Wedding Planners Stress Over Guest Experience

“This is what my timeline is looking like right now. We have access to the venue from 12pm to 1am. Any advice or anything I’m missing? I’m doing this without a wedding planner so worried I’m just completely spacing on something. We’re not doing a garter toss so we’re not missing that. Any advice is welcome! submitted by /u/KindlemyAnxiety [link] [comments]”

“I’m planning a small girls-only bachelorette party separate from the joint bachelorette I’m having with my partner. I’m not extremely close with everyone attending, but they’re all people I really like, so I want it to feel thoughtful without going overboard or spending a ton. I have a few DIY ideas and would love opinions! Invitation: I want to digitally paint a simple postcard-style invitation in Procreate. My favorite idea so far is a minimal girls’-night/party illustration with the initials”

“Hi everyone, so my fiancé and I found our venue for our 2028 wedding but cannot decide on a date. We don’t have our heart set on anything, although my fiancé seems to like the idea of doing it Labor Day weekend (married on September 2nd 2028). I’m a little hesitant about that and am wondering if we should do June instead, but honestly just looking for feedback/advice on what people think! submitted by /u/Sv194 [link] [comments]”

“my fiancé and i are getting married about 40 ish minutes outside of duluth, mn. the area where the wedding venue is at is pretty rural, with no transportation available in the town. we’re trying to stay away from shuttle services (if possible), as it’s pretty expensive/out of our budget. does anyone have any suggestions/recommendations??? submitted by /u/Comfortable-Art-6877 [link] [comments]”

“We are hosting a wedding weekend on a property that’ll host 60 people. Not everyone is going to be staying on site, but it had space for all of our friends and immediate family. There are several houses, a pool and some outdoor activities on site and all guest guests will be coming in from out of town. Everyone lives around the country and on opposite coast so we just picked a location that we could drive to. The property is rented Friday afternoon through Monday (no bachelor or bachelorette par”

“We’re planning our wedding (29M 29F), and putting together some pros and cons for this specific and expensive venue. Put yourself in the shoes of a close friend of the bride and groom and any feedback is appreciated!! Pros: AirBnB literally on site night before the wedding AND night of 2, possibly 3 drink tickets, flat $8 charge per extra drink, bottles of wine are on the table Ceremony, cocktail hour, and reception are at the same place Child free wedding (can be a con depending on your perspec”

“So my wedding is taking place on September 26, 2027, out of town in the mountains for immediate family and the bridal party only, with a dinner to follow. Then, a bigger reception the weekend after on October 2, 2027 for 120 people, including those who came to the ceremony. I’m very type A, organized, love planning, and know what I want. My fiance is letting me do all the decor and such with little input because he trusts me and the style he wants is the style I want. The ceremony is going to be”

“Looking for input. My sister is having a destination wedding in Puerto Vallarta, and the entire wedding party and all guests are staying at the resort where the wedding is being held and where the room block is One bridesmaid is coming from Europe but doesn’t want to stay at the resort because she wants to make it a full-week vacation and stay somewhere else nearby. She also gets discounted or free standby flights, so getting to Mexico is much cheaper for her than it is for most people My sister”

“I just got engaged and I am going to look at venues next week. We are thinking early spring 2028, the latest it can be would be first week in April as a few of my bridesmaids will be in uni and uni exams tend to be in April so I don’t want to be on the way of that! And then you’re into GCSEs and A levels which my brothers will be sitting so it would be into July. Ideally we would go for 30/31st March as it would be £500 cheaper than April and I don’t think a week would make much difference in th”

“Hi! We’re getting married next summer. Our plans so far are welcome party in the private room of a restaurant the night before (5:30-7:30), we’ll be serving appetizers and some large format/family style dishes, we will have about 35 people there and an open bar. The next day, ceremony is at city hall at 3:30pm (we will be serving champagne and water for the ceremony) and will have live string musicians for the ceremony. We’re transporting all of our guest on trolleys to the dock (10 minutes away”

