New parents feel overwhelmed and exhausted

“I have a 1 month old a 3 yo and a 6 yo. I was getting in car to get my son from school. I put my newborn in his car seat I blasted the air in my car because where I live is very hot. The drive there and back is about 40 minutes long. When I went to pick my son up out of his car seat his back was wet from sweat. He felt warm even though I had the ac blasting. I’m wondering if this could’ve caused him to have a heat exhaustion. It’s hard for me to gauge if he’s normal newborn sleepy or if the swea”

“Did your fussy baby grow out of the fussiness? Our 4 month old has been fussy since 3 weeks old. Hates car seat with a passion and only now tolerating pram. Please say it got better for you. Has symptoms of silent reflux but it does seem to have improved although still fussy :( submitted by /u/Longjumping-Basis908 [link] [comments]”

“I just wanna ask some quick advice here. My husband and I are gonna have to take our 5 month old on an 8 hour road trip. The part we can't decide on is when to leave. She usually sleeps until around 7am and I feel like it might be better to leave around 4am to at least have a few hours of her sleeping in the car but my husband is worried she'll fully wake up and not go back to sleep. In y'all's experience, is it better to leave at a normal time or early? submitted by”

“The last week has been nearly as hard as the newborn phase. My LO is 8 months old and suddenly is never happy. She whines nonstop no matter what i do, hold her? whining. Put her down? whining. I’ve resorted to Ms Rachel just so i can sit down for a second. What in the world is going on? She’s not full on crying like if she were having tummy troubles or anything but the constant whining and just unhappiness is making me so overwhelmed. Within the last week as well she has learned to go from crawl”

“My baby needs something to do in the car or screams like a banshee, and I am looking for plastic-free toys, just not wooden ones. I know she will use a wooden toy to whack herself in the head because she has done it enough times already lol. Any on-the-go recs? submitted by /u/masonzxx [link] [comments]”

“I’m just looking for advice or anyone possibly in the same situation that has experienced this; but my 10 week old HATES the car, so we try to avoid it for him as much as possible. However, we live in a rural town and therefore his pediatrician and my OBGYN are 45 minutes away, through a canyon, so a majority of the ride it’s not feasible to just pull over to soothe my baby, and I’m struggling hard. In addition to DRs being 45 minutes away so are quality grocery stores, we can get by with what w”

“My 5 month old hates the car. I cannot stress this enough. The second he is clipped in he looses it. I’ve tried changing the seat to a different brand, adding more safety padding (approved to safety standards), ample distractions. We’re a zero screen time family but I even tried to dancing fruits… he is not having it. He isn’t my first and my other children also were not fans but it didn’t start the second they got in. I’m optimistic when he is around 6 months giving him a rusk or something migh”

“How r we dealing with this. Our baby is 4 months old and breastfed (aka poops a lot of cuz it’s very digestible) and whenever she poops in the car it’s a blowout. She never has blowouts otherwise so I think it’s just with the angle and her being strapped in it gets shot out the side. Right now in her infant car seat it’s manageable because we can bring the car seat into the house and take it all apart and wash it etc… but when she moves to the big kid car seat how the heck are people managing th”

“Month one was great. Two through five were colic, feeding issues, stomach pain, sleep issues. Hating baby wearing, car seat, and stroller. Five through seven were constantly needing more entertainment, irritability, and more sleep issues. Months eight though twelve were extreme clinginess, teething pain, hating bath time, flexing and fighting when we put her in the car seat, and again more sleep issues. We have seen a sleep consultant, paid for baby massage, bought everything you can buy, talked”

“i haven’t drove baby boy anywhere in my own car yet and i was trying to install his car seat base. followed all the instructions and it still seems just a little loose? we have the 3 in 1 chico bravo travel system. it’s level and straps are in all the right places and the matches are attached to the metal bars under/behind the seat, but idk if this is correct? i’m not gonna drive him anywhere in my own car til i make sure it’s good, and we don’t have anywhere to be anytime soon but it makes me n”

