Children throw tantrums lasting over 50 minutes

“My 11 month old is just the biggest crier in my opinion. And the weird part is that I’m the only one who sees it. He had colic from 0-3 months and it did eventually fade which the knowledge of an End Point helped me get through it. I went back to work part time at 4months pp. I work three days a week still. Things were a bit better from 6-9months he was excited to learn to pull to stand and that occupied his attention more so. Still some tears here and there but usually super fixable and I like”

“I've been in a down headspace with work and personal life, so idk if I'm catastrophizing this issue. I received a call from my child's school today that he was in a physical altercation with a young lady during recess. It's very bizarre for him, as he is a really gentle kid and just this past month, received a positive behavior referral for being kind to classmates. Long story shot, he was "annoyed" by the screaming she was doing during recess and he grabbed her collar.”

“SOS. My 4 year old started preschool in September and we are going through it with sickness. This is my and my 7 month old's second sickness in 4 weeks. My 4 year old is on her 3rd illness. Anyway, it's been 7 days now of a cold and cough and I'm losing my mind. I've been up since 4am because I woke up choking on drainage and now can't stop coughing & blowing my nose. I disrupt my baby's sleep coughing. I'm totally miserable. Other than nutritious foods, does anyo”

“My 13 month old is very hard work. She whines and screeches all day long and then she’s up screaming in the middle of the night disrupting the whole house and making our lives miserable. I’m so utterly exhausted. There is just no let up at all, constant chores, constant caring for her every need and all she does is whine and screech. My 5 year old is luck if he gets a look in and I’m constantly irritated and near to spiralling all day every day. We both work full time and our jobs are very deman”

“my kid started kindergarten this fall. ever since, it’s like a switch flipped. he is argumentative over everything (i mean it, EVERYTHING!), and the smallest corrections to his behavior result in huge breakdowns. or, ill tell him something like, ‘no, we’re not playing that game today,’ and he’ll break down and cry, stomp, and get so upset for 20-30 minutes. i try not to react, i stay neutral & repeat my original statement, or remind him that his attitude is exactly why we aren’t getting to d”

“I used to get anxiety attacks pretty often and they went away for about 5 or so years before having a kid. Now they've ramped up again. Not quite as bad but still just spikes of anxiety that leave me immediately feeling like my whole body is tired/wants to go limp/I feel in a daze. Example is when I was just vacuuming and every like 10 seconds my toddler would turn off the vacuum, press the button to retract the cord, or unplug it from the wall. Other times it goes back to just normal anxiet”

“For some reason my wonderful 6.5 year old daughter has started really hating getting up and going to school. There’s been a few instances in the past about not wanting to go to school but never anything that lasted longer than a day or 2. But for the last few weeks now she’s a pain to get up in the morning, and just really doesn’t want to go. I put my detective hat on and did some digging around school and anything going on. I’m as confident as a parent can be that there’s nothing going on there”

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“Let first start with I love my son with all my soul. But my son just turned 1 and for the last 4 or so months, this boy has been GUT WRENCHING SCREAMING. And I mean eardrum rattling!! He is not crying or upset at all, he simply just likes to scream. I completely understand he is finding his voice and he likes how it sounds because he’ll even laugh afterwards but oh my words, it’s so annoying at this point. Sue me, I am mother annoyed with her sons high pitched screaming that he does for no reaso”

“Long time lurker, first time poster looking for advice and/or validation. My daughter is generally lovely and a smartie fartie, but we have recently had a rash of open defiance that has left me baffled. To me there is a big distinction between a flipped lid (being upset to the point of a tantrum about something like being told no, or running out of a favorite snack) and defiance, with defiance being more along the lines of, "I won't do that." Lately it seems like she won't want”

“Hey dads. He’s the TLDR - I love my kids but I feel like I’m just repeating my childhood with my oldest. He’s a high energy and highly emotive kid and it gets me super fired up in the same way I probably did as a kid with my parents. Like my main memories of my childhood are my parents yelling at me (to be clear I had a good childhood but I think I was just a bit of a crazy kid that was super sensitive). I’m so afraid I’m doing the same thing to my oldest, who is mid way through 4. Every single”

“I am really struggling to stay calm and model emotional regulation and compassion for my extremely difficult 5 year old. He is defiant across contexts. There are ok moments but no good days. I know parent training would help but we don’t have the time or money right now. Can someone tell me the top things to keep in mind to minimize damage to him and our relationship as we get through this period? Assuming eventually it will pass. submitted by /u/No-Specialist-503 [link] [comme”