“My fiance and I live in a *very* remote area (3 hours from the nearest small city) and we just bought a house. Our guest list is only about 40 people, so I'm debating trying to do our reception in our backyard. Has anyone planned/attended/thrown a backyard wedding? Would you recommend it? What worked, what didn't? Thank you!! submitted by /u/Potatoes_r_round [link] [comments]”

“I told my friends about a month ago I like the idea of us going on a weekend trip for my bachelorette. Hearing and reading about all the nightmare stories about bachelorette trips gone wrong has me worried. I know it’s about having a great time, but there’s got to be a balance when it comes to honoring your friends/family for their time and money. To compound this situation, I’m neurodivergent, so I already struggle at times with knowing social expectations for specific scenarios like this. As w”

“Hi! Would love some input and feedback on the below around which venue you would choose based on different priorities and limitations I have two options for my wedding and I can’t figure out what makes more sense, going with the “easier” less exciting place where I wouldn’t have to sacrifice guest count, or the “ideal” place that I love a lot but would have to cut guest list and would be slightly concerned about rain plan. For context, I have a large family and friends from various stages of my”

“My fiancé hometown/family is on the west coast and mine is in the middle of the country. How can I plan a small wedding for everyone to get to? How do I pick a location? We both have grandparents who can't fly due their age and body wearing down but we want them with us at the wedding. We just want close friends and family as our guest. Any advice on how to do this small wedding for everyone? submitted by /u/According_Tea_5546 [link] [comments]”

“I’m getting married out of state. Our venue does not have a getting ready room since it’s a historical building. We rented an Airbnb for all the wedding party, so that’s where we’re staying. My question is, where does everyone get ready? The groomsman’s and bridesmaids can’t all get ready in the same house clearly. I really don’t want to rent a separate Airbnb for 2 additional nights to just get ready in. Anyone done something similar and come up with a better idea? Thank you! submitted by”

“For starters- I’m looking for optimism here for brides who had a slightly bigger wedding and or out of state wedding. We are having a destination reception in the US just from one coast to another, we already eloped a year ago and had the best time of our lives it was so much fun. I always DREAMED of having a wedding my husband and I LOVE parties and celebrations which is why we wanted to have a elopement about just US then a party later but we are now 20 days out and I’m having so much regret.”

“We’re trying to decide between a late February, March, or Memorial Day weekend wedding and I’d love some outside opinions! Late February is tempting because the venue would be about half the normal price, but it would only give us about 6 months to plan. I’m mostly worried about whether that’s enough notice for guests who would need to travel, plus the unpredictability of February weather. Also, with my job I can’t put in vacation weeks until April 2027. March seems like a good middle ground. Th”

“If you have a welcome party and rehearsal on Friday night and wedding on Saturday, did you arrive to your hotel Thursday night or just come in Friday morning? This question is more for people that didn’t have a completely local wedding and stayed at a hotel. Wondering if it is worth paying for an extra hotel night to come in Thursday night to get settled. The hotel is about a 1.5 hour drive from us. submitted by /u/lgebby [link] [comments]”

“hello! we have dealt with many unforeseen hurdles while planning our wedding but we have decided to have our reception at a family members house in LA. There is not a space at the house to host the ceremony but my dream is to have an outside garden ceremony. We have been trying to secure a date with Greystone Mansion but no luck yet. If anyone has an in or for some reason wants to sell their greystone booking for spring / summer next year PLEASE let me know! You would be making my dreams come tr”

“Colorado bride here! Guess I am just looking for some advice when it comes to balancing the vision of what you and your partner want for the wedding alongside trying to make it enjoyable and convenient for guests. We have almost 95% of our guest list coming from out of state and internationally, since we both moved to CO from our home state, and I find I am struggling a bit with trying to figure out how to have the dream mountain wedding in the state we have made our home, but also keeping it co”