“ok I should preface by saying that I think my baby hates the car because of me - since the day we left the hospital I would sit in the back seat next to her while my husband drives, and from then on any time us 3 are out together, I sit in the back with her (she’s 4mo now). well, now she hates the car when it’s just me and her and it gives me so much anxiety while I’m driving. she cries the entire time we’re in the car like 85% of the time. i don’t go anywhere further than like a 15 minute drive”

“My 3-month-old daughter is very curious and wants to look at everything, which is adorable, but means we have to be constantly on the move, otherwise she cries. She can tolerate being on her playmat for maybe 15 mins before it's game over, and definitely no sitting down cuddles anymore! I have to spend a lot of time pacing the floors holding her facing away from me. If I put her up on my shoulder she cries. She's getting heavier over time and it's putting a lot of strain on my back.”

“My baby is about to turn one, so last winter she was only a few months old and we didn’t go out much. I’m just wondering what the best method is to get baby from house to car and into car seat without her winter coat on as I know you aren’t supposed to secure them in car seat without a thick jacket on. Or am I overthinking it and you just remove coat right before you latch the belt? submitted by /u/mb31291 [link] [comments]”

“He's fed, diaper changed, wrapped in a warm blanket, and cradled by his mom. Yet cannot calm down in the slightest and sometimes feels like he falls asleep through sheer exhaustion. Right before going to bed every day. It's taking a toll. How can we stop this? And yes he cries for 1-2 hours submitted by /u/TheGronne [link] [comments]”

“Not really a new parent, but with this third baby it sure feels like it! My baby girl will be 4 months old on October 27th. She's started drooling a whole bunch and just biting on her hands or my fingers. When she bites herself she gets REALLY mad. She dislikes pacis and anything that stays in her mouth besides when she's eating. I have a playmat that I need to get some dangly things for (it will be placed into a pack n play because of my other kids) and I need recommendations for teethi”

“My almost 9 month old rarely cries but it is as if he is being tortured when I change him or put him in his car seat. He screams until he can't breath and thrashes about. During changes I've tried the following: - letting him move and stand - playing fun songs - being quick and unresponsive - being slow and stopping for cuddles and taking our time - I've tried giving him my things to hold that are more novel like a hairbrush - I've tried singing - I've tried toys reserved for”

“I feel like I’m just about to lose my mind looking at strollers. Why are attachments sold separately?? Why are they not built in anymore? Why do so many not convert from bassinet to toddler seat? Why are they not made in fun colors anymore? And why are there so many??? 😭😭😭😭 please help!!! Here I the primary things I need/want: Bassinet to toddler seat - I don’t need to be able to use the a car seat. We’re planning to purchase a convertible car seat but I also don’t want to buy two completely”

“like the title says - I currently have a 9 mo old and I’m getting pressure to let others drive them around. am I crazy for not being ready for this? when did you let people outside of yourself / your spouse drive your baby around? submitted by /u/roobiroo [link] [comments]”

“Baby is 5.5 weeks old (born 1.5 weeks early if that matters.) I’m desperate to take a walk once in a while, but my baby hates the stroller. I’ve tried the bassinet attachment and the car seat attachment. The former worked twice in the first two weeks, and then never again. The latter has never worked. Baby exclusively contact naps so in a way I’m not surprised. However, if I don’t get some movement and fresh air, I think I’ll lose my mind. I can’t wear him because I have a back problem, and I ne”

“I’m curious on what parents do with a small baby that is too small to be in a high chair when they have a convertible car seat that stays in the car. I have a 4 month old (so not a newborn but still too small for restaurant high chairs) and we just transitioned from the portable type car seat to a convertible one and are now realizing that we don’t have anywhere to put baby down when we go in places. Now that I’m writing this I remembered strollers exist (lol) but still posting for curiosity on”

