Parents feel overwhelmed by baby’s constant needs

“Hey boys. 2 week old beautiful daughter who I love with my entire heart. Im sitting here for the 5th night in a row at 2 in the morning where she is basically inconsolable between the hours of 10 and 3. She roots but pushes the bottle away. She is an angel for about 10 minutes if i bounce her in my arms then screams bloody murder. I change her diaper probably once an hour. This is my time to give my wife a break but it feels like im failing at that. I know it will pass and I’ll probably wish I c”

“First time mom, very sleep deprived, and struggling to differentiate hunger cues from general upset about gas. I'll feed her for a solid 30-40min, she usually falls asleep and then I've been playing with just leaving her asleep or burping her. She seems to get upset if I burp her and wake her up (overtired?) but then I know she'll be upset later if I don't burp her and she gets gassy. If I wake her up while burping within several minutes she'll start rooting around, chewing a”

“I am 15 days pp, EBF, FTM. Baby feeds roughly every 2 hours, takes about 1 hour in the night to get him sorted so couldn’t really ask for better. I am trying my best to rest and sleep as much as I can and I am eating and drinking plenty. Been to doctors and everything is as it should be. But I am just exhausted- on the verge of collapsing all the time. Any advice would be appreciated... Sometimes I can’t even stand submitted by /u/Happy_Melon8939 [link] [comments]”

“FTM to a beautiful baby boy who turned 5 months yesterday. Everyone tells me things get better around 6 months but I'm struggling to believe it. Sleep deprivation is wrecking me, for the first 6 weeks of his life LO woke every 45 minutes overnight and my husband and I slept in shifts. By 8 weeks this had extended to every 2-3 hours but he started fighting naps (all five of them per day) and bedtime, so I spent more than half my day trapped in a dark room rocking and bouncing him while desper”

“Evening dads. Fresh out of the hospital with baby number 2, past 24 hours have been a rollercoaster to say the least but I don't see the light at the end of the tunnel. Physically and mentally struggling, our first has decided to go through a sleep regression, taking ages to go down, frequent wake ups in the night last night and anticipating the same again with how he's just performed! Trying to look after my partner first but also myself, can't stop thinking about it we've made”

“Hello! A funny request for advise if anyone has any ideas. No idea how to tag it, but our LO poops between 5:15-5:45 every morning. When she doesn’t, she now wants snuggles/contact nap till 6. She seems to need more sleep, but the poop comes when it comes. How do we help? What do we do? Why won’t she poop like 30 minutes later???? 5am poop change and contact nap is killing me. When will this end??? submitted by /u/ojk2390 [link] [comments]”

“Hey guys. I’m a first time dad of a 18 week old boy & i’m at my wits end. I’m so so so tired. He used to sleep good, than the four month sleep regression hit us really hard. For about five weeks he was up every 45 minutes. Last week was good, he slept a bit better, but now he’s so angry all the time, the nights are so rough again. I don’t know how long I can keep doing this. Please can anyone help me… how did it go for you? They told me everything would be better at 12 weeks, well it isn’t.”

“oof nursing lately has been TOUGH. my LO will be 14 weeks (wow i can’t believe he’s not a newborn anymore 😭) He’s soooooo fussy when i try to nurse him. even if i try right when he wakes up he doesn’t want it, i wait til a bit after, he won’t take it. he’s been only really eating in sidelying, but we’re going to an event this weekend so that’s not possible. he’s normally an eat every hour kinda dude, so i’m just worried that he’s going to get dehydrated or starve (my husband thinks i’m dramatic”

“Hi, My baby boy is almost 10 weeks, he is awake most of the times during day, he sleeps at night but he is so fussy because he is sleepy. I tried everythink rocking, bouncing, swadling, give him pacifier or give him breast. He is getting drowsy but immediately awake again. Im so exhausted, if he's getting drowsy i let him contact nap but he is getting awake immediately. What should i do? submitted by /u/Yuni8 [link] [comments]”

