Expecting Parents Overwhelmed by Pregnancy

“Hi all! I’m 21+2. FTM. I am freaking exhausted. I have never been this tired. First trimester was rough, I kept hearing “you’ll feel so much better soon!” And while I do definitely feel a bit better, I still have very little energy. One chore takes me out for the day. I’m used to being so active. I used to go to the gym, do Pilates, walk my dog easily twice a day. I haven’t been able to do a proper gym workout since I found out I was pregnant. This is just rough. I can manage walks but that’s re”

“Hi! It’s my first time being pregnant and I only have about a week left. I’m 24, healthy and have had an okay pregnancy. The first four months I had terrible HG and have suffered from anxiety and OCD for the majority of my pregnancy, but I am not high risk. Originally I wanted 4-5 kids (lol) but after being pregnant I’m like there’s no way. How do people do this so many times??? My body getting huge, face being swollen, nothing fitting, constant worry and anxiety, food aversions. I want a big fa”

“The past couple weeks I hardly get any sleep, and none of it is of any decent quality. Im up at least every hour to pee, and it is SO painful to get out of bed that im on the verge of tears. Every step I take to the bathroom is shooting, piercing pubic pain and I walk like a 90 year old. Then it takes awhile to get comfortable again and fall back asleep, only to wake up in another hour and repeat. I absolutely DREAD night time. Sometimes I cant even fall back asleep despite how tired I am. My bo”

“Hello, I am just about 23 weeks pregnant. Since hitting 20 weeks pregnant, I have been absolutely exhausted and have had a hard time finding energy. I used to be an avid coffee drinker before getting pregnant (3-4 shots a day that I made at home). My first trimester, I experienced so much vomiting and nausea I wasnt able to even stomach the idea of coffee. I had my anatomy scan at 20 weeks, and baby boy is growing perfectly. I have really been wanting to drink coffee again though. I started to h”

“I’m about to be 12 weeks and somehow I feel even more tired now than at the beginning. I was very lucky that I actually had quit my job months ago and then I got pregnant so I’ve been able to just be home but usually I do a lot of stuff around the house and lately I can barely force myself to make the bed. it’s making me feel like a total parasite, is it normal? also, suddenly I’m not hungry! I was eating so much and as I’m hitting 12 weeks my appetite has decrease. the doctor said that my prena”

“14 weeks pregnant with my second, and this pregnancy is just really taking it out of me. I had HG with my first, I am not sick enough for that diagnosis this time but I am still nauseas and vomiting. My husband has the day off today so we agreed to give each other a “half day” off, so he took our toddler out this morning and then once she wakes up from her nap I will take her this evening so we each get some time to rest and be people. I ordered myself a nice breakfast and a decaf pumpkin spice”

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“Just as I wrote in the title - I am really struggling guys!! I literally cannot stay awake and it's starting to stress me out because I have SO much to do and I'm literally not able to do it because I just keep passing out 😭 I don't have any thyroid issues, exercise regularly, and eat a very healthy diet... Is this just what pregnancy is going to be like for me?? Please comment any tips or tricks that you know.. I'm terrified my baby is going to come and my house won't even”

“To start off, I've already booked an appointment at the doctors office in 2 days. It's going to be a long story. I'm just wondering if any more dad's are having the same struggles and how you all overcome it. I (28M) and my wife(27F) have 1 son(11m/o) and we just recently found out were expecting a second (8weeks pregnant). It was really unexpected, but I took the news 100% better than the first time around. My wife on the second hand, really had and still has a hard time accepti”

“I am a FTM and will be 32 weeks on Friday! I technically still have 8 weeks and some change to go but I want to be prepared because I am not in charge here and anything can happen…. Our shower was last weekend and our friends and family were oh so generous. We still have a few things on our list of things to get that we are looking for purchase soon but I wanted some insight. What were some non-negotiables or things you absolutely 100% recommend having because you used them all the time with you”

“I CANNOT WITH THIS NAUSEA ANYMORE!!!!! I just hit 15 weeks today actually, and throughout my first trimester had hyperemesis and lost a total of 30lbs, was bedbound couldn’t even walk downstairs to grab my own juice. I will say over the past week / week and a half it’s not been near as bad as it was, I’m up able to move around and eating normal foods again. But I’m so over this, mentally I’m so fucking drained. I will wake up one day and have so much energy, no nausea, I feel like I can conquer”

