Wedding Planners Stress Over Details
Numerous posts revolve around wedding planning anxieties, including venue selection, food arrangements (potlucks), speech writing, videography alternatives, and bridesmaid duties. There's a strong desire to ensure the bride has a smooth and enjoyable experience.
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“Any suggestions on making our wedding FUN? I don't want people to be bored. We are skipping a lot of the speeches and typical wedding day stuff. We will likely have kids there as well of all ages. I think entraining kids will be easier…”
“Thinking of doing a no bridal party and no speech wedding. Just bride/groom, BM/MOH, ring bearer/flower girl, both parents, and 1 sibling to all walk down the aisle. Bride and groom would be the only ones making a short and sweet “speech” at the reception expressing gratitude and thanks. What are your thoughts on this and the tentative aisle structure below? Groom walks with both parents or just mother Sibling walks alone BM walks alone MOH walks alone ring bearer/flower girl walk together (flow”
“Speeches: No parents plan to give a speech therefore it would only be Best man and MOH who would give one. As bride and groom we absolutely plan to say a few words and thank everyone for coming. Personally don’t see either Best man or MOH being really strong speakers in front of 175 guests. Are speeches really necessary? thoughts on a “no speech wedding”? Grand entrance: We would like to have our grand entrance into the reception room and go right into our first dance. The song we chose is great”
“Not having a videographer it’ll be outside, sand I just wish I could do a videographer nothing too expensive, but I know it’s too late now.. this is my biggest regret :/ submitted by /u/Immediate-Strategy-4 [link] [comments]”
“Has anyone else run into a bit of drama for planning speeches? My fiancé and I don’t care a ton for wedding speeches. Although it’s always nice listening to your friends and family say nice things about you, most weddings I’ve been to the speeches happen during dinner and I always hate hearing the cutlery scrape in the background, people feel awkward eating during them, and they can get longggg. We really want to maximize dance time. So, we thought to have both our dads give a toast at the recep”
“hey guys. this is gonna be pretty straight forward. my partner wants to go with a fully instrumental playlist for the wedding. for the ceremony, reception and all. has anyone been to a wedding where they’ve done this? if so, how was it? was it awkward or anything? i have no issues with it or anything, ive just never been to a wedding where they’ve done this before so i wanna know what the experience was like. submitted by /u/cloudy_skai [link] [comments]”
“The wedding is in a little over 6 weeks. 150 ish people. No seating chart. HEAR ME OUT -There will be plenty of tables and chairs - There is no sit down dinner of any kind, only passed appetizers followed by a pizza truck (zero utensils should be needed for any of the bites of food) - very untraditional wedding with a decent amount of entertainment in a large mansion - going for cocktail party vibes where guests are encouraged to walk around, explore, and mingle. - we will have a sign explaining”
“My fiancé and I are torn and would love outside perspectives. We're saving-minded people and honestly hate how much everything costs and how wedding planning can make you lose your mind. Option 1: Full wedding Ceremony, cocktail hour, then a 4-hour seated plated dinner reception. Total: about $36k. Option 2: Ceremony + elevated cocktail reception Same ceremony and same cocktail hour hors d'oeuvres, but instead of a plated dinner, the caterer adds two stations of small plates. It ends 2 h”
“Exploring the option of doing a dinner party for our wedding rather than the logistics of a reception. Has anyone been to or had one that they loved? Or any recs on places? Looking east coast or Midwest and under 30k for 100 ish people! submitted by /u/suitelifeofsi [link] [comments]”
“For my wedding, my budget can afford 2 plated options for guests to choose from. My options are filet mignon, salmon, grouper and chicken. What do you recommend I go with for the 2 options? submitted by /u/chalooos-96 [link] [comments]”
“Hey everyone - looking for advice and feel free to tell me I’m an idiot. The TLDR is I am having a very very small elopement style “wedding” at the Garden of the Gods in CO next month. It’s our second wedding, and I really want some photos even of just us two in front of the scenery. I consider myself a somewhat skilled amateur photographer and have done several paid shoots for folks for kids and family but obviously I won’t be behind the camera. I can’t spend 5-7k on photos. I just can’t. Our w”
“We are having a smaller wedding of 50 people and have hired a pub for after the ceremony. Drinks reception and a live singer, then a sit down meal. We aren’t big on dancing at weddings and before anyone comes for us, 95% of our family are the same and either are unable to dance or have no interest. Our friends are mainly quite introverted too. The pub doesn’t have a dedicated dancing area, it’s an old country pub so doesn’t have lots of space. There is a section next to the bar and a separate ro”
“I am stuck between doing my wedding speeches at my wedding vs my rehearsal dinner. I originally planned on doing all of the speeches (MOH, best man, parents) at the rehearsal dinner since it is more intimate and not as nerve racking for the people making the speech. But the more I think about it, I think I might want to do the speeches, or at least some, at the wedding. In your opinion, do you like hearing the speeches at weddings or you couldn’t care less? submitted by /u/TwoMean524”