“Writing this as I've been bawling for last 30 minutes genuinely wondering how do other moms do it? How do you wake up everyday energetic for your kid? I have been dreading being alone with my 2 years old because meals are a struggle, and leaving the house takes 20 minutes of prep and I'm just drained all day. What are some things that really work for you? submitted by /u/Breathe-in-peace [link] [comments]”

“Right now, parenting just isn’t fun. Our five-year-old is extremely defiant, and almost everything is a struggle — getting dressed, eating, going to the toilet, brushing his teeth, going to bed. We have to turn almost everything into a game just to stop him from digging his heels in. At the same time, our 1.5-year-old is incredibly whiny, which is mentally exhausting. Our entire days revolve around keeping them happy, and we barely get any time to ourselves because it’s too difficult to be alone”

“So my 5 year old whenever faced with a minor inconvenience (hotdog bun breaking open or messing up a writing assignment and having to erase a word to redo it) throws a complete shit fit starts crying and talking about how it’s the worst day of his life and nothing else comes close. What do I do about this? When I talk to him about it he is pretty grounded on the negativity of it and won’t accept anything that isn’t straight agreement that this in intact the worst thing to ever happen. subm”

“We read 1-2-3 Magic and are trying to implement a slightly less authoritarian version of it. (The book has a lot about punishing kids for talking back or questioning the parent, which I’m not crazy about. We are only trying to address genuinely mean or harmful behaviors.) My question is about the time-out component of it. For parents who use time-outs. How do you deal with your kids having extreme reactions to being punished? I’m talking sobbing, screaming, thrashing on the ground, hyperventilat”

“In the span of an hour this morning, I had to negotiate a highly complex, hostage-style peace treaty with my young daughter because I handed her the "wrong" color breakfast bowl, and then immediately try to decode a single, low-frequency grunt from my 15-year-old son to figure out if he was awake. ​It is wild how you have to constantly switch between two entirely different dimensions of fatherhood. To one kid, you are the absolute center of the universe (and occasionally the ultimate v”

“Do your kids tell you they hate you when they’re upset, dysregulated, etc? Or worse use foul language and derogatory name calling when they’re upset? If so what are their ages, gender, and some of the scenarios that trigger it? submitted by /u/Mindless-Repeat752 [link] [comments]”

“My 4.5 year old has started waking up in the middle of the night that’s one issue but the next is when she is waking us she’s ANGRY. Kicking and punching the air and making angry grunting noises refuses to talk and tell me what’s wrong for several minutes till she finally makes up a reason. Anyone else dealt with this I don’t know what to do but a screaming 4 year old at 2am is horrible. submitted by /u/Serialstresser [link] [comments]”

“By tantrum, I mean a screaming/crying fit because they aren't getting their way. At what age should they stop? And at what point should you start reaching out about them? submitted by /u/whimsicalsunshiine [link] [comments]”

“I feel like I’m at my breaking point lately. I’m snapping so easily, I have no patience, and I’m just… unhappy. My one‑year‑old has started throwing fits, and it feels like half the day is spent with him crying or screaming. It wears me down. My hair has changed so much since having him. It used to be curly, and now it’s wavy, frizzy, and falling out in handfuls. Cutting it short was a mistake, and I don’t even know how to make it look decent anymore. I can’t style it anyway. The second I go int”

“I’m at an all time low. My son turned 1 a few weeks ago, but this all started around 11 months. He is discontent all the time. Fussing constantly. I pick up up, he squirms and dives at everything making it impossible to do anything. I put him down, he screams. He gets into something he shouldn’t and I redirect,instant tantrum. He is only content when he is actively being entertained, ideally outside of the house. But of course that isn’t always possible. His eating and sleep are both worse than”

“My son just turned 1 on 9/5 and I feel like after he turned 1, a switch flipped and he went from this cool chill baby to mister cranky butt overnight. Playing with toys? Never heard of it. Everything gets thrown across the room. And not just tossed. Kid has an arm on him. If it’s not thrown, he just smacks everything around with his arms. Sit and play? Nah. We want to stand and use mom and dad as a jungle gym. All. Day. Long. Food? Absolutely not. Food gets thrown on the floor or splattered on t”

“My daughter is 17 months old and I’m a SAHM. We’re expats because of my husband’s job, which means I basically have no village here, no family nearby and very few people I can rely on. We live in a European city and I enrolled my daughter in kindergarten/daycare about three weeks ago. The kindergartens here are quite different from what I’m used to back home. They’re smaller and not as outdoorsy, but it is what it is. The problem is that my daughter absolutely HATES being there. They have a four”