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“About to be 23wks tomorrow and I feel like this pregnancy (3rd one) is going by soooooo slow. This heat isn’t helping out either 😭 submitted by /u/urrealitytvbff [link] [comments]”

“Anyone else getting stressful dreams. I wake up from them and my legs are sweaty. I’m not drenched in sweat but I’ve never had this before. I’m 21 weeks pregnant. Is there anything I can do to help with the dreams… or nightmares I should say. I dreamt I gave birth to a little pig 🤣🤣 submitted by /u/Spicekitty578 [link] [comments]”

“So I posted on here a few days ago on my baby’s due date about how I was sad and disappointed that I wasn’t stating labor yet for various reasons. Well now I’m 4 days late and I’m just beyond frustrated by everything right now. It’s so so insanely hot and my doula suggested to start walking 10000 steps daily along with a list of other things, and I’ve been doing it all despite being tired and sweating my ass off. I thought I felt a slight contraction yesterday but haven’t felt anything since and”

“When I had my first he was 10 days late in the dead heat of summer. And it honestly wasn’t terrible. This time around I’m doing my first trimester in the death of summer and I feel like a prisoner and I’m going to die any moment. Going out require so much prep the heat makes my nausea so much worse. I just threw up two of the most delicious peaches I’ve ever eaten in my life and it makes me so mad. The first time around, I was throwing up every day until I was 28 weeks and I didn’t feel tired, e”

“I am currently 33w + 2d and this whole pregnancy has been one huge struggle. I found out I was pregnant on accident at an Urgent Care visit for something unrelated at 13w and my whole pregnancy has been riddled with my insurance dropping due to financial reasons or billing errors from the hospital. When I went to the appointment for a regular check up yesterday, my Obgyn said my stomach was measuring 5 weeks behind Now my husband with the military and I’m behind on Ultrasounds and Blood work / l”

“I had one of those weeks at work where I worked a lot, but didn’t really feel accomplished. I’m 19 weeks pregnant with my second, luckily I WFH, but I still feel exhausted by evening. I couldn’t finish everything I wanted to today. I wanted to work an extra hour after dinner, but my brain just wouldn’t work. So I decided to hit the bed with my 3.5 yr old. My daughter sleeps on her own cot in the same room. But she wanted some time on my bed before she could sleep. She snuggled with me inside the”

“First of all, english is not my first language, so sorry in advance for the misspelling. I am 32 weeks pregnant and I can't be more sick of it. I want to end it so badly, even if that means an early deliver. I love my baby girl inside, but I want her out already. I've had all kinds of problems since the beggining. Thats means, of course, the morning sickness, being unable to barely eat, the hormones, the usual stuff. Then the summer arrived. The heat didn't help at all, and I nearly”

“Ftm here I’m 20 weeks on Sunday and I feel like I’m losing my mind. I feel like I need to be doing so much and I don’t know where to start. So far we have -put together crib and changing table -a lot of baby clothes (nipt says its a boy) -my SIL is planning a baby shower for us in November -I have half of the registry done but it keeps stressing me out to the max and even with my mom helping it seems to be going nowhere -carseat and stroller combo I am asking for advice on -birth plans, what do”

“I used to be super fit pre pregnancy - power yoga every day, 15k steps a day. Basically just SUPER in shape. Now I’m about 6 months pregnant and due to various circumstances (ivf, illness, ankle sprain, traveling, more illness, summer heat, traveling again, MORE ILLNESS) I went from daily yoga and walking to not doing yoga in almost 3 months and just tryyyying to get as many steps a day as possible. Well i bought myself a new Lulu yoga mat which I was super excited about. My cats tore up my othe”

“Me again cause I don't have many people to speak to. I'm tired of having to use the bathroom so often and being nauseous. That's all. Happy pregnancy friends! submitted by /u/TemporaryBad3969 [link] [comments]”

“I am almost 33 weeks pregnant and I am so tired and unmotivated all of the time. This whole pregnancy has been this way. Not only does my body not feel normal neither does my mind. I miss my drive and ambition. I miss my hobbies. I miss having a clean and functional house. I miss having even a bit of energy! I miss just being on top of it all. I know once my baby is here and I am going through post partum that will take a while but will I ever get back to myself? submitted by /u/Ok_G”