“I recently came across a post in another sub about some wedding drama, the actual content of the post itself is not very relevant but I was surprised by some of the opinions in the comments section and now I'm hoping it can prompt a discussion here. The post was about someone who eloped hosting a reception for family and friends, and they mentioned that they would play a video of the vows from the elopement at the reception. Several highly-upvoted comments specifically called this out as sou”
“Me and my fiancé are getting married in February and we are having a small, 22 person wedding celebration. We all know each other and it will be wonderful, but I would like to come up with some little activities that can be done during the party. My dad and I will probably perform a song or two, but I’d like something that people can do at the table and feel lighthearted! Thank you for any and all ideas! submitted by /u/hulttus [link] [comments]”
“Did you (or do you plan to) give your partner a gift on your wedding day? I’m in need of some ideas and would love to hear what people have actually given instead of reading through these “Best Wedding Gifts for Your Husband” articles! TYIA submitted by /u/Early_Ad8422 [link] [comments]”
“For those who are already married or have been through the wedding planning process—what are the things you wish you knew before your wedding ? Any tips, tricks, things you’re glad you did, things you wish you had skipped, or little details that made a big difference? I’d especially love to hear about things that aren’t always talked about when planning a wedding! Basically, give me all your “I wish someone had told me this!” advice submitted by /u/Informal_Onion_6779 [link] [c”
“I want to be sure our guests at our ceremony can hear us, especially during our vows. What is the best way to mic us up for sound reinforcement? We have a large speaker from that our church is lending us (see picture), but since it has Bluetooth I would prefer a wireless mic if possible. I know nothing about PA systems or sound, so I have no idea what the best option would be for us. We are not planning on recording anything, so this is purely for our guests on the day of. What did y’all do for”
“Hey I need a 10 minute non religious script. Funny and to the point. Marrying my wife's bestfriend and her boyfriend. Please help submitted by /u/KellyGirl8484 [link] [comments]”
“Hello! I’m planning a restaurant wedding with 40 people. I try looking up ideas on decor but can’t find anything. If anyone has done a restaurant wedding could you please share pictures for inspiration? Thank you!! submitted by /u/ArtichokeContent8994 [link] [comments]”
“Is this enough alcohol for a wedding of 75, with about 70 of the guests drinking? Cocktail hour and reception is a total of 5 hours. Thank you!! submitted by /u/BlackberryClean695 [link] [comments]”
“My sister is getting married next month and I desperately need some ideas. My mom and I always organize an activity or a special something at our celebrations but for their special day we are out of ideas. The Wedding will be relatively small and casual, only close family and family friends attending and mostly older generations. The ceremony is in the morning and then we continue to a small restaurant for lunch and cake. Next year they'll do a bigger party with mostly friends. They are both”
“What ideas would be cool for a 90s wedding? Also, is there a way to have a 90s themed wedding without too many of the bright colors? submitted by /u/stephlestrange [link] [comments]”
“We are making a newsletter that our hotel is gonna put in all the rooms of our guests when they check in the night before the wedding. I'm super excited about it. But I'm really stumped on what to put in it. We were thinking obviously the timeline of events for the wedding day but after that I'm just completely blank. Our wedding website already has our love story and a bunch of photos, gah! Help!! submitted by /u/Short33M [link] [comments]”
“I’m getting married next year. I’d really love to have the ceremony recorded so I can watch it again someday. But lately it feels like the only option is getting some kind of cinematic wedding film that looks like a movie trailer. I get that videographers want to make something artistic out of it, and I’ll admit that some of them create genuinely beautiful work. But I can’t help cringing at a lot of these videos. They look like perfume ads made for Instagram. Your boyfriend is not Paul Newman, a”
“I am having a super small wedding of <15 people. One of my friends who we invited to officiate also owns a small bakery and she offered to make some macarons (my absolute favorite) for desert. She is also the person traveling the farthest. Should I order some tea cookies from the local bakery here to make sure there is a dessert for people who don’t like the macaron flavors I chose or would that be offensive to my friend? Would it be better to just make like a pan of brownies myself and call”
“I've heard as a wedding favor often a hand-written card comes up as a nice touch. Does anyone have any experience either receiving one as a guest or giving them to guests? Many guests are traveling a long way for us which is why I thought it could be nice. And would I write one to each family/couple or each individual? There are some people we truly don't know (e.g.,MIL's cousin's daughter that we've never met) so not sure if this would work well for us if we did individual.”