“Hi everyone, just want to gather some opinions - My fiance and I are planning our wedding in our home state of PA, but we currently live in IN. We are having a very small wedding, only about 35 of our closest family and friends. However, after living in IN for almost 3 years, we have a a few friends in the area that we still would like to celebrate with. Our idea is to have a celebratory dinner/happy hour with all of them here in IN before the wedding, something where they can all come and celeb”

“My fiancé and I have realized that one of our biggest wedding-day anxieties isn’t really about logistics — it’s about our time and attention. We’re worried about being bombarded with people wanting individual photos, long conversations, pulling us aside, etc., and then realizing at the end of the night that we barely spent time with the people we were genuinely excited to have there. I’m especially thinking about the more peripheral guests — friends of our parents, people we haven’t seen in 10+”

“What would you pack in an “Emergencey kit” for a travel wedding weekend (as a bridesmaid)?? So for rehearsal dinner, day-of readying, wedding/reception, then morning brunch send-off. Our bride is a little more hands-off, but does get overwhelmed (and isn’t as bold/confrontational…so I have got her back, there!!). I am checking a suitcase primarily for this “kit” so nothing is too much Thank you in advance!!!! submitted by /u/cajunshrimp4 [link] [comments]”

“Does anyone in this group have experience with using your land as an event venue? We are considering building a large barn on one of our mountain peaks to use exclusively for weddings, reunions, quinceñeras, etc. We live in CA, in wine country (30 min north of Paso Robles for anyone familiar with the area) so there are lots of weddings here. Ours would be more ranch-style since we will have a working cattle ranch as well. We would provide bathrooms/showers, a full kitchen, and a large indoor/out”

“We were originally planning on having a (2hr drive) destination beach wedding, with beachy cocktail attire. But we decided we want to save some money and make it less of a hassle on our guests and have it closer to home, possibly using a family member’s yard (they have a very large lawn with acres of land and Mountain Views) We would put up a tent and rent a bathroom trailer. We’ve been going to church more and more and are considering having a Catholic ceremony in my home parish (my partner was”

“Hi all! I need help deciding which room to choose for our welcome dinner. I've officially entered the overthinking stage, so input from internet strangers would be much appreciated! My fiancé and I are having a destination wedding in New Orleans on March 18, 2027, and we're hosting a seated welcome dinner for guests the night before. We've invited 67 people total , but RSVPs aren't due for a while, so we're having to make our best guess at final attendance. We've narrowed”

“We are currently in the throes of planning our microwedding (30-40 people) and have a few options for venues. One option that will likely save us money would be to use a venue for our ceremony (the only available time slots are 8am or 10am) and then have our reception later in the evening for dinner and drinks, maybe starting at 3pm. There would be about 30 mins of travel between venues, which would allow lots of time for checking into hotels if using, getting lunch, etc. This venue for our cere”

“Our wedding venue is going to be around 2 hours away from most of our guests, and some will need to travel by plane (probably around 10–15 people). We’re expecting around 60–80 guests. No matter where we have the wedding, travelling is going to be inevitable since everyone is pretty scattered. We’ll be having the ceremony and reception in the same venue, and I’ve decided that there won’t be any room flipping. Guests will basically stay in the same seats for the ceremony and then continue into th”

“My fiancé (29M) and I (28F) got engaged a few months ago, but had been talking in detail about our wedding plans for months prior, which is to have a micro wedding (~25 people) at a state park near home. I don’t enjoy weddings and have never dreamed of a big day. I honestly wanted to elope, but my fiancé and I came to an agreement to have immediate family there. My mom was not surprised but was hurt about our plans, even though we plan to include parents, siblings, and grandparents, just not all”

“My fiancé and I are having a semi-private ceremony due to the limited seating capacity at our ceremony site, as well as wanting to have a more intimate moment. Our cocktail hour will then follow, allowing our additional guests to arrive and join us for cocktails, dinner, and the reception. The difference in guest counts between the ceremony and the rest of the celebration will be roughly 80 people. I’m currently working on our wedding website and wondering what the best way to address this would”

