments for music and when is it okay to just have nothing playing? I guess entering and exiting are obvious, but do you play something before we arrive? Do people do special dinner playlists? How does this work haha. We’re not doing live music or anything submitted by /u/downright_cynicism [link] [comments]”

“So this has been a topic me and my partner have been back and forth about many times. We have discussed going to the court house and basically eloping. Then having our actual wedding on our 1 year anniversary. We've discussed it because I don't have an income (became a SAHM 11 months ago when pregnant with baby #2) and can't claim my son unless we filed married jointly. But thats not the only reason we've discussed that. Before I actually got engaged, I wanted to do that. Get mar”

“Just got engaged a few days ago. It's been an amazing few days, but now I'm beginning to wonder if there's a good time to begin planning? Also, what are the first things you should plan out? What are things that can wait until later? submitted by /u/moonandsunandstars [link] [comments]”

“Hi! Newly engaged bride! I plan to have a 2028 wedding and I am interested in some kind of guided/organized planner. Has anyone used a digital wedding planner? Would love to hear thoughts and recommendations!! submitted by /u/syd_eb [link] [comments]”

“Hi everyone! I have ordered my save the dates, and just realized…am I supposed to have my wedding website on it? I’m freaking out now that I potentially forgot something important like that on it. I have our names, date, city/state, and the “formal invitation to follow” on it. submitted by /u/FlyNo4740 [link] [comments]”

“I am super excited to share an engagement is on the horizon for me (confirmed, I was given the casual advice to make sure I have engagement-appropriate nails for the foreseeable future). My boyfriend and I have been discussing weddings heavily. We don’t have any help and while I know we’d both like the idea of a large wedding, it isn’t reality for many reasons but that’s okay! We came up with an idea (nothing original by any means, but the first one where we really felt pulled towards it) What i”

“Hey all! I just found out I'm pregnant with my second baby. Super excited! Although I'm a little worried. My baby is due middle of May 2027, and my wedding is scheduled for the following October 😵‍💫 all we have right now is the venue, and it's my dream venue + deposits already been paid in full. Is it crazy to still have my wedding 5 months postpartum? I know I probably won't be able to get my dress until very close to the wedding. I guess I'm just worried about how I'l”

“I think this is partly a rant/hoping someone will tell me I'm on track and it's all good and partly a genuine question. We're getting married in April 2027. At this point, do I need to be doing anything else once all the vendors are booked? I'm normally so organized, but I am working part time while completing my master's degree this semester, and my fiancé just started a pretty high-pressure job, so we're stretched pretty thin, and I am starting to feel a little stressed”

“I said how do I start instead of where do I start because I know there are plenty of guides and checklists available online. For context, both my fiancé and I have ADHD (awesome). We want to get married summer of 2027 and I’ve started browsing for venues, but I’m already so overwhelmed just looking at them. How did you start cracking down and set a date? Did anything help you to not feel so stressed? I actually really enjoy planning vacations, getting inspo from Pinterest, etc. so I thought I wo”

“Hey guys, for our wedding we have a venue where the dancing/music must happen within a barn for noise-restriction reasons. The barn is fairly medium-sized. Doors can be left open I think so that helps. But, the ceremony and reception is outdoors at a gazebo & patio, and to get to the barn you kind of have to walk down a brick path and go there to dance. It's definitely separated. I need some advice because I'm not really visualizing how this is going to work? If no one is dancing, is”

“Did anyone put out a cards box for their engagement party? I’m not sure if we should. We aren’t expecting anything from anyone but I just didn’t know if that’s like a normal thing to do. submitted by /u/Asleep-Release8701 [link] [comments]”

“Hello i would like to ask for help po, planning to have wedding next year. What should we do first? Di namin alam ano uunahin namin, ang sa LGU po ba or organizer po. Yung certification po ba na makukuha sa LGU walang expiration? submitted by /u/Plastic-Product-8401 [link] [comments]”

“This is where I’m getting married, is it fine to have n arch? Weddings on the 12th and now I’m second guessing. I didn’t really want one, but I’m worried I might regret it, thoughts? submitted by /u/BilboSwaggins444 [link] [comments]”

“Hello! I just got engaged last month and don’t plan on a wedding utilizing 2028… but I somehow still feel behind?? I’ve started looking at venues and wedding coordinators but I feel like I need to be doing more and I feel like at least starting the wedding website is low hanging fruit. My first question though, is for a spring/summer 2028 wedding, is it WAY too early to be creating our wedding website? Also, for when I do actually create it… recommendations on the best (but mostly, easiest to to”

