Parents feel overwhelmed by baby’s frequent nighttime wakings

“I have a 4.5 month old baby and I just finally mostly got over a sleep regression and he is only waking 1-3 times a night now instead of 5-8 and will even do a 7 hour block of sleep sometimes. I keep seeing drowsy but awake everywhere and it says you need to do it but I honestly just don’t even want to try. He is an extreme Velcro baby. During the day he wants to be held constantly. If I set him anywhere the absolute max he’ll go without crying is like 2 minutes. Drowsy but awake just sounds lik”

“My 12 week old generally wakes once per night. Lately, for both bedtime and after night feed, it has been hard to put him back down in bassinet. He used to fall asleep right after feeding or a few minutes of rocking, and I could transfer him smoothly, but now he wakes and goes wide-eyed within a few min of getting him down & it takes a while to rock him back to sleep. Any tips?! submitted by /u/Main-Leg-8040 [link] [comments]”

“Need some advice on what I should be doing to solve this issue. My 7mo old ball of cuteness would wake from 3-4:30am almost every night. I tried all the things. Recently I cut a nap. Now she’s just sleeping way long for naps im talking going for 30min to an hour to sleeping 2 hours if I let her. I cap naps at 90mins. She’s still waking up at night. I’ll feed her, check her diaper, try to soothe her back to sleep but she’s just wide awake. I don’t know what to do. submitted by /u/Hot-”

“So, I hesitate to even ask this question for fear of inadvertently inviting a "feeding to sleep vs. sleep trading" debate. That's not what this is about and I'm asking here first in hopes of hearing from others who, like me, have chosen to breastfeed their babies to sleep. My baby is 10.5mo and for the last couple of weeks has been making it clear that she no longer wants/is able to feed to sleep. she will suckle for a while, pop off, start crying, suckle some more, and get pro”

“That’s it. Toddler is almost two and wakes me up anywhere from 2-10 times a night to nurse still. I’m exhausted. She’s incredibly strong willed and determined. I’m so done, but also so sad to do this. Please send alllllll of the resources/advice that you can, with maybe a dash of encouragement :’) Thanks in advance! submitted by /u/InvoluntaryFurnace [link] [comments]”

“He was sleeping with mom until a month ago. He would constantly wake up and she would nurse him back to sleep. I took over night duties so that he would hopefully not smell her and keep waking up. Here I am at 4am rocking him back to sleep for the 5th time tonight. It has been the same. He will wake up again in another hr or 2 and I will do it again. It was worse in the beginning for me as he wasn't used to me putting him to sleep at night. It is getting easier for him to fall back asleep wi”

“Anyone else? Going through 4 month sleep regression and gassiness with my LO, so he’s been super fussy while he’s sleeping and waking up often to eat. Last time I put him down and went to sleep I had a dream about going to sleep uninterrupted. In the dream I had handed him to my grandma because he was fussing. Then I woke up because he was fussing. A new level of sleep deprivation 🤣 submitted by /u/momwifepoet [link] [comments]”

“Am 14 weeks postpartum and my baby only sleeps while on the Brest. I don’t mind doing this but I would love to see her falling asleep independently. I have tried to feed her, burp and then put her in the crib but she just wake and stay awake or start crying, submitted by /u/No-Camera-4746 [link] [comments]”

“My 15-month-old has been doing this for a week and a half now and I genuinely don’t know what is going on anymore. Tonight she slept for maybe 3 hours and then woke up screaming bloody murder. The second I pick her up, she immediately calms down and passes TF back out in my arms. But the second I slooooowly try to transfer her back into the crib? Absolutely loses it. Screaming like I’ve never heard before. I’m literally sitting on the couch right now while she screams in her crib, crying myself.”