“Guys in a FTM to a 6 month old and my baby came home on Friday with a gnarly cold. WHAT do you do?? It’s night 4 and he wakes every 45 min because he’s so stuffed up😭 this is worse than the 4 month sleep regression! We have a cool mist humidifier, sat in the steamy bathroom for 15 min before bed, saline drops and snot sucker. Nothing gets him to sleep. Is this normal?? Do you guys just not sleep when your baby is sick? How do you function? How do you go to work? I feel like I’m going insane and”

“My LO is now 4m old. This started at 2.5m. He is EBF mostly except for when I am at work (I don’t work a crazy bunch, just a few hours a week) he takes pumped milk. I went back to work when he was 9 weeks old. At this time, LO had slept though the night pretty much consistently. (6-9hr stretches every night, one feed between 3-4am, and back to sleep til about 7:30-8:30). Once he was put down, he was asleep til his wakeup. This routine continued til pretty much 11 weeks then he started waking up”

“We are down to 4 naps but struggling to hit 4 hours. Curious where everyone else is. What time is bedtime? submitted by /u/Interesting_Base_179 [link] [comments]”

“4 month old. Been awake in his crib for 40 min at 2 am contently babbling and playing. He was fed 2 hours ago - no hunger cues. I’ve been trying to let him he and fall back asleep himself, he’s not upset whatsoever. I wanted to see if he’d go back to sleep himself. When do I go in and help him back to sleep??? Do I just let him play like this for hours in the middle of the night?? submitted by /u/furryfar [link] [comments]”

“Not every time, just about 6-8p and then around midnight; I’ve survived these last two nights by giving 4-8ml of collected colostrum and that seems to help. I’m lucky with this one (my third) that we sleep in two three hour blocks at night. The 4/5am wakes aren’t an issue either. All this leads me to think my prolactin levels at night and storage capacity gets me from midnight to morning, and then carries me through the day; but do I need to consider underproduction? OR Is this a normal part of”

“My baby will be 4 weeks tomorrow. Over the last couple of days he has become inconsolable. He cries for hours and is only happy if he is being fed or help upright. He has been refusing naps. He has barely napped over the last two days. Idk what to do anymore and have spent the majority of the day crying. I have the urge to get in the car and never come back. submitted by /u/Animal_lover888 [link] [comments]”

“My baby will be 4 months old in a week. The first month was good, the baby was sleeping well, my husband was off work, the weather was nice. The second and third month were even better, we started having visitors and hanging out with friends again, baby was finally gaining weight as he should, the weather was still ok, we went on a lot of walks. His sleep was decent. Then the 4th month hit. I got my period back, my hair started falling out, the baby shows signs of teething and is fussier than us”

“Hey everyone, I see so many posts on social media and even here from parents whose babies sleep in long stretches, wake up just a couple of times, or have somewhat predictable daytime schedules with fixed naps. My 12-week-old’s sleep looks nothing like that, day or night, and I’m starting to feel so overwhelmed trying to figure out how to help him. Here is what our reality looks like right now: Bassinet/Back-sleeping: He absolutely refuses to sleep on his back in his bassinet. If I put him down,”

“I’m crashing out. Send help. This baby doesn’t want to be put down for more than 2 mins. We’re doing shifts — me up from 9pm-3am and him up from 3am-9am as primary. I’m still building up my milk supply so my sleep is very interrupted, then I have to wake hubby up halfway through his sleep so I can pump uninterrupted. I’m waiting for pumping bras to arrive to help me pump hands free, which I hope will help. My husband and I have not been able to literally just sleep next to each other at the same”

“Feeling really burnt out lately Son is just under 22 months. He was a pretty chill newborn and infant. He never napped well which had its challenges but slept over night without waking up despite waking up early. Fine. It was workable But for the last almost 3 months he has been waking up - daily - at 4-430AM without fail. My wife and I take turns waking up with him but it’s been killing us. We will try to get him back to sleep but rarely works . We’re often starting our day hours before we have”