“My wedding is set for June of 2027. It has been a dream planning it so far with easy vendors in my area as well as my dream location/scenery. The biggest issue I’m mentally struggling with - out of 50 guests, my guest list will comprise of 6. Unfortunately there are several issues within my extended family so I chose peace by going no-contact in 2024 after a life of being treated as the black sheep for no reason other than being shy and introverted, the opposite of the extended family. With this”

“I feel like I’m being very nit-picky since the venue is great on the inside, but it’s in an area with really rough vibes. The attached hotel is very unique and fun but has bad reviews. I just feel like our guests will be like “where the hell are we” when they drive up. Anyone else go through this? What did you end up deciding? submitted by /u/Immediate-Amount3587 [link] [comments]”

“Hi! I will be a 2027/2028 bride and I am trying to get a list of venues to tour. I’m always afraid of weather being interesting and can change frequently. I would love an outdoor wedding but I want the option in case things go wrong, for it to be changed inside or something on side to have an inside option. Or even like outdoor wedding and inside reception where guests can go outside and walk around if they would like to. And if weather goes bad, move the reception tables aside for a ceremony 😂”

“So im pretty stressed out about being the MOH in my bffs upcoming wedding next october. The idea of an overnight weekend , 8.5hr drive away for bachelorette is really hard. At the time i will be about 4 months PP with my 3rd child..... I also havent told anyone that im pregnant. I know the right thing to do is just talk to her and be honest and comforting. But im just scared of the back lash to be honest. I had brought up the idea that when the wedding was, was about the time we had always wante”

“My wedding was yesterday and after 1.5 years of planning, I want to share with future brides that most of the things you’re stressing about will truly not matter in the moment! We had to last minute switch to our rain plan, and weather was honestly the most stressful thing out of anything. But all the little decor pieces, table cloths, everything, even the florals, things I spent MONTHS deciding on, I didn’t even see half of it hahahah! The space looked beautiful, I married my best friend, drank”

“My fiancé (28M) and me (31F) are in the process of looking at venues for a possible late summer/autumn wedding in 2027. It is going to be a small wedding (between 30-40 people). We think we found a nice venue, that we can rent exclusively for our wedding. The problem now is about the money. My fiancé and I are in the fortunate situation that we can pay for the whole wedding ourselves including accomodations and travel for family coming from over seas. However, after discussing the idea with the”

“I need some advice! My fiancé and I are getting married in two months on a small island on Lake Superior. We are having a small wedding with 23 guests (our immediate families and closest friends) and almost everyone is staying at the venue, which is a giant cabin, for the wedding weekend. It’s going to be relatively casual, with the ceremony in the backyard, dinner in the gazebo, and the reception in the backyard/main floor of cabin. Where I need advice is with our invites: we haven’t sent them”

“I’m the MOH in my best friends wedding one month before mine. What’s something special to do for them on their big day? I live far and want to do the most special thing I can for her. Any advice? submitted by /u/Helpful-Armadillo503 [link] [comments]”

“Hi, My dream wedding is to have a garden theme outdoors for the reception (fall in the south). However, doing so would cut music at 10pm since it is a residential area. It isn’t the worst thing but I know my guests love to dance, as do I! 4:30pm ceremony 5:00pm cocktail hour (with live painting and huge charcuterie board) 6:00pm dinner starts/first dances/quick speeches 7:15pm dinner wraps up/cake cutting 7:30pm dance starts 9:30pm last call open bar (ends at 10pm) 10:00pm music must turn off 10”

“Hi all. I posted yesterday about a situation with the resort we are using for our destination wedding in about two months. The short story is that the hotel is completely booked up for the first night of our room block (the night before the wedding), so a good handful of my guests (about twenty or possibly more including the officiant, maid of honor, and several bridesmaids and groomsmen and older family members) may not able to stay there for the first night. I am working on solutions with my w”