“They doesn't want to go outside because "i don't want to" and also "idgaf", and i have to struggle for 30 min to go outside a saturday when there is a great weather. They won't clean their room because "i don't care to sleep in a messy room, it doesn't bother me, and i don't want to clean" I tried to explain that we don't always do what we wants, then threat them (but guess what... they don't give a damn about it) to ground them from”

“Okay friends, this is a long one. I’m not sure if I’m looking for help, ideas, validation, or maybe just plain solidarity lol. My daughter has been so, so, SO hard lately. She has been feisty, strong-willed, opinionated, and full of personality since the moment she was born, but recently we’ve reached a whole new level. She refuses to listen, laughs in our faces when we correct her, yells, whines over EVERYTHING, cries over everything, etc. It feels like every single thing has become a battle. A”

“Uh. I feel like shit. I screamed at my 4 year old this evening. There’s been a pattern of him not listening and every evening is a battle to put pjs on. After 45 minutes of threatening, no this, no that…if you don’t put them on…. I just lost it and screamed so loud “PUT YOUR PYJAMAS ON” and I frightened him. How do I do better? submitted by /u/Tricky-Price-5773 [link] [comments]”

“So we have known since the first day one of the kids in his class had some issues. First day he screamed all day long. And son has been saying the kid is in the class less and less which we have been happy about because obviously a kid screaming gives everyone anxiety and makes it harder to learn. But today he hit us with the fact that the kid will sometimes throw A FREAKING CHAIR and that they have a whole drill for it where all the kids run over to the play area to hide! WTF are we supposed to”

“That's the response I got to a toddler screaming for fun (not because he's hurt or needs anything, it's quite obviously a for fun scream) as early as 6:30AM daily. I've heard the dad screaming back, like it's a fucking game. This must be happening while they get ready for work because the mom and kids drive dad to work. I don't have to be up til 730-8 so I'm losing an hour of sleep daily and being woken up that way just straight up pisses me off. And their response is”

“I haven't posted to this sub before, but boys I'm scraping the bottom of the barrel for any support. I can not express how much hell I have been through this past month. My kid has hit his terrible twos, work has been absolutely soul crushing, money is tight, my wife and I have drifted apart, I've worked so FUCKING HARD to try to have a normal life, not an extravagant one. Little picket fence house with all that shit. But at this moment in time, it feels like I'm under attack fro”

“My 4 yo girl is extremely smart. But ever since she was a tiny toddler, whenever she can’t do something or gets something wrong she gets extremely upset and shuts down. For example if I show her how to draw a heart and hers doesn’t look like mine, she gets upset. If she’s practicing writing by tracing (her idea, not mine) and gets even a little bit out of the line she gets upset and doesn’t want go do it. Of course we have been working on it and I always tell her things like “It’s ok go make mis”

“Hello ! I have made a post previously and just wanted a bit more advice… I don’t know. I feel like a completely and utter failure as a parent. I’m at a loss and just not sure what to do. Our son is 10m old now, and has been on similac alimentum his whole life since a newborn. He Had severe acid reflux and colic so it helped a little. Anyways, he is still mostly just wanting the bottle / not taking regular food. He does well with purées when he’s in a good mood, but overall gets very pissed about”

“I can barely even describe and I've posted before but don't think I explained the extent of our son's behavior. Wakes up and screeches, first thing he does, followed by strings of made up words shouted. If he's up before he and my wife he will climb on us, but not for a cuddle, he'll try to hurt us, telling him to stop will only make him do it more, laughing manically. He'll start winding his little sister up straight away and hitting her when he thinks noone is looking.”

“Our younger daughter has a late birthday (July), and she started Kindergarten having just turned 5 last year. Before Kindergarten, she was already having behavioral issues in pre-k and definitely displayed an emotional immaturity that her older sister did not at that age. After several weeks of problematic behavior in Kindergarten, we got her assessed by a child psychologist. The diagnosis was ADHD along with an emotional dysregulation disorder. We've put her on two medications and it's”

“My girls are 5 & 7. Lately I find them completely out of control. They just do not listen. We will repeat ourselves 5 times and it’s like they don’t even hear us - or worse, they’re like “no I’m not doing that.” And it’s not like the TV is on, they are just busy playing with eachother or acting crazy and no one will listen to us. This leads us to raise our voices. It seems like only when we are borderline yelling do they do what we ask. It’s maddening. Lately we are just losing it and it fee”