“Since February my fiance and I have been planning our December 2026 wedding and now that it’s about 100 days away it’s really hitting me hard. I’ve been married once before but we eloped and it was generally a very bad situation. Fast forward to now and I’m marrying the love of my life and I couldn’t be happier about that, but now I’m getting stressed. My family is supportive but not really able to contribute. My man’s family contributes so much already I don’t want to ask for more. But it feels”

“I am concerned with the limited amount of time for photos and daylight. Not sure how to convince him otherwise mainly because I don’t want to rush through photos. submitted by /u/JustRePlayinG2014 [link] [comments]”

“i got engaged in march and we want to do a small wedding of maybe about 40-50 people. i dont want to do like a long traditional ceremony but the only weddings have been to have been on the more traditional side. wondering how some people maybe planned their ceremony ??? i just dont know if i need an actual officiant and stuff and havent been able to find anything elsewhere. thank u !!!!!! submitted by /u/yjhgaori00 [link] [comments]”

“Hello, due to a family member getting a bad diagnosis giving them 6 months without treatment and up to 2 years with treatment if it works, I need to plan a wedding that will take place before/ around December for under $4,500 . I don't think any venues have openings so either a church or an Airbnb type thing, any ideas are appreciated. submitted by /u/Bunnyabnner54 [link] [comments]”

“If you are a Type A person who is used to organizing things or has a high-intensity job, I would say do not get a wedding planner. Definitely get a day-of coordinator to help execute your plan, but do not get a full-service wedding planner. In my experience, they do not add much value beyond their contacts. Once you find a vendor you trust, that vendor can usually recommend other contacts from their network, so there is no real need to hire a wedding planner. A wedding planner’s incentives are n”

“If this isn't allowed Mods please let me know. I just need a rant. I need a vent. I have been engaged for 3 years now and I'm awful at planning. I've been jumping between either a wedding,micro wedding or elopement of just me and my fiance. When I got engaged my family dynamic was good. My parents were friends, and my brothers weren't best friends but still planned to fly out and see each other's families. However, currently my immediate family members have been arguing for a”

“I am an October 2027 Bride and I need advice. My mom and I are split on if there should be a registry or not. We had our Engagement party last October and I remember many people asking if we had a registry. I was set on not having one at all but I recently went to my cousins bridal shower and she got many gifts without a registry. I’ve seen people say on here sometimes people enjoy giving gifts so might as well be something you want. My fiancé and I have lived together for over 4 years so really”

“Hi everyone! My fiancé popped the question this previous week on the beach in Maui and I am just over the moon! <3 but what the hell do I do now? I've only been to a handful of weddings in my 25 years of life, and have only been in one wedding of those few. I think we have a general idea on what we're hoping for as far as the wedding goes, small guest count (Max maybe 50?) probably going to have to be a backyard reception because neither of our families are going to be shelling out th”

“My fiancé (31M) and I (29F) got engaged in April, and we're planning to have our wedding in June 2028. So we have a lot of time to plan! We live in Boston and are planning to have our ceremony and reception at the Pierce House in Lincoln, MA. My soon-to-be mother-in-law is Catholic and extremely religious. My fiancé grew up with strict rules, went to Mass every Sunday (at least), and was homeschooled up until high school, where his mom focused on the bible and other religious teachings. He w”

“I haven’t even started anything yet, and I’m already overwhelmed lmao I’m not even really sure where to begin. My partner and I got engaged at the beginning of August and have been so busy with other things that, but we’ve briefly talked about a vague guest count and what time of year we’d like to have our wedding. Most advice I’ve seen is ‘come up with your budget’ -- but we’re not even sure how much everything is yet to even get a ballpark. I feel like I need to shop around for different venue”

“Hi everyone! My fiance are having a very cheap budget wedding at a community center in our area, insanely cheap to rent plus they give you 3 days, 1 to set up, 1 to have the wedding, 1 to take everything down, and it comes with an outdoor hockey arena that we can party in after! We are not hiring a DJ because we hired a live band for our after-party, which comes with a DJ to do music between the band sets. Our wedding venue provides microphone and speakers inside, but we will need to figure out”

“Reception: I don’t think I really want a crazy DJ bumping and lights flashing reception, but I don’t want it to be boring. We’re going to have alcohol and food, but if the music isn’t that crazy, what could we do for entertainment? I considered having games or cornhole to keep guests entertained. I definitely love just sitting around a table and drinking with my friends, but don’t want people to be bored. Any ideas of what we could do? I also do like the idea of dancing, but I only really like i”