“alright so my 6 month old is extremely attached to me and her father. I thought she would grow out of it but nope! No one else can even look at her without her screaming (this is not an exaggeration) she has been around my parents 1000’s of times and still if they so much as so touch her arm she will scream until she looks like a cherry tomato. I can’t even get out of the house because if I sit her in her car seat she will scream the entire trip until she’s back in my arms. It’s extremely stress”

“I’m 6 weeks with my third child and I can’t stop crying. I cry everywhere and I can’t stop sometimes. I hate it so bad. I was at my daughter’s soccer game and just burst out in tears. Not only am I crying a lot, I now think I hate my husband! We’ve been arguing a lot lately and I don’t want him talking to me, touching me, looking at me, nothing. Idk what’s wrong with me. :( I pray it’s not depression but it feels like it. Is it just my hormones?! Ugggghhhhhh submitted by /u/Embarrass”

“Hey guys I’m new to the group. I’m a father and my daughter gets extremely fussy every night from 10p-12am. She cries extremely loud and I always get really concerned. Last week I went to the doctor because my parents (who came some days to help) told me that for them it was not normal. The doctor ran some allergy and stool tests and told us it was normal. My wife also told me it’s normal for newborns to behave that way. I don’t know what to think because in one side my wife tells me it’s normal”

“We have a three week old and as expected she’s unpredictable so we’re a little too scared to take her anywhere but I’m curious at what age do most babies get a little more comfortable going places…or I guess when did you feel comfortable taking them places lol. I’m just hopeful for the day we can go to the store as a family instead of just sending my husband or going alone submitted by /u/Acceptable-Bed3686 [link] [comments]”

“Hello, my baby is now 7 months and something happened in the last few weeks where if my GF leaves she freaks out and starts crying etc. Due to circumstances I was able to stay home with my baby and GF for the first 6 months, but now I’m back to work. GF got laid off so she’s able to stay with her which is nice right now. Anyways, the last few weeks when I’m holding her she cries immediately even if my GF is in the same room. The second she leaves the room she’ll cry again 😂 I know obviously she”

“My son is 22 months old and we only have 1 car so sometimes when I go to my appointments or his I'm still using his infant car seat because there's no way I can lug around his toddler 360 seat to appointments in ubers or any other transportation, but obviously I can't use this infant car seat forever lol, so is there anything more lightweight I can put him in to travel that's meant for toddlers???? Especially since most toddler seats don't attatch to the stroller like infant”

“Has anyone else experienced this? My daughter is almost 6 months old and whenever anyone reads her a book before bed, she starts crying hysterically. It’s almost like she gets overstimulated by the books? We read black and white books to her since she a newborn and then switched to regular books. She would be fine and then just recently she started going hysterical when we read and it’s been multiple days in a row and multiple kinds of books. My husband hates and is a bad reader but I didn’t thi”

“I will be flying with my 5 month old for the first time and unfortunately I’ll be solo. The flight is 5 hours.The baby has a seat so she will be in her car seat but looking for any tips to make this easier. I will check my bags and I bought a travel stroller that can hold my car seat. My baby hates being in a carrier so unfortunately that won’t be much help. She likes being in her car seat but it’s a long flight so she can’t be in there long. Any tips highly appreciated! submitted by”

“We’re on a trip to Europe with our almost 11 month old baby. He used to be okay with his stroller before - a bit whiny after some time - but nothing like the screeching gremlin we seemed to have inherited for our trip. He will WAIL the minute his bum touches the stroller seat. He started doing this a few days before our trip, with his regular stroller at home. He’s sat in the travel stroller before (at 6 months, on another trip) and been generally okay. He would even go to sleep in it. We unders”