“my baby will not fall asleep on his own. he needs to be fed to sleep and then placed in his bed. and half the time he wakes up immediately. how do I get him to fall asleep on his own? I mean every nap and every night is like this… OK EDIT since all of you are coming for me lol. My mom, mother in law, and just about everyone around me are constantly judging me for always having to rock him to sleep. So I didn’t know that it was normal. and a friend with a baby of the same age doesn’t have the sam”

“We're at 17 months of BF now, and my son nurses twice during the day (before each nap) and then again before bed at night. My cycle still hasn't returned. We co-sleep so I've been kind of stuffing a boob in his mouth whenever he wakes up during the night, which is often due to teething and illness, but I started implementing a "no milk after midnight" policy a week ago. Since I started doing that a week ago, I've felt really anxious, mostly physically - my stomach is do”

“My almost 7-month-old is exclusively breastfed and has never taken a bottle or pacifier. At 4 months, she went through frequent night waking, but we worked on the nursing-to-sleep association and she started giving us longer stretches again, 4–6 hours. Now she’s suddenly waking crying about every hour. She doesn’t seem sick or uncomfortable. Sometimes nursing settles her, but other times simply holding her works. She’s also crawling and working on sitting. Has anyone’s baby gone back to this aft”

“For several months my baby has woken in the night 2-3 times but it's always a dream feed situation. I sleep in the same room with her, so I just grab her and feed her and she's right back to sleep. We sleep trained at 5 months after a truly torturous regression, and she'll sometimes wake and fuss/cry for a few minutes between feeds, but put herself back to sleep. This past week she is waking up between 2 and 3 am WIDE awake. Eyes wide open. I'll nurse her, and put her back in the”

“Hey guys so I have a 14 month old who goes to sleep at night while feeding in a rocking chair. In a few weeks we will be going on holiday to Tasmania and using a portacot During that time. I’m a bit nervous about how sleep is going to go in a variety of new environments and no rocking chair movement. I plan to keep the night time routine as close to normal as possible with a familiar book/song/ sound machine ect. Thing is he also wakes up regularly throughout the night and needs to be cuddled to”

“We are at the 3 month mark and our beautiful baby is just starting to make it through the night (midnight to 6 am). Our setup has been me on the living room couch with the bassinet and baby while Mom sleeps in the bedroom. I monitor the baby and make decisions about when to let her push through and connect her sleep cycles vs when she is actually upset enough to bring to Mom for feeding. She usually wakes up around either 1) 2:30, 4, 6 or 2) 3, 6 or 3) sleeps all the way to 6 am. We originally d”

“…does your baby still wake and need to be comforted after weaning? If so, do you feed them a bottle or just rock/comfort, or something else? Has anyone’s baby stopped waking up in the middle of the night after weaning? submitted by /u/imdirrtydan12 [link] [comments]”

“As the title says, I’m wondering when it’ll get easier or if anyone has any tips to getting my Velcro baby away from me for sleep. My baby only falls asleep by breastfeeding. I can pop my nipple out of her mouth for the rest of the nap but then she must stay on me for the entirety of the sleep or else she wakes up. So this is what? 15 hrs a day of being trapped holding her? We even have to cosleep at night. I have tried white noise, swaddle arms in and out, a carrier and stroller (will stay awak”

“Currently almost 9 weeks and it’s been kicking my ass. I fall asleep anywhere from 6pm to 8pm, wake up to pee around 3, and wake up around 5am/6am. The nightmares are also killing me. I have had maybe 2 nights total where my brain hasn’t been tormenting me in my sleep so I end up never feeling rested. Please tell me 2nd trimester gets easier in this regard 😭 submitted by /u/mpatzy [link] [comments]”

“My partner and I are first-time parents, and it has definitely been an interesting experience so far. Our twins were born prematurely and spent a couple of months in the NICU. Now that they are both home, we are trying to figure out a routine that works for everyone. I’m currently still working Monday to Friday, 8 to 5, while my partner is home with the twins during the day. I want to help as much as possible when I’m home and be a very hands-on dad, but the biggest thing we are struggling with”

“Hey so baby just turned 5 months and I’ve been cutting back on pumps and it seems I’ll be done before 6 months. I feel I’m a little hormonal I guess but I’m getting super stressed as my husband is getting tired of rocking our son to sleep for naps and wants to try gentle sleep training but I don’t want to sleep train. Our son isn’t a bad sleeper. He wakes 1 or 2 times in the night eats then goes back to sleep. But for naps you have to rock him and right now he’s going through this thing where wh”