“I have a 12-week-old baby who loves being held. For the longest time, we only did contact naps, and at night I wasn't able to get him to sleep in his Next2Me crib, so we resorted to bedsharing. Some days recently have started getting better, while others feel like we're right back at square one. Through all of this, though, he’s started smiling and "talking," and the sweetest thing just happened (or the sweetest thing so far , to be accurate). He woke up from a nap, I nursed hi”

“First time mom here with a 9-week old. For the past 4 days I can’t get the baby to sleep but my husband and mom can easily do it. Just feeling a bit frustrated cause I should be able to do this but for some reason the baby just won’t sleep when I’m the one doing it. Goes for both naps and night time sleep. Tried it all - carrying him differently, bouncing on yoga ball, shushing, nursing, and basically all the things I did before. Not sure what changed for the past few days. I guess this is a ven”

“Losing my mind! Isnt it supposed to be better??? Why is my LO now waking up 1-3 hrs at night?? Am j missing some new growth spurt or regression or whatever new thing us parents like to say to help us not cry or lose our mind?? Whats going on yall and plss someone tell me theyve been there because I feel like I’m doing something wrong submitted by /u/Flat_Bake3487 [link] [comments]”

“Our boys 4.5 months and just hit 20 pounds the other day. I love the chonk but I’m starting to get a bit stressed because he’s already grown out of a lot of his items. His bassinet had a 20lb weight limit but he graduated from that early regardless because he was rolling. His baby bjorn bouncer that we used religiously also has a 20lb weight limit, and I was going to buy him a circle of neglect today only to see them all have a 25lb weight limit so now I’m like what’s the point ?? Even the jolly”

“I've been up for two hours trying to get my LO to sleep in the bassinet. She's currently drifting off in my lap while my fiance snores beside me. I need some support. I want to preface this by saying that I am very lucky to have quite an easy baby. We are EBF and I was grattthat she slept a lot since day 1 and started sleeping through the night from 2-4 months. I'm talking 3-4 hours of solid nap time and 11 hours of unbroken sleep at night. However, for the past two weeks, she's”

“Our little guy has always had struggles with consistent sleep, but this is a new struggle. He’s always had significantly below the amount of sleep he’s supposed to get, regardless of environment. Now that we’re at the ten week mark, he’ll get about eight hours of sleep at night (with one food break in the middle) before staying up for the rest of the day. If we’re lucky, we might get a half hour nap around 11am, and the rare half hour around 4pm. Otherwise, he only sleeps at night. I just spent”

“He slept four hours straight guys!! I had been getting up every hour! Every single hour. He was spitting up like crazy. It was terrible I was tired!! So we went to the pediatrician, I told them his symptoms and that I had been trying to supplement formula into his feed because I felt like he was not getting enough food, and that he was spitting all of it up. She said must be reflux, try this formula and here’s some medicine, we’ll follow up next week. Started that day and it is currently midnigh”

“Really missing her sleeping through the night 😭 We had about a month of her getting 10-11 hours of uninterrupted sleep, and now the longest she's asleep for is 4 hours without needing to be picked up and held/fed. She's up 3-5 times every night now. How long can we expect this to go on for before her sleep regulates again? submitted by /u/IntellectualDinosaur [link] [comments]”

“As the title says :( my 11 week old (8 week adjusted age) has seemingly turned into a miserable mess since last weekend poor bub. He went from sleeping from 9pm-5 ish to getting up at 11:30, 1am, 3:30… you get the drift. When he does wake he is hard crying right off the bat. Not like before when he’d fuss and just essentially make noise. Nursing or even bottle aren’t cutting it too much. His feedings have become less than fulfilling. He fusses, arches his back, protests and sometimes take neithe”

“I feel like I have a ton of concerns about my 9 month old baby. We literally have a pediatrician appointment tomorrow, and I'm also aware that some of these worries might just stem from my own anxiety. I'm just worried that some of these things are connected and I'm not seeing the bigger picture (as in there's a developmental concern for my baby). She has super tiny feet. She's in the 99th percentile for height and weight but her feet are the size of a 3 month old. She will n”