“I don’t know whether to host a welcome or rehearsal dinner! Rehearsal would be 40 people, welcome would be 80 people. We are struggling to find places to host 80 people affordably and would prefer something more low key before the big day. I don’t want to offend family who are traveling for our wedding. Feedback on your experience appreciated! submitted by /u/HatOrganic3347 [link] [comments]”
“Hi everyone, my wedding is in 7 months! I am getting married at a brewery in early April with blue and creams as the main colors and woods and greens as the accents. I was wondering if anyone has any tips on how to make our wedding fun and unique to us as a couple. What are some things at a wedding that you love and hate from the guest experience? Our number is around 150. submitted by /u/Stunning_Buy_1470 [link] [comments]”
“I’m struggling with this right now and honestly just looking for advice from people who have been through it. I’ve always pictured a big, beautiful wedding. Not necessarily extravagant or over-the-top, but the kind of wedding where I get to have the dress, the beautiful venue, the flowers, the big reception, all of the little details I’ve dreamed about for years. I’m realizing, though, that the wedding I want is not financially realistic for us. And I’m having a really hard time accepting that.”
“I want the videos of our wedding, without the crazy price. I also like that they give you a lot of the raw footage. Looking for real people with experience with them. submitted by /u/Ignored_Instructions [link] [comments]”
“Hi all! Whats the best wedding favor you’ve gotten at a wedding or one you did that the guests loved? I originally wanted to do little flowers (like a blooming bud) but we have too many family members flying in or traveling long distances that I don’t think that would be practical! Other options were matches, playing cards, or maybe even bottle openers but those also seem somewhat basic. TYIA submitted by /u/Bubblyredhead81 [link] [comments]”
“Hi! I’m hoping for some photographer recommendations because I feel like I’ve looked through so many portfolios and still haven’t quite found the right fit. We’re planning a wedding in the greater Kansas City area, and I’m looking for a specific mix of editorial and documentary photography. I’m attaching a few reference images because I’ve learned that “editorial” can mean very different things depending on the photographer. What I’m looking for: candid, emotional photos of us and our guests pol”
“I am one of a few groomsmen, and the only one besides the best man to give a speech. I've practiced reading this a couple times and it takes me about 5 minutes flat, including a couple of pauses. Would appreciate any feedback you might have! Particularly wondering if these jokes are actually funny and if there's anything I should cut. -- For those who don't know me, I'm [the best man]. I met [the groom] back in [year], when we were both investment banking analysts at Wells Fargo.”