“I’m curious to hear from parents whose first child was a particularly challenging sleeper (either they didn’t sleep very much overall, woke frequently at night, and/or continued having frequent wake-ups later than most of their peers). If you went on to have more children, what was their sleep like in comparison? Did your next child(ren) sleep significantly better, worse, or about the same? I’d especially love to hear from people whose first child’s sleep difficulties seemed to persist beyond th”

“Our little one has been waking up 4/5 times a night and starting days really early for two months now (she struggles to nod off after 3.30/4am). She will be 5 months soon. I am so exhausted from not sleeping, moving a house and now also getting a flu. My whole body is aching, my head is pounding. I would give anything for a better night of sleep. Please tell me it gets better. submitted by /u/Pristine-Surprise919 [link] [comments]”

“Just weaned my 21 month old 1 week ago 🥳 Super happy we made it as far as we did! He was really relying on the boob to help him sleep and we took some big steps backwards over the last few months after night weaning, so I was ready. Lots of prep for weeks leading up to this and he’s done well. He’s never been a great sleeper, things have definitely gotten better over time. This weeks been up and down, first night was definitely the hardest. He also started getting a tooth earlier this week so t”

“Baby boy: 15 months Breastfed + solids + 14 teeth (more coming out) Mostly 1 nap now, some days 2 Nightime sleep was: 7/8pm - 6am My baby was never a good sleeper - like EVER. Now his average night time sleep is around 9h40min. While naps can go between 1.5h (if he naps once) to 3h ( if he naps twice). Lately it's been 1 nap so 1.5h only of sleep. He goes to bed around 7h40-8pm.. and have been waking up 5h15am. Idk what's going on but he was getting up sometimes 4x a night.. so I was exh”

“It's 4:30 at night. My 13 mo was having an okay night until around 3 AM he wasnt able to get back to sleep. He was nursing non stop and I then coulndt get back to sleep either. I tried saying him it was enough, he would whine, I tried putting him back in his pack n play (we are visiting my parents), he would cry. While we co-sleep most nights on the second half of the night it didnt seem to be an option today because he wouldn't leave the breast and it wasnt helping him to get back to sl”

“hello. my 15 month old experienced something super weird and, honestly frightening to me tonight. she went to sleep around 8pm as usual, even though she did totally skip a nap today (i attempted to give her one but she never settled down and actually took one). about two hours later i hear her crying, go in instantly to check. she was still asleep, laying, eyes closed but totally panicking. she has never done this. at first i tried rubbing her back, talking and shushing to her and it did nothing”

“I have 5 month old twins and one of them is kicking my butt with his night time sleep. I'm wondering if this has happened with anyone else's kiddo. He was sleeping great until about 1.5 weeks ago. He learned how to roll belly to back at 3 months, then back to belly at 4. Now at 5 months he's just a cutie rollie pollie, lol. BUT, he's trying to roll around in his sleepy (I'm assuming to try to get comfy) and when he can't he wakes up and cries. Before he'd just sleep o”

“We went on a 10 day holiday and had to sleep in the same room as the baby. Before that one was always sleeping in baby's room and the other got a full night. Baby used to wake up twice a night, around 11-12pm and 2-3am. During our holiday it was best I got up to feed baby because it was the fastest way. So every time he woke up I gave him the boobz to not prolong the crying so my SO would get better sleep. Well, at worst he woke up 8 times a night and we ended up also co-sleeping to calm him”

“Please help. I am so tired and losing my mind. Baby just turned 9 months old. Since he started crawling and standing this past month he has regressed but never been a great sleeper to begin with. I think his longest stretch of sleep ever was 4 hours maybe a couple of times. I am so tired and cosleeping but trying to get him to sleep in his own room for the whole night. Everynight I get him down in his own room in crib. He puts himself to sleep most of the time but wakes up after 30-45 mins, then”