“My 3mo screams like he’s being tortured whenever we get in the car, the sound of his cries being that distressed make me want to vomit. I’m a single mum I can’t sit in the back to comfort him. I’ve tried pulling over to comfort him, he’s fine the second he’s out of the car seat but no matter what as soon as I put him back in he’s screaming again, so there’s not much point, it just makes it go on longer. He used to be in the capsule but I changed him to the car seat because I read that could help”

“Was picking the car seat up off the living room floor when my eight month old leaned forward and landed on his chest and I feel like a complete piece of shit about it. It was more or less a foot or so off the ground. He cried for no more than ten seconds, while I’ve been crying for no less than two days. Should I take him to his pediatrician to make sure he’s ok? submitted by /u/Imaginary_Order2757 [link] [comments]”

“We thought we were smart to get everything packed and in the car early. I just got in from a second shift and we're about to go to bed when our LO wakes up inconsolable face covered in snot and coughing. I knew it was too good to be true earlier she was a little runny during the day but my wife assured me it's because she was teething and we'd be fine. I knew her lies but I was powerless to do anything. We've got a 4 hour drive tomorrow with a sick baby. I cannot wait for the fun”

“LO is 4 months and I’m not sure how to navigate this. Whenever I leave the house, heck even the room, for more than ten minutes and have my husband watch baby she cries and gets upset. Any tips to share? Medically I know she can go a couple hours at least without me (she’s EBF) but this doesn’t feel like a hunger issue at all. I love my baby and am happy to take care of her but there are times I’d like to go shopping/see a movie/etc solo. It’s also discouraging for my husband. submitted by”

“My 8 month old baby girl is extremely needy, she has always been. She constantly wants to be held or right next to me. If shes crying, I make sure shes not hungry, dirty, or sleepy. I spend time with her and play with her, but sometimes i need to put her down. Here and there she will play by herself in her play pen without whining for max 45 minutes, but usually, it’s a huge issue if I put her down there. She will hysterically cry and she won’t stop. She will cry so hard that she starts coughing”

“I’m four months postpartum and I am yet to drive with my baby. I’ve always been a confident driver, but for some reason, the thought of it alone seems terrifying. Don’t mind riding in the car. My husband drives me places, but I’m tired of being stuck in the house, but for some reason, I feel like the second I’m the one driving, something bad is gonna happen to us 🥴🙃 Please tell me I’m not alone lol I’m going crazy. Like I’ll pack the bags and the car then pull stuff back out and go inside &#32”

“I have an 11 month old who screams like he’s being pickled every time I put him in the car. I give him toys and bottle, I am positive that he is comfortable in the car seat, I think it’s simply because he is back there by himself. As soon as I take him out of the car he is completely fine, but when I am driving he screams and cries to the point of making himself throw up almost every time. Has this happened to any of you? What do i do!? submitted by /u/Agile-Discount3793 [link]”

“Hello, I want to start by saying I have a pediatrician appointment today in a few hours. I want to make sure I advocate for my 3 week old baby and what I should have them all check and do for her today. She has been on Enfamil GentleEase formula for a week today. and sometimes I mix a very small amount of breast milk into it as I don’t get much out when I pump The last few days she has been getting fussier and angrier during her wake windows - after feeding she scream cries and is inconsolable,”

“My baby is 8 weeks old, and quite a fussy kid. Car rides are hard for us, public outings are hard. I pretty much sit at home all day every day and cycle through sleeping and feeding baby, then back to sleep. I don’t have a lot of friends, my family is quite far away. I expected of course to have some lack of independence once I had a baby, but I’ve truly lost myself in this. I also don’t have a steady income so I’m unable to do nice things for myself. What do I even do to make myself feel human?”