“Hey fellow brides! I am getting married next month (really weird to type out) and I am having a welcome party the night before. This will take place right after our rehearsal dinner. All wedding guests are invited to the welcome party. I will have an open bar (minus liquor), cornhole, golf cornhole, and cupcakes. Not serving food as the party starts at 8:00 and the rehearsal crew would have just had dinner. Anything else that would make this more fun? Hoping everyone has a good time. What's”

“Getting married May 2027 — registry office ceremony with 24 of us, then moving to a small restaurant we've hired exclusively (about 25 mins away) where another 14 guests join at 5pm for drinks. ~38 total. Day so far: a chilled sax for the 2hr drinks reception/garden party (think Ibiza sundowner and we will be there the whole time (not running away for photos) a close-up magician, canapés - Then a sharing-plate dinner at 7 (charcuterie boards, sharing boards), my Dad's speech plus a few w”

“Hi there, I’m getting married this September (eek) in the southern LA area and am realizing that I need one person to help me with 3-5 tasks throughout the 2 hours we are there including: setting up my welcome sign, moving my floral pieces to the car following the ceremony, etc. I don’t need a coordinator, I really need someone who is able to do small tasks like this that I outline ahead of time. We are only in the venue for 2 hours (it’s a ceremony only package and truly a microwedding 13 peopl”

“I messed up. Put on our wedding site that we would be having a "welcome gathering" on the Friday night before our wedding. I had spoken to a place and had a verbal agreement beforehand, but when we asked people if they would attend (non-commital), the headcount exceeded what that venue would hold. We're looking for another venue now, but it's way more expensive than we were intending. How bad is it to cancel the Friday welcome gathering two months before the wedding? I feel awf”

“I’m officially 59 days away from my wedding , and I’m starting to panic. For the past two weeks, I’ve been trying to get in touch with my venue owner. I’ve called multiple times, left voicemails, sent emails, and even drove to the venue in person, but I haven’t been able to reach anyone. She’s the owner, so there isn’t anyone else I can contact. The venue doesn’t have an office that’s staffed unless there’s an event happening, so I haven’t been able to speak with anyone. Our final payment was su”

“Hi! My fiance and I just locked in a venue for June 2028 (we were in love with it and they didn't have much availability left in 2027). I was thinking of creating a fun, easy graphic on Canva that showcased the date & location (it's a 2 hr drive out of town for most) to send to people who I am 100% certain will be invited. Has anyone done this before for a long engagement? All I see is that people will forget and/or it makes no sense. Curious to hear what people did in similar situat”

“Hi! Midwest couple here, working on finalizing things for a wedding at the end of next summer. We have our venues picked out for our ceremony and reception. Wedding will be on a Saturday. The venues are literally across the street from each other in a downtown area (maybe a 5 minute walk because traffic crossings?) so travel time isn’t really an issue. Venue 1 for the Ceremony we will have access to from 9am-5pm for one flat fee. Venue 2 for the Reception we have booked hourly from 4pm-12am. We’”

“Hi there! 2027 bride and groom here and we need some help with choosing a venue. We will just state our opinions and facts about the 2 venues and leave it there for everyone to help us make a choice. Choice 1: Practical Patty - This venue is the practical choice as it is all inclusive and is a traditional wedding venue - Been in the business for some time has lots of reviews and all very positive - Has more character than other venues we've seen but still pretty much just a box - We are havi”

“Going on a bachelorette trip soon and am not as well-versed in this stuff as I’m just now starting to enter the phase of life where everyone is getting married. I really want to make her trip special for her and am curious to know if there are things someone or people did for you during your bachelorette or general wedding era that made you feel so special. submitted by /u/DonutNo8454 [link] [comments]”