“She’s going to be turning 11 a month before our wedding so I think a flower girl is a little too young for her. I’ve googled and apparently there’s a thing where they can walk down the aisle and hand out a basket of flowers to the aisle guests but I’ve never heard of that or seen it in my entire life. Anybody else? We don’t have any bridal party but just a best man and matron of honor who will be sitting down and not standing next to us during the ceremony anyway. I want to find a sweet way to i”

“Hello! I'm newly engaged (yay), but were having some difficulties with the beginning stages. Namely that we are on a tighter budget and I have a very large extended family that I am genuinely close with. Between both of our families and close friends we could easily have a 200 person wedding, which is realistically outside of our budget. One of my thoughts has been to just elope with super close family and friends (like 25ish people) then travel to visit other family, but my fiance really wa”

“I honestly don't know if I'm being unreasonable here, so I'd really appreciate some outside perspective. My fiancé and I are getting married in October (engaged in July), and we're planning everything VERY quickly because my mom was diagnosed with an aggressive and incurable form of cancer this summer. Her doctors estimated she has between 6 months to a year. In June after her diagnosis, she told me she wants to see me get married before she passes. We're having a very small”

“I’m planning my wedding for May 2028 (weekday) around Sheffield/surrounding areas and looking for an affordable wedding planner or, ideally, an on-the-day coordinator . I’m doing most of the planning, flowers, decorating and styling myself, so I mainly need someone to help bring everything together on the day , keep things running smoothly and take the stress off us. If you’ve used someone you’d recommend — especially someone reasonably priced and happy to work with a DIY wedding — I’d love to h”

“So my fiancés grandparents are in poor health. And over the last few weeks we heard that his grandfather has cancer. We aren't sure how things will progress between now and our wedding in 49 days. We have been planning the wedding for the last 2 years and are at the home stretch. My fiancé asked me my thoughts on having a city hall wedding early so his grandparents could see it. While I immediately said yes, I started having second thoughts, in the sense of how would that work. My sibling is”

“Question! We are having a no kids wedding and we just finished picking out our save the dates. I was just wondering if you mention that on the save the dates or the invites? If I was to put on the save the dates what’s some ways you guys have worded it in a way that’s not harsh or offensive? Any advice is helpful! TIA! submitted by /u/PatiencePure8918 [link] [comments]”

“My fiancé and I just got engaged and we’re talking about our wedding and it’s bringing up a lot of questions I have. I have only been attended one wedding as a guest and it was a huge $50,000 wedding so I’m a little lost and can’t afford a wedding planner. I guess I’ll start with what we know. We want to get married in a year. We just bought our house and are currently doing renovations on it. Our property has 4 acres of land and plenty of space to do our reception at our home in our back yard.”

“I’m having a wedding in NJ and looking for a reasonably priced DJ who is actually good. My budget is around $2,000. Is that reasonable? We aren’t looking for sparklers, CO2 cannons, or any extras, just a great DJ and MC. I’m mainly trying to understand if that budget is realistic. submitted by /u/Accurate_Idea_2927 [link] [comments]”

“Everything about a traditional wedding makes me sick to the stomach: all of the attention on me, everyone watching our intimate moments, the formality of the ceremony, the first dance, speeches and toasts, etc. I used to think “Just man up! This is just what everyone has to do when they marry someone.” And I’m now realizing that doesn’t have to be the case at all. Fortunately, we don’t have a strict budget. That being said I don’t plan on dropping $100K on this celebration, but I do want to make”

“I honestly have been having a hard time with planning my wedding set for July 10th, 2027. My dad has been in the hospital for a month getting infection after infection and the drs are just maybe starting to get answers. He had pancreatic cancer a few years ago and all the signs look like it’s coming back. I currently am living with my mom and it’s been hard to be strong for her when I am struggling and feel like crying that my dad could very well not be able to be in my life. Besides this, other”

“Hi wonderful brides. Going through a rough patch right now. To sum a very long story up, I work in the wedding industry and have been planning my wedding since January. Only, I have a fraction of what the "common" budget is and my parents, regardless of being well off, do not want to pay more but at the same time don't want to look "cheap." I have now my venue (between church, to family property, bacj to different church) change three times, the third being a few days ago”

“Hi everyone, We’re planning our wedding for autumn next year. It’s going to be fairly low-key and on a budget due to other financial commitments that I won’t get into, but we’ve found a way to make it work the way we want it. The issue is, in order to be able to afford it, we are limited to 30 guests and it has to be on a weekday. There are also anxieties about my side of the family in that my mother doesn’t get along with my dad’s side, is no contact with my younger brother and can be really na”

“Hello everyone! First time poster, looking for advice or recommendations if you have them! My fiancé and I have been pulled in so many directions over deciding where, when, and how to get married that we decided that we are going to split up our wedding into two parts: a small ceremony in France and a reception in the states. Our idea was staying at a chateau with immediate family members and closest friends (less than 30 ppl), have our church ceremony, have a nice dinner, and maybe go out and b”

“Hi guys I have my wedding coming up with my beautiful partner this winter. It was originally meant to be in the summer but we had to rebook! Any tips or advise for a winter wedding? Unsure on the weather yet! Any help appreciated 😄 💙 submitted by /u/yasminlawrence1244 [link] [comments]”

“lawyer up right now. You have three weeks before it needs to be signed, and there's a 7-day cooldown. So really two weeks before both parties need to agree to all the verbiage.”