“I'm at my wits end with this kid. It's now Thursday and he quite literally just scream cries all day now. Nothing comforts him. Not even a treat he likes. Won't play, just lays on the floor screaming. He sleeps plenty, goes to bed at 8 wakes up at 7 and goes right back to screaming. I have to drop him off at daycare and I just know when we pick him up it will be like this again. submitted by /u/Doomstar32 [link] [comments]”

“My son missed the first two week of kindergarten because he was sick. I feel so bad. He only attended one day and it was so hard, screaming crying and wont go in. No one was crying except for my son, it felt like everyone was looking at us. He was crying the whole time he was there it was really bad. He got sick again so he basically missed the first two weeks and only attended one day. I can’t help but feel like we are behind 😭 all kids are settled in expect my child he will probably be crying”

“Hey everyone. I’ve got an entire house of neurodivergent people. There’s a lot of chaos and there are many times my kids don’t get along. My 7 year old screams anytime someone tries to stop him from doing something or if they react to something he did or if they just mess with him to mess with him. For instance : he’ll steal a toy, older brother will grab him to get it back and he’ll scream. I can not deal with the screaming. It’s so shrill and high pitched and completely overloads my nervous sy”

“I guess I'm just looking for some validation and to know if this is normal. My daughter will be 6 in a few months. She just started kindergarten so I know it will take time to adjust. But she's adjusting way worse than I expected. She absolutely loved preschool so this is all new territory for me. She has been crying and panicking every night and begs to not go back. Some of her worries I know are just adjusting but some genuinely concern me. She was afraid to use the bathroom. I emailed”

“I have twin 2 year olds that have been having huge meltdowns after nap for months. It’s getting worse. They wake up in tears, don't want any comforting, and scream-cry for between 20 to 90 minutes every day. We have tried offering a snack, starting nap later, starting nap earlier, ending nap earlier, ending nap later, having them share a bed, having them sleep separately, waking them up very gently and slowly, waking them up quick.... no matter what, it's a disaster. Doctor says she does”

“My 4 yo daughter is having an incredibly hard time with change to the point where a slight change will bring her to her knees and make her cry. A few examples below: I have been buying some new furniture. If she comes home and sees that a chair is not in the same place, she will cry and get really nervous. She asks us to put everything back to the way it was last year and to get rid of furniture. I recently had to take my car into service and they gave me a loaner vehicle. I picked her up from d”

“My oldest is 4F (I also have a 2F and a 3monthsM), and she started full-day pre-k about a month ago. Around the same time, her occasional (age-appropriate) tantrums turned into full-blown meltdowns, and they seem to be getting worse instead of better. What used to be whining, crying, and foot stomping is now screaming at the top of her lungs, throwing things, hitting, kicking, biting, spitting, and name-calling. She has no regard for her own safety during these meltdowns, and while she's nev”

“I feel so guilty right now. We have a 6 week old newborn and a very high energy and loud almost 5 year old. The 5 year old has been challenging since she turned about 4. Just huge emotions, battling for control, no impulse control and very short temper. It has gotten a lot better the past few months but it still pops up, especially when she’s tired. She has nothing but amazing reports from school but then she gets home and falls apart. This weekend I have felt so guilty about being overstimulate”

“My 8m is SUPER stubborn. She will cry if she doesn't get what she wants. Now she has started to fake cough as well 😭 For context we believe in gentle, not permissive, parenting. There will be no yelling in this house. I am a SAHM and with her 24/7. We never let her cry it out, at most, she cries a little until I finish using the bathroom for example (the door would be open and she would be in a travel cot seeing me.. she is always with someone, she is always aware someone is there even if I”

“Two kids, 5 and 9. Mostly posting about my 9 year old boy. Mornings are a battle. I try to get him moving outside first thing, healthy breakfast, but eating is mouthful by mouthful with constant prompting. End result is a mad dash to get out the door on time every single day. Evenings are the same. Dinner takes 45 minutes minimum for a small portion, then he’s hungry right before bed, can’t sleep, and I get zero time to unwind before the whole thing starts again. I love my kids. I get that this”

“Hi all, I'll keep it short. My 4 year old is having a horrible time being told no. For the last few weeks she has started to have tantrums that last over an hour. During these she will get violent and attempt to scratch, pinch, and bite me. I have tried everything I can think of. Physically holding their arms whilst telling them they cant hurt me, this only seems to enrage them more and can go on for 10 minutes before I stop because I worry they are going to injure themselves with all their”

“When my son is extremely tired and/or hungry he turns into a different person. He says the craziest things like “you hate me. You wish I were dead. You don’t like me.” Neither me or his dad have ever said anything like that to each other or to him or to ourselves. I do not know where it comes from or where he even learned these concepts. I’ve asked him about it when he’s more regulated and he’ll say “that’s just how it feels when I’m tired.” He’s normally inquisitive and energetic and sweet so t”