“I desperately want to take my 3 week old on a walk or sit outside, but it’s been around 90 degrees out and humid since he’s been born. We’ve only gone outside when putting him in the car. Can we sit outside with him if it’s shaded, he’s in a short sleeve onesie, and has a fan? submitted by /u/Particular-Step5278 [link] [comments]”

“So I put her in the car seat and she was fine on the way to my nanas house about 20 minutes away and then on the way back she was fine for about 10 minutes and then screamed her heart out for the last 10. It sounds like she is being tortured when she screams she really hates the car seat but on the way there she was fine idk what’s going on she does it a lot when in the car any advice ? submitted by /u/Thin-Volume8900 [link] [comments]”

“When my baby was born, he loved car rides and was so content. When he hit 5 weeks old it completely changed. Probably because he was more aware. But now he’s 2 months old and husband and I loathe having to go anywhere with him. He’s fine for about 10 minutes and then will cry and scream forever especially if we stop the car! He won’t stop fussing until we stop the car and take him out of his car seat. We’ve tried holing his hand, giving him a pacifier, music, and rocking his car seat when we sto”

“’m a first time mom and struggling to know if this is normal! My 3 week old baby cries anytime he is awake and he doesn’t really have any true wake windows. When he’s awake we change him, he cries, we feed him, and then he cries and wants to stay on the boob or goes to sleep. We have been giving him gas drops the last few days and it has helped him sleep better but he still cries anytime he’s awake. It’s super hard on my mental health. Is this normal? submitted by /u/Appropriate-Sea-”

“My daughter is 3 weeks old and was a very calm newborn for the first couple of weeks. Over the last few days she has suddenly become much fussier during a lot of her wake windows and I’m really struggling to figure out if this is just normal newborn stuff, gas, reflux, or if her formula isn’t agreeing with her. She was originally getting mostly breast milk with about 1 formula bottle a day. We started Member’s Mark Gentle (purple can, comparable to Gentlease) a little over a week ago and she ini”

“Just walked our 12 week old in town for the first time today. He was doing okay until he got startled by a motorcycle and basically just cried halfway through and as we walk back to the car. I personally got a bit anxious because in my mind I think “Oh I hope no one thinks we’re bad parents and I hope we’re not ruining anyone’s day”. On the other hand my baby is just being a baby and learning how to be a human in public 😅 I know it gets better but I’m looking forward to the day he’s excited to”

“My baby is only 3 months old and I keep thinking about how difficult it is because she doesn’t understand me. But I also feel like when she does understand me and I scold/discipline her for her first time I will probably go into another room and laugh. Like omg I just corrected her behavior for the first time. 😭 I also think maybe I’ll cry because she’s so big to the point she can understand me. 🥺 submitted by /u/swagalicioussteph [link] [comments]”

“My baby sits in the carseat/stroller wherever we go, I rarely wear my baby. We were out and a couple with a baby exchanged "aww your baby is cute". The dad proceeds to tell me that wearing the baby is better so that they are upright and can see everything. My baby was happily sitting in their carseat.... submitted by /u/No_Ocelot8629 [link] [comments]”

“Took my daughter in for her 4 month shots yesterday. She screamed for about fifteen seconds, then passed out in the car seat before we got out of the parking lot. Completely over it. I am not over it. Today she's got a real bruise on her thigh where the needle went in. She doesn't care even slightly, she's kicking that leg around like nothing happened, but I've checked it about nine times. Did anyone else's kid bruise from theirs? And does the part where you have to hold them”

“we are in the depths of terrible twos at 2 yr 3 mo. today my toddler refused to get in the car seat for one hour. one hour I sat at the daycare parking lot. I tried everything, positive reinforcement, bribing with special snacks, telling him someone special was waiting at home, asking him to show me how to put the buckles, even telling him I was leaving without him. yes I tried to force him into his car seat too, eliciting loud screeches and judgement from passing parents. finally I had to call”

“My baby is 7 months old. I obviously love her so much but she cries about 85% of the time. At 6 month checkup doctor said nothing looks wrong and she just seems to be a clingy baby since she almost always calms down once my husband or, mostly I, hold her. She mostly wakes up screaming and crying. Usually when i nurse her she pops off each boob about 10 times screaming and crying before finally latching for a considerable time and drinking. Can rarely play on her mat alone without screaming and c”