“The wedding will begin this coming Thanksgiving evening (Thursday) and end the next day (Friday). The venue is in a tiny rural, affluent college town (where she went in 2012) that's about one hour from one family and two hours from the other. Other family members are flying several hours, some driving around 5 hours. The town has only a handful of restaurants, and most are closed for Thanksgiving or will close by 3:00. Schedule is as such: Thursday - 6:30 - 8:45 pm Welcome Event (no food) Pl”

“Has anyone else experienced the feeling like they are drifting apart from their fiancé during the wedding planning process? I’m 60+ days away from our wedding and I CAN NOT WAIT for it all to be over. This is by far the worst experience of my life. My fiancé is driving me beyond crazy. Every task they ask me to do is never up to their standard, and when I say you should’ve given better instructions or done it yourself if you want it done your way, I turn into the jerk. I’m ready to give up and j”

“I keep having conflicting thoughts about having a rehearsal dinner, and I'm curious what other people have done. For context: Wedding is May 2027. We're having a church ceremony on Saturday, and a Friday rehearsal is pretty necessary. Several members of the wedding party are unfamiliar with how the ceremony works — including me, tbh — so skipping the rehearsal itself isn't really an option. The church/venue are about an hour from where we live. Some of our wedding party is local to t”

“My future husband and I are currently wedding planning. We he proposed to me he also asked if I was down to go get married in a tropical location, just the two of us and it was an immediate YES. We are both introverts and not very much into sharing such an intimate moment with other people. While he’s very confident about the announcement to our families and friends, I am a bit concerned about their reactions. After we announced our engagement, my traditional (african) parents already expressed”

“My fiance and I are getting married next spring in the MCOL city which we live in, and I truly could not be happier about marrying him. We got engaged last September, immediately drafted our guest list of about 120 people, and spoke with our respective families about financial contributions. We landed on an overall budget of $55k. We both come from rather well-off families, but my fiance, my family, and his family were all absolutely appalled at the idea of spending $80k+ on one day for a higher”

“Fiance and I have been wanting to but we were thinking about the legalities of things afterwards. I’m still in school but will be graduating soon. I’m afraid getting married will affect any possible student loans that I may obtain because of the marriage. After the elopement , how will this affect our taxes , the process of changing my last name (do I have to do it ASAP?) , and are there any other legal things I need to be aware of? Important background: my parents have narcissistic tendencies a”

“I’m still about 8 months out from my wedding, but one of the things I am concerned about is decorating. Luckily, our venue is pretty much already decorated so it’s not something I’m worried about. I’m just concerned about reception table decor and decor for the ceremony which is outside and there’s nothing there for decor. My budget is around $3k for this, and apparently that is pennies! 😀 So, after reaching out to a local decorator and mentioning this and essentially being told I’m limited, bu”

“I am getting married in less than 4 weeks. Fiance and I have been engaged for a year and I started planning almost immediately after his proposal. So, this wedding has been on my mind for a long time, and it’s taking up a BIG portion of my time and energy. And, nobody cares (nor should they). Just this week my RSVP’s were due. So of course I had to chase down those last few stragglers. One of my cousins that I am super close with is not attending because she is choosing to go on a camping trip w”

“Gals, my fiancé and I are getting married in a few months on the beach. It will be just the two of us, as we didn’t want to have anyone at the actual ceremony (the wedding party itself will be held separately in our home country). We’re getting married on a small island, so it will truly be a proper beach wedding on a secluded sandy beach (not in Hawaii, obv, lol). Even though I don’t want anything too elaborate, I still want to have my hair and makeup done by professionals, and I’ll be wearing”

“Our venue and all the main vendors are booked and the wedding is next July. It feels like there’s nothing to do for a few months but nothing is actually planned - the vendors have the date but no actual instructions. I don’t want next year to feel really hectic and stressful but it feels like there’s nothing I can be doing ahead of time. Any advice or ideas? submitted by /u/alohaboyo [link] [comments]”