Kids experience bullying at school

“My son is in grade 1. And it’s only been 6 weeks of school but he has been getting pushed and shoved by another little boy. At first, it seemed small - disagreement, etc. but then he said he was slapped on his cheek (sent to the office, no notification) and the day I volunteered for 3 hrs, I saw this same kid punch a boy in the stomach (random, unprovoked) and then later that day, my son said he was punched in the eye. Thankfully I was notified by the principal but nothing from the teacher. We w”

“My daughter is in Grade 6 and there is a group of girls in her class this year who are known bullies. There have been many instances of them mentally and physically bullying other kids over the years. The school's only response has been to have talks with them in the principal's office and/or contact their parents. But it's pretty clear that talking to them does nothing, and their parents do not care about their behavior at school. Other kids have already left the school because of t”

“A little while ago, I asked my child what they would do if another child pushed them, laughed at them or said something unkind. The answer was basically, “I don’t know.” That stayed with me. As parents, we often say things like “stand up for yourself,” “use your words” or “tell a teacher.” But when a child is actually in that moment, those instructions can feel too big and vague. So we started practising small situations at home. I would pretend to be another child and say something like: “Ha! Y”

“My five-year-old daughter has a classmate who has reportedly spit on, hit, and exposed his private parts to other children. I'm concerned because there were similar issues last year, and several parents had raised concerns with the school. This year, the children are in the same class. I understand that young children are still developing impulse control and that there may be reasons behind these behaviours. I'm not looking to label or blame a five-year-old, but I want to make sure my da”

“Ok, things I hate about parenting. My almost 9 yo comes home saying another kid has been pushing him during break and is a bully. He repeatedly told the kid to stop but he doesn’t. I do know this kid doesn’t like my kid as I’ve seen him roll eyes at my kid etc before in previous classes . My kid also has adhd well managed by medications and is a star student and generally well behaved. I don’t suspect he is bothering the other kid but is prob being targeted. Should I email the teacher ? I really”

“Middle school bullies?! What are we doing about school bully’s? My son is in 7th grade this year and is having a hard time fitting in. He is getting bullied on a regular basis. Last week one of his “friends” pants him in the hallway. At lunch the group of kids he sits with almost daily take his food ( not all his food but they‘ll steal a muffin or his popcorn, whatever looks good) In class one of the same kids is shoving his books/ computer off his desk daily. He goes to a smaller school, I’m ta”

“Our daughter was severely bullied in middle school by one girl who was furious my daughter couldn’t be forced to be friends with her. This escalated so severely in 7th grade that we yanked her out of public school and went private. She has ZERO trust for teachers and admin. Her only objective is to get into class, ace it and get out. We got really lucky with teachers at her new school though! Everyone was absolutely understanding about her situation and NO teachers singled her out. Her school co”

“I feel sick, I’ve just heard that my daughter was seen making a girl in her class jump up and down whilst her friend took photos on a toy camera. This was definitely an act of humiliating someone for her or her friend’s amusement. This also happened one year ago, very similar situation, I was so upset and did not let her forget nor shrug the incident off. We left it on the pretense that she would be the first to stand up for this girl if something like this happened. Bullying is never right, but”

“my kid just started kindergarden and he occasionally tells me about people calling him names or making fun. Not often enough to qualify as bullying, all seems pretty normal to me, but of course part of his socialization is learning to deal with that appropriately. he did daycare/preschool before this, generally has fun playing with others and is super physically active, though he has to learn to listen better to properly participate in group games with rules etc. Again, seems standard for the ag”

“What about when they are bullies? Do you teach kindness over being the popular one? Curious to hear your thoughts and how that is for you submitted by /u/Pretty-Yam-7019 [link] [comments]”

“My 8 year old hates going to school because his teacher yells. He absolutely hates yelling. He’s takes everything to heart. He’s extremely empathetic. He is in third grade and all of his teachers have been the sweet and soft spoken type of teachers. This year his teacher has higher expectations and she’s harsher with the kids. She’s not cruel at all she just doesn’t coddle. I know she’s not doing anything wrong, I just need to know how to talk to him about separating his value from her tone. Doe”

“My 5 year old is getting flustered at school when she's called out for something or has some altercation with another kid. She then "needs some space" (she'll say, 'i need alone time') so sometimes she'll run away to the cubby area to be alone. The teacher is telling us they want her to stick with the group and use her words, work through her feelings, and get back to regular programming(my interpretation). At home if she needs space, we give her space, and talk abo”