“Kids are boy 7 and girl 5 and I swear all they do at the moment is fight, and in turn all I do is shout. I'm exhausted. I know it's not helped by the summer holidays (we're UK) - I think they're just getting on eachothers nerves and we've all just spent a bit too much time together. I think back to school will help, but my god how do people cope with the constant fighting/arguing/bickering?! submitted by /u/bbylats [link] [comments]”

“Hi, I will try to keep this brief. I have a 3 year old that throws tantrums and meltdowns that last for very long periods of time. They always start from the smallest of things which I think is normal toddler behavior. Today it was because I simultaneously wouldn't/would help her open up her toothpaste tube. She will begin to scream at me to which I will usually respond by saying something like, "I don't respond to screaming." The screaming will get so bad that I will try to ca”

“My son is three and half and he is in a stage where he is learning to regulate his emotions. Throughout his whole life we've always noticed that his emotional regulation has a physical aspect to it. When he gets upset at something he often leaves the room or he will throw something. Lately he has started doing that high pitched scream that only young children can do. I know that I'm overly sensitive to most sensations, but offensive sound is probably the most unbearable to me and my reac”

“I am the step mom to an 8 year old boy. I love him, he's a great kid! He's going through what I know is a very typical for his age which is a hyper literal phase, his older sister went through it too, but his might kill me. It is every conversation that he's trying to correct me, or argue with me about things that he's either incorrect about or is being too literal about. It's driving me nuts. And it feels nonstop. I try to either explain myself or the situation but he just d”

“Baby is 14 months old. He can feed himself with his hands, he eats bites for months now. Except he... doesn't eat by himself. At least, not at mealtime, not in his chair. Every meal turns into a tantrum. He yells, he keeps pointing to all the things in the kitchen yelling that he wants them. If I do give him a spoon or a bowl or both, he throws them on the floor. I cannot put a plate/bowl of food in front of him because he will throw it on the floor. Every bite of food that I put in front of”

“Back story: So after a family emergency with our current sitter that is going to keep her out for an extended period we had to start with a new in home daycare. Only 4 kids in her care plus her own baby. My 16 month old was only there TWO days and woke up Friday morning with a high fever. Got him in with the pediatrician that afternoon and was diagnosed with a strain of HFM after one look at his throat. He says he thinks it the strain that typically affects the throat only and comes with high fe”

“Then it turns into, ‘You need to go to an activity at the other table. I’m not asking you. I’m telling you’ in a firm voice.”

“I'll try to keep this short. My daughter just turned 4 and has a speech delay and separation anxiety. We have a private speech therapist starting with us in a few days. She just got evaluated and qualified for an IEP for the speech and anxiety. One week ago, my husband and i were on the same page about keeping her home until kindergarten, and if we got free additional speech therapy through the school, that would be the best for us. Yesterday we went to the elementary school knowing nothing”

“My son just turned 1yo. He has his next well visit in a couple weeks and I will bring these things up then but I'm spiraling and need some encouragement to just CHILL. Son doesn't consistently respond to his name. A lot of the time I think it's just because he's super engrossed in whatever he's doing but I can be right next to him looking at him and it doesn't click at all. He responds to "hey" pretty reliably. He has been clapping and mimicking us when we bang”

“My kid is Refusing to go to school and I've just lost my cool and really have negative patience already. Despite fighting to get her into the best schooling scenario, Im dealing with this. Did this happen to you and what do you think it was for you? Maybe the routine was broken for her since last night and she's all lost now... Reason for feeling bad was "the basket wasn't full anymore" Anyway, did this happen to you. DId you figure out what caused it or how to "get th”

“Hey guys...I have unfortunately been posting more here and a few other places with regards to my son. He turned 4 in April and has been having TONS of tantrums since then. He wants to initiate power struggles constantly. If we tell him we are not going to argue with him etc, he will walk around and mutter calling us mean, stupid, you name it. He has become violent, screams and yells at us constantly...I dont even want to be around him but I make sure I "schedule" ...basically non-threa”

“I feel bad, my toddler fell asleep today without dinner. So as I was preparing dinner, toddler had a tantrum because they wanted popsicles/ice cream to eat and I said no and told my toddler dinner is getting ready. (Toddler only wanted freezer snacks b/c I had opened the freezer to take out frozen meatballs) They kept crying and standing by the freezer while I’m moving about the kitchen. Then my toddler left the kitchen crying and went and lay down on the sofa. I realized it was too quiet in the”