“I am struggling! I have an almost 3 month old and baby sleeps pretty decently, only getting up to feed maybe once before morning time. Problem is I still wake up constantly at night to check on him in his bedside bassinet. And I cannot seem to fall asleep well afterwards. I still sleep better than third trimester pregnancy except once I’m awake in the middle of the night my husband’s breathing grates on my nerves so much. I don’t know why. No snoring, it’s not any louder than my baby’s breathing”

“Baby is just 1 week old now and has to spend every moment on my boob. She will fall asleep on the boob, but if I try to out her down to sleep she immediately wakes up. She’s been like this since day 2. We had a couple of days when I would wait 30 mins before setting her down after feeding and it worked, but it’s stopped working now. I haven’t had any sleep at all. I’ve tried co-sleeping but she unlatches after 20 mins and cries. This can’t be cluster feeding already? Also we had a midwife come r”

“My wife is frequently falling asleep while laying down and breastfeeding our 2month old. The issue is she’s using a blanket because it’s getting cold. My understanding is sleep 7 says no blankets at all, and I’ve read elsewhere that blanket at mom’s waist is ok. But my wife has her blanket higher than her waist. This is a disagreement that we have. I guess I’m looking for some advice or insight you all can share. Im trying to at least convince her to keep the blanket at her waist, but she doesn’”

“My 2 year old (25 months) was sleeping through the night, 11-12 hours ever since I weaned her (almost 14 months old when she weaned). The past week, it’s like we’re back to square one when she was a newborn. Waking every 2-3 hours. Needing to be patted/laid with to go back to sleep. We are currently trying for baby #2 and I’m feeling discouraged. We did switch to a floor bed because she decided she hated her crib/pack and play while we were on vacation, but she slept on a floor bed fine on vacat”

“Long story short, I sleep trained my first kid (wasn’t hard and I didn’t just let her scream herself to to sleep, only took like 3 days) but the second child (almost 7 months). Good gosh…help me w tips PLEASE. For naps AND bed time, i can no longer set her down. As soon as I go to place her on the bed or her crib she instantly wakes and starts screaming. I would let her scream for just a little so see if she’d go back to sleep but nope. This kid can scream for a 50 min car ride wo stopping or go”

“Hi guys! My baby will be four months in two weeks and we’re at a weird spot with her sleep. I started a sleep routine at five weeks. It’s a simple one! Feed, bath, lotion, PJs, feed(mainly comfort nursing bc she’s cold) while rocking and she’s out like a light in five minutes. Initially she began sleeping for six hour stretches. She’d wake once at night to eat and then knock back out but as of the past three weeks or so she will sleep for a five hour stretch between 7-1am and then be up every ho”

“Hey dads, wanted to follow up on my last sleep training post and thank you all for the advice and support. After reading Precious Little Sleep and the new Ferber book, querying Reddit and Facebook, and reaching out to every dad I know, my wife let me try sleep training our youngest (9 months adjusted today). He is a CHAMP. First night (3/5/10 minute Ferber check-ins) he was out before the 10 minute check-in. Second night (5/10/12) he was out before the first check-in, and now he pretty much fall”

“or should i do 2 birds ?? and should husband do sleep training with out me? i’m worried ill crack. 6mo old bb (was 3 wk early) submitted by /u/Funny_Try_7789 [link] [comments]”

“Specifically asking those who have a baby that has a harder time falling/staying asleep, or who have had tough sleep regressions. I have a 6m old. Thought we won the lottery early on because she slept through the night very early. Around 3.5m she had a rough week long sleep regression and continued to wake 1-3 times per night since. Between teething, daycare illness, and regressions, it feels like it’s only gotten worse. Last night she woke 10 times. We recently tried sleep training but we have”

“Genuinely curious how everyone approaches night wakings. My baby is almost 5 months. Prior to about a week ago was sleeping 9-11 hour stretches at night. His night wakings started AND started rolling so we moved him to his crib as kind of a two birds approach. He will fall asleep and wake in the first 30 minutes and then UP and then will lightly sleep for a few minutes and then is UP. We don’t go in unless he’s crying but genuinely curious how you all go through this? Last night we put him back”