“I see these post all the times for Brides, but as the groom, curious what are some things you wish you would have done? These are some special things I have planned - - I am writing handwritten notes to all the bridesmaids thanking them for taking the time and spending the money to be in the wedding. Also, just showing my gratitude for our friendship - I am giving my future wife a ring of my grandmothers, and am planning to also write her a separate notes outside of my vows - I am making sure my”
“Hey Reddit, here is my wedding planning spreadsheet. The wedding took place in May 2026 in the Santa Barbara area for 100 guests (We invited 130, exactly 100 showed up!). I’m going to keep things anonymous, so I won’t say what venue we used or get any more specific than that. I mainly wanted to share this because it might help some of you who are planning a wedding account for all the things you may need. For some more context, we did everything piecemeal. We had to bring in everything ourselves”
“Hi there, I am getting married on September 19th in Georgetown, Maine and we were planning on not having a DJ, but I’m having second thoughts now. Does anyone have any suggestions for DJs in this area? Thanks!! submitted by /u/Farm_gurl-99 [link] [comments]”
“So we are planning to get married in June at a family restaurant for only 15-20 people. In either July or August we are planning on having a huge 200-250 people BBQ style party for our friends and family. I have a vision of how I’d like this to go but I need to put pen to paper and I’m asking if anyone has done this before and logistically what I should consider. I know this isn’t going to be easy or cheap by any means but I think it would beat a venu price for an actual wedding. We plan on doin”
“[ r/accounting ]( r/accounting ). I need your help curating a roast/toast/joke for my maid of honor speech. My sister is marrying an accountant and I’d like to include a joke or roast him along the lines of: He’s an accountant, which means he looks at spreadsheets the way normal people look at rainbows and puppies. I don’t know, something funny. Any ideas appreciated. EDIT: who would’ve guessed I’d have to tell the accountants to keep it PG! submitted by /u/Small_Slice_1425 [link] &#”
“I know talking about gifts is so gauche, so I'm sorry in advance. My fiance and I are having a medium-sized casual wedding next month (~80ppl) and we do have a wedding website for info and RSVP, which also includes a gift registry. The language on the registry page is a bit lame, but we say "Your presence is the present, but if you insist ..." which we hope implies that gifts are absolutely not required, but we wanted to provide some guidance if anybody really does want to gift som”
“My fiancé and I met through the program. We’re obviously doing mocktails and the normal stuff but any creative ways we could incorporate it? submitted by /u/Putrid_Raspberry4373 [link] [comments]”
“Hello all! I am getting married this coming year, my fiancé and I have our tasting soon. We have already put down our deposit for our date. Her family and I recently attended a wedding at the same venue and the food was just flat out bad. Fish had actually turned. Food was generally dry, overcooked, and under-seasoned. It was a clear lack of quality assurance and effort. We actually got sick afterwords (fish?). Her family is genuinely pissed, they’ve stressed how important wedding food is to the”
“I recently posted my Grooms Speech in here, and the quick response was it was too long, mainly in the thank you's section early on. I have had a trim down of this, and hopefully now reads a bit better. It will be about 8/9 minutes. 5 minutes on the thank you's, 3/4 minutes on the story of my wife. I have removed names on the very off chance someone attending will be reading! Thank you for taking the time, really appreciated Please let me know your thoughts, or anywhere that can be trimme”
“Omg yes, my coordinator gave me a similar compliment and I was so damn smug about it. I've yet to attend any other wedding where dinner was served on time.”
“I need a witty/funny sign idea for our wedding favors! We chose something practical- custom engraved lighters. submitted by /u/sbxy92 [link] [comments]”
“Just wondering what yall think of this/if it’s a good idea? I have a (mostly) all inclusive package on my wedding but late night snacks aren’t included. It would be a large extra cost and I’ve seen them as kinda hit or miss at weddings. One thing I’ve considered is picking up a bunch of snack items from Costco (like single serving Doritos, popcorn, pretzels etc and having a “snack bar” that people can grab either at the party or take home. For reference we’re inviting about 140 with hopes to get”
“I know this sounds like I’m bragging. I promise I’m not! Just trying to figure out how genuine my friends and family are being. My husband and I got told by a lot of people that our vows were so sweet and a lot of our guests said it was the most fun they’d had at a wedding. Those were the two specific compliments we got a lot. I know people tend to be nice to newlyweds regarding their wedding and I’m too socially awkward (and too much of a straight shooter) to know whether people are being hones”