“My daughter and my best friend's daughter are in the same class. They have always gotten along really well in and out of school but lately they have been having some issues connecting. My daughter came home the other day saying that this little one (my friend's daughter) was mad at her and refusing to talk to her because my daughter asked to be moved away from her because she was copying her work. This morning when we were all walking to school my friend's daughter seemed upset and s”

“My 7 year old has loved school until this year, lots of tears in the morning but seems to be fine once he’s at school. He finally told me tonight there is a little girl his age that says to him everyday “______ is going to kill you” I won’t mention names. I don’t know if they’re playing a game but he mentioned she does not say it to anyone else. I am planning on calling the teacher tomorrow. But I do see the dad at drop off everyday, do you think it’s something to mention to the dad tomorrow; or”

“Since young, my tween child has an attitude problem where he will reject activities that he isn't immediately good at, or if a friend is better at it. Recently, this manifests in his attitude towards school work. If a topic is too difficult for him, he'll give up and accept failure before even trying. We try to encourage him, but he just isn't interested in improving. Even with games... When playing video games like Halo, instead of trying to be better, he'll impose ridiculous ha”

“Our son (Sam age 10) had a friend (Rob age 10) since kindergarten. They were glued at the hip but over the last couple of years Sam has been less inclined to spend time with Rob. I’ve realized now that it’s because Rob has attachment issues and that put a lot of unwanted pressure on Sam, who tends to be more independent. Sam asked to switch classes this year, which has been very positive. He also texted Rob outright that he didn’t want to hangout but would see him at school (this was after Rob k”

“My 5yo son is a pretty strong, active kid, and physically I don't think there's anything stopping him from protecting himself. At home it's completely different. He loves play-fighting with me, wrestling, chasing, roughhousing, and he'll happily do the same kind of thing with his older sister. He's confident, coordinated, and definitely understands how to push back physically in a playful situation. But when another kid actually gets rough with him, he seems to freeze. He doe”

“Guys I need some advice. My daughter is 5 and has now had 4 incidents on the bus with the same child. This girl has pushed her into the aisle, smacked the top of her head, punched her in the face, and pushed her out of her seat as she begins to leave her seat, this is in order of each event. I emailed the school, talked to the bus driver, and drove down to the school yesterday, where her mom met me as we are separated, and spoken with the principal. I spoke with the bus driver twice now and this”

“Looking for advice on how to navigate this situation I took my 7yo daughter to the playground in my town yesterday. It was the first day of operations for this playground after undergoing a significant renovation, so it was very busy with curious kids and parents, and all the new play structures were very crowded. Shortly before it was time to go, my daughter wandered off from the very busy climbing frame (which is her usual playground go-to), to the swings and played alone. This is not out-of-c”

“She would refuse to do anything I tell her to do Open your book? No Change your seat? No Share the sports equipments? No Like today we had PE and she wouldn't let the other girl use the jumping rope I told her I'll give her another one but she wasn't listening, she wanted THAT jumping rope matter what And it happens at any time that I tell her to do something she doesn't like or want and when she gets upset she stops listening to anything you tell her afterwards For example she r”

“Hello All, Hoping you have some advice on this ongoing situation or share your experience if you have been through the same. I have a 5 year old boy who is your typical average 5 year old but unfortunately inherited my people pleasing and high emotions gene. He has a friend around the same age who we have been hanging out with since they were around 3. We are friends with the parents and we all have a similar parenting style (gentle but firm boundaries etc) However since the last couple of month”

“So, since last year they were getting on the school bus together. They were classmates in 2nd grade but no longer classmates now in 3rd grade. Last school year said classmate kicked my son in the face while on school bus ride back home. School was involved, principal was involved they agreed to not sit together on school bus. That didn’t last. Teachers described them as frenemies. They got in more trouble, eventually they got better we were invited to the other kid’s house for dinner. They playe”

“Hi all, I'm just looking for some perspective on how others would handle this situation. My son is 5 and in the first few weeks of kindergarten. during the 3rd week he started telling us about some things that had happened on the bus. I'm going to paste an excerpt of the email I sent the school, which explains the circumstances On Monday, he told us that during the ride home a child was sitting behind him and repeatedly hit him on the back of his head. He reports telling the child to sto”

“Hello, Our daughter is 6 and started first grade this September. She is a really lovely kid, but it seems like she has trouble connecting with the other kids in her class. We see that other kids her age are already bonding or are really good friends with each other, but when we ask her who she played with that day, she mostly says she played alone. Last year there was a field trip to the zoo and on the bus she sat alone. When she tried to talk to the kids behind her, they told her to leave them”

“Not sure why you're responding to me in this way....I said that OP is saying that the bullying started in March of last school year and has continued into this school year....never said multi school year bullying isn't possible.”

