New Parents Struggle with Baby Health Concerns
Parents express anxieties and concerns regarding their babies' health, including rectal bleeding, spotting during pregnancy, low fetal femur percentile measurements, and unexplained cramping. Many are seeking reassurance and advice from other parents.
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“Hi all, FTM to a sweet little almost 12 week old. We will have visitors next month, both friends and family. How did you handle any requests for them to make sure they're up to date with everything including cov**/fl* and tdap? Important to add…”
“Hello! FTM mom of 4 weeks. My baby deals w trapped gas on the regular and constipation as of last night that caused her to cry a bunch & only a bath relieved her symptoms last night. She dealt with it one other night that I can think of. She ended up pooping this morning after her wake all by herself so it worked itself out but last night was rough We tried farting her last night which usually releases gas and poop however nothing came out Besides bicycle legs/the regular farting them, what”
“Hi! 👋 FTM of a week old newborn. Wondering if it would be ok if we go out to the mall this young? Doctor says not a good idea because of flu season. But I was thinking we could just cover her stroller or baby wear. I’m dying to get out and about! Thank you. ☺️ submitted by /u/Gloomy-Breakfast8474 [link] [comments]”
“Considering doing sneak peek around 7 weeks! I’ve read a ton of posts about it being wrong but I’m curious how many of those were ones done in the lab vs. at home lancet/arm poke tests. I have 2 boys at home so I’d only do the lab test. Anyone have experience getting a wrong result with that? Also I know it says accurate at 6 weeks, but is waiting 7 weeks sufficient? I’m doing NIPT regardless but I really want to find out gender earlier. submitted by /u/Inspiration-ant [link] [”
“Sorry if this is TMI, but I gave birth to our beautiful baby girl 6 days ago. This is our second daughter and after having a rocky BF relationship with our first, I feel more mentally and physically experienced this time around. however, as fate would have it, I developed two excruciatingly painful thrombosed hemorrohoid post-partum. Anytime I sit or lay on my side, I feel like someone is shoving a shard of glass up my anus (again sorry if TMI). the pain is so bad that even side laying position”
“My son was born 10 days ago. He has been pooping and peeing like a champ. Kept us up two nights in a row cuz he wouldn't sleep at night. Took him on a couple walks around the neighborhood. Tummy time on my chest every day and then I read him a book. He peed in my face and then in his own face while I was changing him this morning. My heart is so full. I don't think I ever want to go back from parental leave. submitted by /u/Anyun [link] [comments]”
“ftm to a beautiful 4.5 month old and maybe struggling with a bit of PPA but I’m so worried about her getting sick. My husband works full time and is constantly around large groups of people. He’s gotten sick once already a few weeks ago which we managed to avoid, but this morning he woke up with another sore throat 🙃 I know it’s inevitable and she will get sick eventually but I would like to avoid it as long as possible. Anyone have any tips on things to stock up on/ surface cleaners/ overall h”
“TMI!! i am 3 months pp and have noticed i have a really hard time going #2. i only go once a day when before pregnancy i was very regular and went 3 times a day. i have been incorporating more fiber into my diet but i feel like nothing helps! is this normal? does it ever go back to normal? i take probiotics every day and electrolytes. submitted by /u/Old_Life_7605 [link] [comments]”
“Hey everyone! I wanted to pick your brains. Has anyone else’s bowel movements synched with your baby’s? The last week when my baby poops I immediately have to go as well. I asked ChatGPT if that’s even possible and it said while there’s no scientific studies or proof why happens that it is reported by parents that it does indeed happen. I think it’s interesting lol. submitted by /u/Asleep_Ad3637 [link] [comments]”
“Hey everyone, FTM here, I have large breasts and am plus sized (Size 20i) and have a newborn that’s 4 weeks old today. I’ve been starting to go on walks, just to the park or places where there aren’t a lot of people, but I struggle because baby gets hungry and the only position Im able to actually do is the football hold with pillows underneath, which of course I can’t really do out so I then have to go home. I want to go to restaurants and places once she’s had her 6 week shots but I cannot for”
“I had my first bleed last week at 18w5d, and then again at 19w5d, and every night since the second (4 nights). We did tests and ultrasound in L&D (and MFM) and everything was negative, thankfully baby is healthy. They keep telling me there's nothing they can do and just to monitor and rest. Fine. I noticed a pattern where the bleeding and mild cramping ALWAYS happens >2 hours after I fall asleep at night. I side sleep on either side. I wake up, go pee, and it is a one time bleed then”