“My son finally most likely would have slept through the night for the first time last night except we had him in his crib and I’m so paranoid I won’t wake up if he needs me when he’s in his crib that I couldn’t sleep till I brought him into bed with us, he was 2 months early and in the nicu for over a month and when he came home he wouldn’t sleep unless it was with us but now that he’s in daycare he prefers the crib but now I can’t sleep, advice?🥲 We’re moving in October and I wanna transfer hi”

“My son finally most likely would have slept through the night for the first time last night except we had him in his crib and I’m so paranoid I won’t wake up if he needs me when he’s in his crib that I couldn’t sleep till I brought him into bed with us, he was 2 months early and in the nicu for over a month and when he came home he wouldn’t sleep unless it was with us but now that he’s in daycare he prefers the crib but now I can’t sleep, advice?🥲 We’re moving in October and I wanna transfer hi”

“Hi, looking for advice and what has worked for others! My son is 1 week old and we’re trying to figure out how to best handle nights especially with my husband going back to work. Currently he’s taking baby 9p-1a in the living room (gives formula if wants to feed) while I sleep and then he brings to me to breastfeed at 1am and goes to bed after diaper change/laying down in bassinet once we’re done. If babies in room I wake up to every little sound so I’ll take care of him 1a-6a and wake husband”

“So thankful I can feed this little baby whenever he needs it. His loud gulps against the stark silence and darkeness of the night bring me so much joy. His flailing arms slowing down. His eyes never opened for the feed. Held him up for a few minutes, and lay him back down. Kiss him and now try to get some rest myself. submitted by /u/pumpkintimetonight [link] [comments]”

“I’m sitting here trying to put my 5 month old back to sleep , I don’t know what it is but the past week and a half have honestly been horrible with her sleep We unswaddled her last week and tried to put her in her crib alone but both of these changes have thrown her sleep out the window. We put her back in the room with us yesterday and she is still waking up over 5 times a night .. I don’t even know what is happening here She drops the pacifier and starts crying , has gas as well and starts cry”

“My LO is 14 weeks and waking up 3-4 times a night, sometimes more and especially after 2 am. I am sticking to 1.5 hour wake windows and feeding him every 3 hours or so during the day. He falls asleep on his own within 5 minutes of being put down awake at night so that part's going well at least. And he naps about 4 hours during the day spread across 4 naps. I’ve tried shortening his naps to increase his sleep pressure but worry he will get overtired which will also negatively impact his slee”

“I'm writing this at 11:50pm frustrated and on the verge of tears. Loretta has become a horrible sleeper. Daytime naps & nighttime. I don't know what is going on. She's been horrible to get down for naps for over a month... I thought I had her figured out but apparently not and now she's also up multiple times a night. She doesn't follow a schedule during the day despite me trying to get her on a good routine because no matter what I try she rarely goes down for a nap. For”

“My LO is 2 months, been dealing with insomnia the past week. Im exhausted but still cannot fall asleep - anyone else? What did you do? Currently 3:45 AM 💤😴🥱 submitted by /u/Ok_Promise_2820 [link] [comments]”

“Just curious! I know it's so baby dependent. I hear so many people say that night weaning solved their frequent night wakes. But I've seen others say it just means now they don't have an easy way to get their baby back to sleep. My baby is 11 months, has always struggled with sleep. We still feed to sleep and nurse throughout the night because he just wakes so frequently. It works for us right now but I do wonder if he would sleep better without the boob. View Poll submitted by”

“My 8 month old just learned how to climb in the crib and for the last week anytime i put her down she climbs. I feel like I’ve tried everything but she just WILL NOT sleep. She maybe naps a total of 40 minutes a day. She can fall asleep in the car or in my arms but the crib just isn’t working. Has anyone experienced this? any suggestions welcome! I’m exhausted😫 (she can get down on her own but often won’t) ((she mostly sleeps through the night)) submitted by /u/Successful_Ad_9212 [l”

“Ok so last night my 4month old wanted to sleep on her side. Is this ok for her to do? I tried to get her on her side but then eventually she would fall back onto her back and then start making all kinds of noise. Does anybody else’s baby like to sleep on their side? She isn’t rolling yet either. Idk what to do. She is sooooo noisy and always moving still and I feel like she isn’t getting good sleep. submitted by /u/NextFee2923 [link] [comments]”