“Has anyone here gotten married on a Monday? If so, how was your guest count? Did most of your guests still come, and did people end up leaving really early because it was a weekday? I’d love to hear your experience! submitted by /u/Sea_Moose7736 [link] [comments]”

“My wedding is in 2 weeks (!!!) and it is at an outdoor venue in Northern California so it will be a dry and hot event. Looking to see if anyone has had experience with renting misting fans or evaporative coolers to keep guests cool. I worry that with the misting fans it could ruin guests’ makeup/hair. Considering evaporative coolers but I worry it might not be effective or would be too loud. submitted by /u/Few-Palpitation-2272 [link] [comments]”

“Hey there! Does anyone have any good Bach destinations for a large group in July? Most of us are coming from NY. Looking for somewhere we can all stay in a house together. Ideally some outdoor activities (whether that be beach, boat, a small hike) and some going out. Want to avoid Cape May Saratoga springs Charleston. Thanks so much! submitted by /u/Sensitive-Stable-671 [link] [comments]”

“Thinking about having our small, family only wedding on November 25th (day before) or November 28th (Saturday after) Thanksgiving this year. Yay or nay? Important details: ~35 guests that would include only our parents, siblings, their spouses & children. Small ceremony with dinner at a local steakhouse. 3 of our siblings would be traveling from 2-4 hours away…but generally come into town for Thanksgiving anyway. I guess I’m worried this will be a huge inconvenience for families with small k”

“My fiancé and I found what feels like the perfect wedding venue, but there’s one major catch. It’s a waterfront restaurant in northern Wisconsin about 2.5 hours from the Twin Cities. My family has been going there since I was 2, my parents now live there full-time, and I’ve been bringing my fiancé there for the last five years. It’s become a really special place for both of us. I’ve researched 30+ venues , we’ve been to 14 tours, and I care a lot about guest experience. After attending 11 weddin”

“I’m starting to plan my wedding for next year without a classic dinner. My plan is to rent out a really cute wine garden/piano bar where we live for 65-75 family and friends. I don’t want to have a ceremony (courthouse probably with his parents) so the vibe would be more “cocktail/engagement party.” I envision cocktails, mingling, lighter passed apps when guest arrive. After everyone is there, I’d like our entrance to be announced and go into our first dance. Then kick off the evening with a qui”

“Hello! My fiancé and I have been looking for a venue in the USA that we can both be married in and have our wedding guests stay in (this is a small wedding as we are having a reception in my home state). We don’t like the idea of a big hotel and are more thinking along the lines of a mansion or villa with beautiful scenery. We had looked at the website WedStay and then found out it’s kind of a scam so wanted to look elsewhere. We want a beautiful view (forest, mountains, or ocean) and also would”

“Random pinterest pic Hello, internet strangers. I’d like to know your opinion on having the ceremony and the dinner in the same space. I’ve found the prettiest venue at a great price, but the layout is similar to the one in the image, and I’m not sure if it’s comfortable or if it works well. Has anyone had a wedding like this? How did it go? *sorry if may sound weird, english is not my first language submitted by /u/sommelierdefritura [link] [comments]”

“We are having a 5 hour event (5-10 pm) and 6 hour photography coverage. I have been thinking that we should do a first look and get couple photos as well as family photos before the ceremony (the hour before), and then we can actually enjoy cocktail hour with our guests. My fiancé thinks that our “aisle moment” may be ruined/not as impactful. He may be right! I have no idea! What did you guys do? And if you could go back, would you do the same thing? What are the pros and cons of a first look vs”

“Hey everyone! My friend gave me a save the date for her out of town wedding a few months ago, that should be in October. She told me she’d be mailing an invite to my house in June. It’s now the end of July and I haven’t received anything. We’re getting close to October (and I’m a planner), so I want to book a hotel for the weekend there but I’m starting to wonder if I’m just not invited anymore… is it weird for me to reach out and ask? I did receive a save the date… but I know her venue has a st”