“Let me preface this with I have an ultrasound appointment tomorrow but I’ll have access to an OBGYN which I plan to ask about this to. But I’m 12 weeks today exactly FTM. Today I’ve had an all day headache. It started mid-day yesterday at work because I work amazon delivery in 100°+ weather and I hydrate as much as possible but sometimes the heat just gets to you. At work just felt gross. After work had a headache. Before bed headache went away but a bit after I woke up started again. I’ve taken”
“My 2 week old’s umbilical chord already fell off and we got cleared by the pediatrician to bathe him. Just wondering how often you bathe your newborn? My baby is usually sleeping if he’s not eating or fussy bc he’s hungry, his wake window is earlier in the day but we wanted to ideally do a bath before bedtime however not sure if it’s recommended to wake a baby up just for a bath. Thanks! submitted by /u/Pinkbean28 [link] [comments]”
“I had my first baby 17 months ago, and his arrival was pretty smooth I would say for a FTM. Water broke at 2AM at 37+4, made progress every cervical check, epidural, total labor time was 12 with 1 being pushing. Now this baby... has been giving me the wrap around. I'm currently 36 + 5, when this happened to me I was 36 + 4. The past 3 weeks I would say I've had for sure BH's, strong at some points but not more than just uncomfortable like a mild period cramp. Yesterday however, I sta”
“FTM over here with a newborn of 2 weeks. As we approach flu season, my husband and I will be getting flu shots. I don’t plan on going any large gatherings until 2 months with baby. For visiting families / friends - did you ask them to get flu shots? What about those like our nieces and nephews who are very young and in school. Any advice on setting boundaries would be helpful! submitted by /u/Twizzle_Rizzle [link] [comments]”
“I know I should talk with a pediatrician, but bc of labor day this hasnt been productive. When our son was first born, he pooped a lot. Every diaper had myconium. Hes now 4 days old and he hasnt pooped until 26 hours ago. In that last one he had two kind of poops the dark myconium and khaki colored poop. He seems to be eating fine and my wife is producing enough milk that she gets leaking. So I dont think hes not eating. Should we go to the ER? Ive seen other people say theyve had similar experi”
“I’m due in October & throughout the day I’ll get randomly have questions & I never know who to ask Please be kind if some of these questions are dumb lol Can your water break while you’re laying down or does it wait until you stand up again? Is it bad to take too many tums in one day? (I take them like m&ms because of this heartburn) What are some things that I really don’t need or will never use that I shouldn’t buy? What are the best/worst diapers in terms of blowouts & sensiti”
“I’m 8.6 weeks and notice my frequent urination has dropped off this past week (week 8). Is this normal I was always told it peaks around 8-10? I know everyone is different! My OB isn’t worried. Thank you submitted by /u/MoulinRoguee [link] [comments]”
“Any advice for a FTM about to enter into the notorious 6-8 week stretch?? submitted by /u/Relevant_Lynx_5117 [link] [comments]”
“FTM, currently 33 weeks. I see lots of posts here of people talking about early induction or asking their doctor to be induced. Is there a reason for this? Ideally I want my girl to come on her own terms, but I understand they do inductions for late arrivals. What are the non-medically necessary reasons people are receiving early inductions? I had never heard of this before and was just curious what I’m missing! submitted by /u/chanmanfriend [link] [comments]”
“38+5 and still have not lost my mucas plug. Starting to think i will go past my due date and i’m miserable. submitted by /u/yourneighborhoodcrow [link] [comments]”
“Hi there, FTM here. 5w3d and feeling pretty good outside of acid reflux, shitty sleep, and being winded after walking up the stairs. I've had some suuuuper light brown in some discharge the past few days/after I pee, but not every time. Called the doctor, they wanted to move up my appointment (it's Sept 21) but they literally have no other availability until October 5th, so obviously I'm keeping my original appointment. She told me it doesn't sound worrisome as there's no obv”
“My 2 month old sometimes gets backed up, doesn't poop for a day or two, and I can tell he's uncomfortable. I'm wondering if gas drops will help him go regularly. If so which ones to use and how often should I give him those? submitted by /u/dr_sm_a [link] [comments]”
“I’m 38 weeks tomorrow and this is going to be my first baby! I’m planning to do a natural birth (no epidural but will accept other meds) and I’m wondering what I should look out for! Tips or info on anything you can think of would be awesome! I already know about the benefits of walking and perineal massages so what are some other things you wish you knew? What about things to include in your birth plan? Thanks! submitted by /u/FemaleXEnigma [link] [comments]”