“My son is almost 11 weeks old and sleeps pretty well at night (currently in his own bassinet in our room)! We often get 6 hour stretches before he wakes up hungry and he typically goes right back to sleep for another 4-5 hours after a bottle. He’s never been a good napper since the day he was born. I’ve diligently watched wake windows and tried to put him down within them, but it’s a fight every time. I’ve tried the shorter ends of wake windows and longer. Right in the middle too and no differen”

“Gave birth to a beautiful, healthy boy one week ago. He is my second after breastfeeding my first for a year. It’s no going quite smoothly, he is gaining weight well and making lots of wet and dirty diapers. The thing is, he is going 4, sometimes almost 5 hours overnight between feeds. He eats well when he does wake, but it’s just less frequent than I remember with my first. I’m appreciating getting some sleep, but at the same time, I’m worried about tanking my supply before it’s really establis”

“Hello daddit. I need help. My baby just turned one month old yesterday. My fiancè spends a majority of the time with the baby as I work 10 hour days. Our baby wakes up in the middle of the night and wants to stay awake for long hours at a time. I’m trying to take over and give my fiancé a break but whenever I take the baby, all he does is want to cry and I cannot seem to get him to calm down leading her to just want her to take him so he calms down. He usually calms down pretty easily with her.”

“My 1 year old is teething so he’s been extra fussy this week. It hasn’t felt like we’ve gotten good quality time with him this week because he’s been fussy at home with us. It’s just making me feel sad about him being at daycare and getting so little quality time this week. This isn’t a “I don’t wanna work” type of rant because I want to work and need to work. But some weeks are just harder than others and this is one of them when I’m feeling like I’m missing quality time with him. submitt”

“My boy is 14 months old, he’s sensitive, intelligent and always full of energy. We’ve been through a few sleep regressions but this one feels like it’s going to break me. Prior to this we did gentle sleep training and while it was tough he reacted great, slept through the night the first night and continued for a few months. About 3 weeks ago his first molar came in, my wife and I both agreed he needed the extra love and support so we started rocking him to sleep at night when he woke (previousl”

“What do I do about my 14 week old fighting feeds and sleep until he is so angry? He will show cues of both hunger and sleep, I will offer either, and he will get upset. But if I do nothing, we go on 2.5+ hours and he is incredibly angry at that point. submitted by /u/Extension_Dog9366 [link] [comments]”

“My little guy is 3.5 weeks old and I’m EBF. He honestly sleeps decent at night for his age. We put him down around 10, and he wakes about every 2.5 hours to eat sometimes stretching to 3 hours. Even though his sleep isn’t terrible, I feel so worn down from the sleep deprivation. I can’t catch up during the day because he won’t nap anywhere but on me. I’ve been feeling kind of depressed and am already on medication. I just feel like I’m being robbed of enjoying my baby because being tired makes m”

“Howdy Daddit. We have a happy and healthy four month old, who perhaps unsurprisingly, is struggling to sleep long stretches. Tell me how you got through your regressions! He’s been rolling back to belly since like 9 weeks and keeps getting stuck on his belly in the crib and gets mad. I would say we soothed him at least 7-8 times last night total. Interestingly enough, we asked our pediatrician and he said to do the rolled towel method to stop the rolling to which we were like ok, cool, time to f”

“My baby is almost 3 months old and I am miserable. He is awake from 1-5/6am every single night, no naps. He isn’t cranky, he is just WIDE AWAKE. I have never been so exhausted in my life. We have been trying to keep him up during the day but he just screams and becomes so angry, even if we try short wakes. Any advice on how to change his schedule? I can’t keep doing this. submitted by /u/Life_Lie_1181 [link] [comments]”

“My baby girl will NOT nap, is inconsolable at times, fusses for hours no matter what we try. like girl you ARE tired so just SLEEP I don’t get it. currently sitting next to her bassinet holding the binky in her mouth while she fights with everything in her to stay awake. please tell me this gets better soon 😭 submitted by /u/Beneficial_Cup_8745 [link] [comments]”