“We are doing a micro wedding later this year and I still haven’t figured out how/when to do “cake”. We are spending the morning getting ready then early afternoon hiking together and doing private vows, then meeting family in the evening for a ceremony. After the ceremony there will be family photos then about a 20 min drive to a restaurant. I was thinking we could all go out for dessert after dinner but our photography coverage is only for the morning and ceremony. If you were doing something s”
“I really have my heart set on my new husband and I doing a speech in front of our guests at the reception. I want ensure a personal, intimate touch at this once-in-a-lifetime celebration. That said, I can't even read through the speech in private without choking up!!! I don't know if I will be able to get the words out in front of other people... Any suggestions how to overcome this? submitted by /u/Ok-Mongoose-4524 [link] [comments]”
“My wedding is two months away and as I’m finishing up on planning the finer details I’ve found myself stuck here. I initially envisioned us all meeting at our ceremony spot and just saying our vows and taking pictures. Nothing incredibly formal. Almost like an elopement. I think my fiancé was also thinking this, as well. But I feel like our ceremony needs some structure, especially for photography purposes. I’m thinking about the logistics of hiring a musician to play live music for the ceremony”
“Hello all! I saw a tiktok not long ago where this couple got bibs (like the kind they give you at a crab boil) for everyone at their entire wedding and customized the text on the front to say “I went to x + y’s wedding and all I got was this stupid bib.” My fiancé and I thought it was HILARIOUS and were already planning on getting a bib for myself to protect my dress, so we decided to do the same thing and get fun bibs for our guests too. Now we’re in the brainstorming stage and would like some”
“Hi, I’m not having a ceremony anytime soon but really wanna have idea when the time comes. I’ve been trying to Google ideas and it’s not going very well or I feel there’s too many pieces. I’ve only been to about 3 weddings in my life 2 big official expensive ones and 1 backyard one. I’m just looking for ideas and general advice. At the moment, I plan to get married through court but would still like the idea of a ceremony. someone leading us through vows, having family be present for it, having”
“Hey everyone, I’m doing a speech for my friend’s wedding in a few days and just looking for some feedback. I’m quite to be honest. The wedding is a mixture of Irish and Peruvian guests. Any feedback would so appreciated ! Introduction Hi everyone! For those of you who don’t me - I’m [NAME], a childhood friend of [Groom]! Firstly , I want to thank [Groom] for placing such trust in allowing me to do this speech. Given the lineup of groomsmen up here today, I don’t think it was an especially hard d”
“In most of the outdoor weddings I have attended, I've had a hard time hearing the ceremony. I've had friends use both wired and wireless mics that were staticky and cutting in and out, so I have no idea what to do for mics to make sure we are audible. My wedding is fast approaching and I am starting to panic a bit. Added to the complication factor is the ceremony will be on a platform in the middle of water, so no extension cords or wires can hang off it. If you know of any reputable bra”
“Background: My fiancee and I are planning a pretty affordable wedding based on what things cost these days. For instance, we’re providing our own booze, we’re paying a band we know personally to play for the ceremony so it will cost us $300, and paying for our venue ourselves. My parents have offered to contribute 10k, which is great and I’m lucky for that. My fiancee has said his parents are willing to contribute, but he simply will not ask them for how much or what they are willing to pay for.”
“Planning the rehearsal dinner which is Italian food and fairly casual. I'd like to create 8 center pieces that are actually useful for the bride and groom. Like something they can take home and use as decor or for anything really. No candles or flowers because that is what will be used at the wedding. Rehearsal is at the same venue as the wedding. Any ideas? Pictures are welcome too. Thank you. submitted by /u/Pacificnwmomx2 [link] [comments]”
“Wanted to share some of my thoughts on what was great at my wedding for people trying to decide: First and my favorite, COSTCO and Sam’s Club for flowers if (it’s an option for you). It all came as preset bouquets and my mom just plopped them in some dollar store vases. Also we got all white and then went and got a few extra flowers to match our color. Overall, my flowers and vases cost ~$800 out the door. I would 100000 times over recommend this if you don’t care about flowers. Next, boba booth”
“Can’t tell if it’s good, bad, too long, etc. Please be honest: \*\*Best Man Speech\*\* \*\\\[Walk up holding the massive scroll.\\\]\* Good evening, everyone. I know all of you are itching to get to the dance floor and, of course, the open bar, so I promise I’m going to keep this short and sweet. \*\\\[Unroll the enormous scroll and let it fall dramatically to the floor. Pause. Look down at it, then back at the audience.\\\]\* Sorry. Wrong speech. \*\\\[Drop it to reveal “WRONG SPEECH” written a”