“Hi everyone! FTM mom here to a 7 moth old baby girl. Everything’s been going great, we are supposed to be leaving for a family trip tomorrow August 26. Yesterday, baby girl starts to get a runny nose and some sneezing. We monitor her and use the saline drops and nose sucker. Well, last night was terrible very roughy sleep for her and I just feel awful. She was up 3 times which isn’t normal for her and I know it’s from being stuffy. She’s not finishing a bottle now, and I’m thinking maybe we shou”
“I'm currently 10+5 with my first pregnancy. Last night I spontaneously started bleeding and passing small clots. I was probably panicking more than I'd like to admit but I immediately grabbed my husband and headed to the ER. After we got in the car and I was able to breathe a little I came back to some things I learned in this group. I genuinely want to thank those that have shared stories about their experiences and information that bleeding can be caused by multiple things. I think tha”
“Baby is almost 5 months old and had a bit of blood in the diaper/poop, it seemed to first appear around the time there was a stomach bug going around at the doctors and she got her first 💉 so we thought it might just be that, happened twice in the two weeks after. Then a few weeks nothing and it came back now with absolutely nothing we can pin it to. There’s nothing in the blood test or stool sample, so the doctor recommended to just start solids. Did anyone have a similar experience and did th”
“Her GP seemed concerned. But good old Google and the nurse hotline said it’s just a variation of normal as long as there arnt any other concerning features. Anyone else? submitted by /u/Psychological-Bag986 [link] [comments]”
“I am only 11 weeks, but yesterday I saw a couple with a cute newborn and started crying once I was out of their sight. Do you guys cry over silly things too? submitted by /u/DifficultyBig2280 [link] [comments]”
“Hi everyone looking for some advice and guidance! Im a FTF and my son is 8 weeks old. We struggled with gas pain from about 5 weeks onward. We had a couple days/week where we thought it was starting to improve but the last couple days his fussiness is getting worse. He also spits up A LOT, he is gaining weight very well and it was recommended my wife only feed him from one side instead of both to help with the spit up but now we aren’t sure if he is hungry.. he seems content when he is asleep an”
“I already contacted pediatrician and we are taking baby in in the morning but wondering if anyone’s babe had anything similar. I am just very worried. Today with a few diaper changes I notice bloody mucus in her stool. Just a few streaks. Has anyone had similar and baby was okay? She seems fine otherwise. She does get pretty gassy but overall and she happy healthy baby. I’ve read it could be CMPA. Sensitive to the formula she’s on etc. submitted by /u/mponesss [link] [comments]”
“Just want to preface that this post feels silly because I know its normal for babies to spit up in general, im just a FTM and anxious and trying to figure things out. My baby girl is 12 weeks now, and we’ve had a rough time from weeks 6-10. She has both silent reflux and CMPA, shes on similac alimentum, pepcid, and mylicon drops. Through all of that though, she was never big on spitting up. She would maybe spit up once a day and it was rarely a lot. The last 2 weeks she has been eating great, ev”
“I think i pooped a bit while being on last stage of labour & i feel really ashamed meeting my gynae after the birth submitted by /u/AnnualBarracuda867 [link] [comments]”
“FTM: Brought our bundle of joy home two days ago. He was born 5 days ago at 37 weeks due to gestational hypertension. Both of us are recovering and healthy. Literally the past 5 days have been the most beautiful thing I think I’ve ever experienced. My partner is doing amazing, always here if I need something. We are soaking this time in as a family of 3. He took a week off work. Problem is, I can’t stop crying. When I looked into it, the internet said “baby blues” Does anyone have experience wit”
“My LO is 12 weeks old and the last two days she has been pooping more than usual and there were a couple very little blood steaks in her last two poops.. I messaged the pediatrician but of course they stop messages at 12:30 and this happens at 12:45. All the pictures I’m seeing lead me to believe CMPA but I’ve been eating the same amount of dairy since I had her. I usually have greek yogurt with fruit, granola, and organic super seeds (chia, flaxseed meal and hulled hemp seed) for breakfast. The”
“I’m a FTM and after a lot of “is she okay? Is she okay?” the first thing I said, as they put her on my chest, was “she’s so chubby!!” submitted by /u/DishVarious8343 [link] [comments]”
“When our baby was 5 weeks, I saw a few streaks of blood in his stool. I went on a no dairy diet since then and saw a decrease in the blood. It is now almost hard to see and rarely shows up in the diaper. I caught the smallest spec in his diaper this morning (7.5 weeks now) but could be days without any. Has anyone else experienced this when allergy testing? Does the amount or frequency mean anything? I know eliminating blood completely is the goal but just wondering why the significant decrease.”