“Frustration isn't a strong enough word to describe what I'm feeling. Our baby is 3 months EBF. Since birth there have been tears, screams, discomfort, whining, pain, spit ups, vomits, cough, blocked nose, and the list continues. Our doctor gave us gaviscon and Nexium and sent us to see a specialist. The specialist suspects CMPA and soy allergy, I tried this for about two weeks and saw some results but our baby is still struggling. We went to get a second opinion and I've been taken o”

“Hello parents, I’m struggling badly with the car seat issue. My baby cries if the car isn’t in motion. Sometimes we can make it past a stop light if the car has been going for longer than 5 minutes, but we definitely can’t go through a drive through. She’s held upright for 20+ mins after feeds and burped well, she’s 3 months old. I brought it up to her pediatrician and got the same spiel about how it’s not severe reflux unless she’s spitting up every feed, so no help there. submitted by &#”

“Just like the title says, I accidentally locked my baby in the car today. I feel so terrible and guilty! I just had a massive win towards my PPA yesterday and feel like I've taken a step back after this. Yesterday I was so proud of myself. I left baby (m,10w) alone with dad for the first time to go play volleyball. I enjoyed it and even stayed for a drink afterwards. Before today the longest I left him was 20min. So this felt like a massive win. Today I went food shopping and when I put baby”

“I need some advice, tips, words of wisdom or just commiseration regarding my 17mo old daughter’s behavior. Ever since she was born, I’ve had a difficult time with her. She was very colicky and cried for hours everyday until about 4 months old. Maybe even until 6 months, it’s all a blur to me now. She was exclusively breastfed and refused bottles, refused pacifiers, didn’t like to be with my husband so it was all on me 24/7. She had some gas issues and thrush as a baby as well so I’m sure that co”

“My partner and I are planning a trip with our little one. We used to travel super light, but now that we have a baby, the whole car seat situation is not an easy one. Bringing a heavy car seat from home just for a few taxi rides seems like a nightmare, especially when hopping between different towns. But at the same time, riding in cabs without any protection, which is normal for many countries, doesn't feel right. How do you actually handle car safety when traveling? Bring your own, use tho”

“Have a 3 month old little girl, i love her to bits and 99.9% of the time i am calm and collected. But when she won’t nap, and screams when I put her in the crib I feel like screaming. I can feel it in my chest building. I know she’s exhausted and she just will not nap. I guess a nap is the only way i can get a minute to breathe too submitted by /u/Downtown_Oil2056 [link] [comments]”

“She was crying in her car seat and inconsolable. Kept giving her random objects and toys and she would grab them and then cry. Gave her my hand and she grabbed it and chewed on it and fell asleep lol submitted by /u/snuffbox360 [link] [comments]”

“We have a relatively “easy” baby. She’s hit 3 months , discovered her hands and has just gone crazy. Won’t sleep, flapping her arms around , completely focused on hands. Getting so over tired she just cries. Anyone else ? submitted by /u/Downtown_Oil2056 [link] [comments]”

“I have a 10.5 month old baby girl whom I've had a rough time with since the very beginning. She was constantly crying unless held or latched onto the boob. We had to resort to cosleeping to get any sleep and even then she was up every 2 hours. Eventually she started sleeping longer stretches and one day at 6 months we just threw her in the crib and she slept! I was elated, the clouds were parting. she still woke up once a night in which I just fed her back to sleep, And that was manageable f”

“In a few weeks we’ll be going to the beach with my (by then) 8 month old. The drive is about 4 hours. The longest drive she’s ever been on is less than an hour one way. I know babies shouldn’t be in car seats for more than 2 hours so we plan on stopping half way (at least). Does anyone have any advice on making the trip as smooth as possible? She doesn’t seem to mind car rides and usually just falls asleep but like I said it’s never been for this far of a drive. I also have such anxiety about he”