“We have been kind of trying to sleep train our 4 month old, but it’s only been 2 days and I say sleep training very loosely. So basically he has been rocked or fed to sleep is entire life and sleeping in a bassinet which has worked great and he was a good sleeper… until the “regression” hit. Now sleep has been all over the place the past 3 weeks. We have transitioned to a crib for the past week because he started rolling but he has only slept in it twice and otherwise we have been cosleeping for”

“Hey dads, dad here. TL;DR how do you explain to your first kid that crying during sleep training is normal? I have two kids as of this summer. Around the start of next year, my wife and I will be looking to sleep train the second: full extinction, no fun and games. For our first, it didn't take very long, and it worked out well. They did scream and holler quite a bit, but only for a couple of weeks or so, I'd say. Maybe even less. My concern (sitting up in the wee hours of the morning wi”

“My 9-month-old used to be an amazing sleeper. He started sleeping through the night at around 3 months old and did really well for months. But for roughly the past 2 months, his sleep has completely changed. He wakes up crying once or twice pretty much every night, and most of the time the only thing that settles him back to sleep is a bottle. I’m starting to wonder how much of this could actually be teething because this kid is apparently trying to grow his entire mouth at once 😂 Other than of”

“My baby is 5 months old and still wakes up several times during the night to eat- I am breastfeeding and can't typically have my husband take over because of my oversupply, I either have to feed baby or pump so I'm stuck. I also sometimes struggle with falling back asleep after the feed. On a bad night I get 4hrs of interrupted sleep, a good night 7hrs of interrupted sleep. Baby is also in a sleep regression phase. All that being said, after months of cumulative sleep deprivation it'”

“My 7 almost 8 month old has recently been waking at 1, 3, and 5 am to nurse. Nothing settles him except nursing. He was giving me longer stretches for a short period of time. I am so tired. I don’t think he’s waking because he’s hungry but I don’t know. I’d love to get some sleep. Any advice? Also to add. He has 3 almost 4 teeth now and sometimes if he doesn’t get a good latch his teeth scrape the entire time he nurses and I’m over it 😭 submitted by /u/Ashh142 [link] [comments”

“I have a 6mo, adorable little angel, achieving milestones early, gaining weight, seems chill and happy most of the time. Except when it comes to sleep. The best we could do was 3 wake ups a night for a short period at 4 months which collided with my worst stage of insomnia and I could not sleep even when my LO did. We sleep trained out of desperation (Ferber) at 5 months, but it did not help the night wakings at all. Best night: put to sleep at 8, wakes up at 11PM, 2AM, 5AM. Hardly ever happens”

“My 4 month old slept through the night for like 2 weeks when he was 2 months old and has never done it again. I’m usually waking 5-8 times a night and my husband is out of town half the days so most nights it’s me by myself. My baby will wake anywhere from 10 minutes to two hours after I put him down but no matter what, it always seems to land 5 minutes after I finally try to close my eyes and get some sleep. It’s starting to keep me up because I’m just waiting for the crying to start so then I”

“All of our sleep progress GONE 🥲 We’ve finally hit the infamous 4 month regression… and my baby’s barely sleeping. Especially during the day. Its freaky. How are we approaching the regression? Keep trying to get them back to sleep when they clearly seem done? Let them stay awake? I put her down for naps and she’ll fall asleep for 5 minutes and then, boom WIDE awake and ready to party. She’s sleeping in total like an hour a day probably and i dont know if im supposed to fight that or go along wi”

“baby has always been a horrible sleeper. months 3-8 she was waking every 20 mins - 1h. we had some better months (not great) but now at 14 m again its horrible. she wakes once or twice but she stays up screaming for 2-3h each time. we dont know what to do. doctor says its only probably sensory issues they ruled out reflux and similar issues, iron def and such. i feel like i am going to die. i dont fall asleep once she does because i am so stressed, so i am up all night from 1 or 3 most nights &#”