“Hi everyone- I am a FTM to an almost 4 month old and he has his 4 month checkup coming soon. We’ve seen his Ped twice, once for the two week checkup and once for the 2 month. And I’ve also messaged her twice about concerns I’ve had with my baby. She only responded to the first.. but they both were a while ago. I feel like she is nice but I don’t like her as a doctor. I feel like she is dismissive of all my concerns and constantly tells me everything is normal (which I understand very well might”
“Baby is almost 7 months old. She is healthy overall . However today she was pooping a lot and there was some blood like smear on the diaper. Baby in general goes to potty 3-4 times a day since starting solids. She has some redness around the area so diaper rash cream is being used. Peeled and mashed apple was given in the morning, that was digested long time ago and now at night there is some blood like smear..I'm worried and sleepless now. Please help!!!!! submitted by /u/Fragra”
“Hello! I’m a 38 yo FTM (husband is 46) who had my beautiful baby boy 2 weeks ago. I spent the first half of my pregnancy incredibly anxious and read way too much. Mostly science journal articles and data plus Reddit ( I don’t do social media other than Reddit) but even so, it was too much and just made me spiral. Seems like most of the amnio stories on here are negative and/or people share opinions rather than facts when giving advice, so i wanted to share my super positive elective amnio experi”
“Hi everyone! Im a bit worried about the abdomen measurement. I went to an appointment late at night because I thought i was leaking amniotic fluid (fortunately it wasn’t). However doc (some doc at night shift not my usual obgyn) did some brief measurements. At the time of the scan I was 15 weeks and 6 days. Head was measuring 16 weeks and 1 day but abdomen was measuring 15 weeks and 1 day. I immediately noticed (even though at that moment i wasnt aware of possible iugr) and asked the doc why is”
“Received some helpful advice on a recent post, so thought I would return the favor! Currently 29+5, my 28 week appointment which included the glucose screening and other routine lab work a week ago. Glucose ended up being within normal range fortunately. I dont think I would have done well with the 3 hour, but my other numbers, not so much. Lab results showed a Ferritin of 7, Hemoglobin of 9.1, low RBC, and low Hematocrit. I was diagnosed with iron deficiency anemia. Looking back, I think the sy”
“My son just reached a week old (yay!) And we've noticed small, tiny amounts on blood on his onesie from the umbilical cord site. He only likes to be on us chest to chest/ impromptu tummy time and will nap on us like that. Is there any correlation? I fear that letting him stay on mine or Hubby's chest like that is the reason behind the issue but he hates being on his back or side. submitted by /u/LittolAxolotl [link] [comments]”
“Hello all. Starting ti be a bit concerned about the fact that my 3week old baby did not have stool in the past 2 days. Some peaple say it's normal, but lately she is a bit more fussy, and crying more. She instantly calms down once she is held. Important to note that she is mix fed, meaning that is the breast milk was not enough for her, we supliment it with formula. Considering takinh her to a doctor. submitted by /u/Skardrow [link] [comments]”
“This post is mainly intended for discussion, but also let me me know if I should be concerned. He's showing no signs of discomfort and he is eating enough. My 12w old is currently on 16 days! submitted by /u/AdventurousOven2353 [link] [comments]”
“Hi all!!!!! Sorry if this is a bit rambling, but I’m 6 weeks pregnant and have been spotting this morning and I’m driving myself nuts. Is this normal? Should I go to the hospital? My doctor doesn’t have any appointment availability until August 11th😭😭😭 Does anyone on this sub have a story or something that can calm me down and help me feel better? submitted by /u/Dense_Palpitation586 [link] [comments]”
“I’ve been getting growth scans every few weeks because my baby is measuring big. At my 32-week scan he was measuring a little ahead, and my report said my placenta was Grade 3. I had another scan yesterday at 35 weeks, and now he’s measuring about 38 weeks and my placenta is still listed as Grade 3. I live in a really rural area with traveling OBs, and I messaged the current doctor asking about it but haven’t heard back yet. Would you travel to a bigger hospital for a second opinion, or am I ove”