“My son was born at 318 Sunday morning and has been the perfect baby. Anytime he’d get fussy we could easily calm him, reswaddle, top off the tummy, and back to sleep. It was honestly impressive. Of course, we knew the pendulum would eventually swing and boy did it last night. Cluster feeding, constipation, gas, nurses in and out. Anytime we thought “ok we made it to the quiet part” someone else would walk in or he would wake up. We survived but we’re all zombies. The nurses told us this is compl”

“I read through a post (couldn’t figure out how to tag it) where parents shared when their baby started sleeping through the night and HOW they put their babies to bed. Anywho, I noticed a trend of parents that said their babies slept the whole night at like 4/5 months…everyone commented about their babies being more independent and not wanting to cuddle as much. As someone who has a cuddly baby, it was really surprising. But it made me think that maybe there was a connection? My baby is a Velcro”

“Not sure which flair to use so I just picked one. LO is 10 weeks and 2 days born at 39+1 and I'm a rollercoaster of emotions. I know everyone says once you think you have it figured out they'll change it up on you, but it still doesn't make it easy to go through 😭 I really thought I had a good grasp on her "routine" (I know I know, they don't really have them this early, but her daily rhythm, if you will, has been about the same - like time between feeds, when she need”

“Hi I’m a FTM and my boy just turned 3 mos. We really struggled to get him latched for a long time but as of 2 weeks ago he’s been almost EBF which is really exciting. We only do a bottle at night if he needs it but he rarely does. Throughout the night I’ve dropped to just one pump session because I am/was an overproduced and my boobs hurt. I’m struggling in the morning. Some mornings he wants to eat at 7. Some mornings he snacks at 7 and then goes back to sleep on the boob. If he just snacks I e”

“Baby started eating a lot more at about 4 weeks, it lasted I think 5ish days before he suddenly stopped wanting so much and instead now will take max 3oz, altho it seems lately he just wants 2-2.5oz and to eat more often so now he is sleeping less and has been much more fussy and particular about things. Is this related to a growth spurt? I do know he gained 2lbs and 1 inch in length in a 2 week time frame. submitted by /u/analslapchop [link] [comments]”

“I've struggled with getting a deep latch since day one. My son is about 5 and a half weeks old and I cannot figure this out! We struggled in the beginning and I saw a lactation consultant and that helped but then the last few days we've lost it and I'm back to extremely sore nipples and dreading each feed. I have large breasts and I struggle to get more than just my nipple in his mouth. I'M using the flipple technique but again it doesnt seem to be working.bI use cross cradle pre”

“I just have to share my excitement because only my husband understands. We have a 6 almost 7 week old baby girl who is so beautiful and precious. Those first few weeks though were rrooouugghhh. Learning her cues, anticipating needs, round the clock feedings and dealings with the fussiness and her screaming her head off. Today it was magical. We started a strict routine of feedings, changing, play time, tummy time and naps. It’s been a challenge last few days but today it was like the puzzle piec”

“Trying to figure out if this is normal or if there’s something more going on that I’m missing. I’m a second-time mum to a 4-month-old, and he is SO different from my first. For the first 3 months, he was genuinely the easiest newborn. Very sleepy, basically ate and slept all the time, and did long stretches overnight. He smiled at 5 weeks and didn’t stop whenever he was awake. He was also very easy to get to sleep with motion, and we created a habit of that. He transferred easily too. Then, arou”

“My 4 month old has been a pretty fussy baby since day 1. I contact nap with her, I cosleep the her and she is EBF. I do 100% of all sleep (minus my mother who watches baby while I WFH). When she’s awake 70% of her wake times she’s whinny and just fussy. She cries going down for most naps and bedtime. I try to keep her wake windows from anywhere from 1.5 -2.5 but following sleep cues as much as possible. My husband is not understanding of her fussiness because when he holds her she is 90% of the”

“I am in hell. Baby has been amazing so far, i got him into a routine about a month ago and he was sleeping through most nights. Well sod all that because this pesky butt won't let me put him down AT ALL!! He will only sleep when my nipple is in his mouth, this minute it's out his eyes ping back open!! This is only night 2!! submitted by /u/NoInteraction9045 [link] [comments]”