“Kidd can't bully across school years?”

“Kids can't bully across school years?”

“My daughter is 5, nearly 6 years old. Today I came home from work and she told me a boy lied to her at school today and it upset her, so she threw a rock at him. She disclosed this to me without prompting. I assumed (correctly) she didn’t tell her dad because I would’ve heard about it. When he came downstairs, I prompted her to tell him. She was afraid he’d be mad, but I assured her he wouldn’t and it’s important to tell the truth. She told him, and he immediately got angry at her, saying, “I as”

“TLDR: should I talk with mom of problem child or let it be. My daughter has had a friend for many years. They had a fallout last year in middle school over something really dumb. Like arguing over a comment over a toy. It wasn’t even that serious. Her friend always expects my daughter to apologize. And to keep the peace, my daughter always has. Even when she knows she didn’t do anything wrong. (Like win a basketball game in PE vs her on separate teams). As long as my daughter says sorry, she goe”

“Is it normal for a child to have daily issues with certain boys and have daily complains? Since the start of school year my 8 years old have been complaining of 2 boys D and J Thurday he had a mouth injury from one of them the boy kept blocking my sons way not letting him walk so he bend under the table to try and walk away and the metal sharp edge bit his mouth (so the boy did not “hit” him) but he was the cause Also today the boy was saying bad things toward him I emailed the teacher finally b”

“My son has just started Kindergarden and has been dealing with other kids being aggressive with him. Idk exactly what the severity is one day he said a kid pushed him into the wall when no teach was around, and another time he said that a kid hit him with their jacket and laughed when he cried. Lately he has been telling me that when he runs past these two specific kids they chase him, trip him, throw shoes at him, and try to hit him with their hats. He asked me just now as we were doing bed tim”

“This girl is calling her fat and ugly. I knew some of what was going on but not much. My daughter never wanted to talk about it. She would tell me this girl is mean and then the next week they are “friends” for not even a full day and then this the girl is mean again. I told her that that’s not how friends behave and true friends aren’t hot and cold. That true friendships are special and treat each other good. I told her to stand up for herself and she has been trying. My daughter’s birthday was”

“My 5 year old told me Kid B told Kid A (who my son been playing with) not to play with my son the other day. I let my son know that what he said is not nice and he can find someone else to play or just play by himself (which he said he did). Today, he said he played legos with Kid B and he's so happy. Is it normal for 5 year old social interaction? Should I ever step in to talk with the teacher if the same kid does it again? It seems fine now, but my goodness everyday is another Kinder story”

“I’m at a loss. To make it worse, this student is much bigger than me and the other students. He has level 2 autism and the parents deny it. In this particular scenario, I was taking the kids out for recess. As the kinders were coming in, he barreled past me and pushed a bunch of little kids over to get into the yard before it was time. As I reprimanded him, he proudly told me that he, “doesn’t listen to girls and women.” Is this something the rest of y’all have ever experienced? What do I even d”

“I would really love to hear how you talk to your child about bullying and “kids being mean.” This is what my 5 year old came home to tell me after chorus practice today that kids were being mean to him. My oldest is 14 and was bullied around the same age all the way until middle school, until she eventually started fighting. I’m honestly not good at explaining the “correct” way to handle situations like this. I’m very mouthy myself and emotionally charged when my kids tell me things like this, a”

“I got a text this morning from the mom of my daughter's friend. She told me her daughter told her a boy in my daughter's class has elbowed my daughter repeatedly. My daughter never said anything to me. I ask her about school everyday. I ask about the kids in class. She never says anything. So I took her to eat after school and asked her about it. At first she denied anything happened, finally she said, "fine, it happened." It was like she was confessing, when she did nothing wr”