“FTM to a 3 MO! Baby is suddenly not pooping daily and spitting up a lot after feeds! His feeding patterns also have changed but he seems active and happy when awake! Is it normal ? I seem to have some PPA because I am worrying about anything and everything related to him daily .. how did you manage your sanity postpartum that baby is okay and it’s just changes and normal baby stuff ? I feel like I cry daily! submitted by /u/NaDuPar [link] [comments]”
“Me and my wife have a 1 week old today and he hasn’t pooped for 4 days Drs and midwives have said it’s ok and to wait! He’s breastfed and is gain weight! Otherwise seems happy and seems to feed plenty too. Has anyone else been through this? submitted by /u/AnySpare3614 [link] [comments]”
“i have an appointment with a lactation consultant tomorrow and pediatrician on tuesday, just wanted some insight if this is too much foremilk poop? thanks so much! https://i.postimg.cc/FKJ5LbFk/IMG-5495.jpg submitted by /u/Honest-Yesterday-350 [link] [comments]”
“Hi all, I'll preface that we are seeing the pediatrician this week, so don't worry, we are consulting with a physician. But as a new parent, I'm a bit worried about some things my little guy is doing. He will be turning 6 months only next week. He used to coo back and forth with me, but does it much less now, and it takes a lot of effort. He also used to be content to sit in my lap and smile, coo, look at me, make eye contact, but doesn't like to do that anymore. I can get him to”
“Are there any anxious BF mothers that are counting the baby's diaper output throughout the day to see if the baby is having the appropriate amount everyday? My 9w baby is kind of spacing out feeds and I'm afraid he's not taking enough milk. It's too soon to see if his weight has plateaued, though so far he's doing great in terms of weight. I offer him very often the boob, he is only taking one side and that's stressing me, I would've expected to ask for both sides if”
“Hi, I’m a FTM of a 11 week old baby boy. Although I’m a doctor myself, I can’t help but worry over the LO at all times. Even the smallest of things makes me panic. Today his nose seems congested, with a few coughs, but he’s feeding well and playful. I’m so worried. Does this feeling ever go away? submitted by /u/Normal_Alps_5306 [link] [comments]”
“I'm a ftm currently 6 weeks from having my son and I am a little delirious, so please stick with me lol. Is it unhinged to keep a cheat sheet of sorts in the nursery while we (my husband and I) get used to being parents? Things like how often baby eats at what age, how many dirty diapers to expect in a day, signs of hunger, etc. would be on it. I always hear about instincts just kicking in, but pregnancy brain is really testing me these days. We plan on taking shifts, so I can see it being n”
“I’m a FTM to an 8 week old and things have been going rather great in my (uneducated & inexperienced) opinion. Baby boy was born 7lbs 2oz, dropped to 6lb 4oz but began gaining by our first pedes appointment 3 days pp. He cleared all his meconium the first night and really surprised me with how natural he took to it. However, I just would like to know if I’m possibly feeding too often. Sometimes he has pretty blatant cues, rooting and sucking on his arm and hand, sometimes even my husband’s n”
“Hi ladies, I am not looking for medical advice as I’ve already been to the emergency room yesterday and today and got seen. FTM, 25. I started having brown bleeding yesterday at 12w2d and a lot of it. It soaked my underwear but not a pad after I wore one. I see dark red blood at the end everytime I pee now and wipe but it doesn’t get on the pad. Ultrasound showed baby was perfectly fine. The doctor didn’t say anything else and said they can’t diagnose a subchorionic hematoma at the ER, but that”
“FTM IM 37+5 AND WOKE UP TO A LOW HANGIN BABY THIS MORNING!!!!!!!!!!! My due date is 7/29 What are things you guys didn't pack in your hospital bag but wish you did? How long after your baby dropped did you go into labor? (I know everyone is different and most FTM drop well before they deliver I'm just curious!) I haven't had the urge to nest until today because I've been so unbothered about when he's going to arrive that I think seeing my belly so low gave me a slight reality”