“So our LO is 6 weeks now and colicky. My husband is a doctor who works long hours and I'm on mat leave, we have no other support but share shifts as reasonably as we can so I can also sleep and pump. Everyone told us week 6-8 is going to be the worst, and it feels like it's starting. At night she is inconsolable, no matter what. My poor husband is a mess because he feels nothing he was taught prepared him for this, and he's trying so hard but she's just screaming in distress for”

“4am rn 33 +2 Slept 10-1 am Then I usually wake up at 5 am, sleep until 7am, then sleep again from 11ish to 2pm. God help us all lmao submitted by /u/Sad-Excitement-7932 [link] [comments]”

“My baby is 11, almost 12, weeks and I swear he’s not happy unless he’s on my boob. I can get a 2-3 hour stretch at night where he’s in his own bed before he wakes and eats but then we end up cosleeping because he wakes up when I put him in his own bed. I feel like he is always attached to me. He has dirty and wet diapers like nobodies business, I pump when I’m at work (2 nights a week) and get anywhere between 3-6 ounces (combined) every 2-3 hours, and he’s gaining weight. I’m just getting a lit”

“My almost 3 week old newborn had the best week windows and nap time when he was first born, and things are really taken a turn. I’ve been trying to breast-feed but having issues with low supply. I supplement with formula if needed, but I’m trying to prioritize latching him more if he shows hunger cues. This morning we woke up about 7:30. I changed his diaper, and began breast-feeding. Breast breast-feeding for me takes about an hour. I breast-feed him on each breast for about 15 minutes each, I”

“My LO is 4.5 weeks and was pretty chill until about a week ago. She has been screaming a lot more, harder to console, isn’t eating well, and her sleep is more erratic. My poor husband took the whole night shift last night (we’ve been halving the nights) to give me a break and only slept 1 hour because she was just eating and crying all night. It has never been that bad. Basically, my question is: what the heck is going on? I’ve read how 6-8 weeks is the worst, but there’s no way it’s worse than”

“Hi, i have a 7wk old baby boy and I'm still in newborn trenches, i could really use some reassurance right now... when does it get easier? He doesn't want to sleep in his crib, cries his lungs out as soon as i try to put him down. He only sleeps in my or my husband's hands, and we don't have time to get anything done around the house. His wake windows are often a couple hours long. It's heatwave where i live so we're stuck home all day every day. He hates being put in the”

“Man, where do I begin? My wife and I just had our 3rd baby. It's a girl!! Don't get us wrong, we are thrilled. Happy and in love. Well, we are just both exhausted, man. It's the 4th night, and our daughter might have colic. Crazy so soon. First for me. My oldest had it once, but I swear he was a couple of months older. Currently, I'm padding her back, rocking her as she falls back to sleep. My wife is tired and crying her eyes out. Our newborn has been up since midnight; it's”

“Just wondering how everyone else out there is doing and what an average day looks like for you?I’ve got a 17 day old boy and we have been out of the house a considerable amount (Walks, coffee shops, a few restaurants) because being inside makes me incredibly depressed when done too much. Today was the first day since his first week home we laid in bed all day just nursing and sleeping. What’s an average day look like for you? submitted by /u/Aggravating_Post_942 [link] [comment”

“LO is almost 6 weeks. Today he’s been so fussy. Crying constantly. I thought it’s comfort feeding/him being overtired. So I gave him the pacifier which tended to calm him down for a bit, he’d fall asleep for like half an hour then cry again. I fed him on a 1.5-2 hour intervals. Once I fed him an hour later and he was barely eating, more like pacifying himself. So that’s why I thought it might not be cluster feeding. Now after reading posts, I am thinking he might‘ve been cluster feeding and I’m”

“Feeling sad didn’t realise how many milestones you should really be catching up to by now. I feel like I was really focusing on the social milestones, but not thinking too much about physical ones. He smiles he can laugh and he does share eye contacts although it’s not consistent. But I feel like when he’s on the floor, he just wants to lay there and eat his hand. He isn’t trying to roll onto his stomach, he isn’t REACHING for toys he things my biggest worry tbh I see videos of my daughter at 3”