“I’m almost 38 weeks and it’s 4am. I’m genuinely so done. I have hyper fixated on her movements my entire pregnancy and it’s seriously so draining. The last 3-4 days her movements have dropped off a lot, I still feel her but it’s a lot more subtle. I’ve been awake since 3am and now it’s almost 5 and I can’t fall back asleep because I am worried she has not moved enough. I don’t know what her pattern is or what’s normal because she’s been this way since about 18 weeks. She’ll have a week or so whe”

“I feel so burnt out and drained. I quite literally can’t do anything without pain or just being uncomfortable. I’m so over being pregnant. Nothing fits, my nipples feel HORRIBLE anytime anything rubs on them. I literally look like a bum 24/7. No energy for my makeup or hair. I don’t even shave anymore. Any tips to get through these last 8 weeks? October 11th can’t come soon enough. Then there’s a possibility I go till 41 weeeks (I’m not even accounting for that in my calculations for my mental h”

“I am 7 weeks pregnant in the thick of nausea and fatigue. I can’t stand up without wanting to sit back down. Laying flat helps my nausea so much. I have a 3 year old too and our closing date on a new house is tomorrow. I feel zero excitement and feeling extremely discouraged as I’m going to be no help. We need to deep clean the new house and then move and deep clean the rental. I don’t know how to get anything done while feeling this way. My boyfriend is so supportive and just telling me I don’t”

“I just really need to rant to people who might understand 🥲 I’m 38+3, due August 27. I was diagnosed with perinatal anxiety with depressive episodes, which has been much better under control the past few weeks as I’ve been working really hard to build a good tool kit and have therapy sessions and be open about what is stressing me out and prepare as much as I can. Unfortunately with my due date coming up the anxiety has been rising as well…lack of control is a major trigger for me. Recently bot”

“my husband and i have been unpacking our house from our move and i sorted through at least 10 boxes! i’m 29 weeks and exhausted… i don’t know what i was thinking standing on my feet all day LOL but now my guy is making me tacos so maybe that’s the reward for working hard. and making this house into a home for my lil baby too! i hope everyone’s having a good day ☺️ submitted by /u/toupoiboy [link] [comments]”

“33w1d with my second, and my C-section is scheduled for 38w (prior preeclampsia). I don't know how I'm going to get through these next five weeks 😭 everything gives me the worst heart burn I've ever felt except cereal, and the acid reflux is insane. I take pepcid and tums but the relief is only temporary and the last few days I've thrown up multiple times thanks to all the acid just churning away in my stomach and throat 🤢 My poor husband is doing basically everything for me an”

“37+1 today with my second baby. I’ve had Braxton hicks constantly since the second trimester. Now this prodromal labor is killliinngggg me!! For a week I’ve been having REAL contractions but they just won’t progress to active labor. Called the midwife the other day and told them I’ve been having period like cramps and pressure like I need to poop for hours. Midwife sent me to l&d to get checked and l&d said come back when you’re in real labor. Totally thought last night was the night! Co”

“I went into labor with my first at 39+5 and had my first on 39+6. I’m crying I hate being pregnant now I want her out so badly I’m actually really upset. I am so sore and tired and over all of this. I was so sure she would be here by now. 😭 submitted by /u/cutieconsultant [link] [comments]”

“Obviously I'm here so I'm a sahm. I knew pregnancy made me wildly anxious. And I knew it came with exhaustion. But holy moly this pregnancy is already kicking my butt and my toddler doesn't stop talking or touching me and doesn't sleep and my gosh I'm tired. I was spoiled last time. I got laid off at 4 weeks pregnant. I napped all pregnancy and could clean and binge TV and read. I had the brain space to deal with all the feelings and anxieties. Plus I have 8 weeks left before”

“not even sure what to tag this lol but every day I crash around noon from exhaustion, have been gaslighting myself recently that I'm not queasy (been doing all the things to help mitigate) but my brother is supposed to come over today and then I'm going to be visiting my parents next weekend. How tf am I supposed to act normal??? staying upright after 2-3 pm is basically impossible, and I won't be drinking. Should i just cave and admit i'm pregnant?? i wanted to wait till 12 week”

“I am currently 40 +3 weeks pregnant with my second child, and for some reason this time around my friends and family will not stop texting me asking how I’m feeling/wanting the scoop on if I’ve gone into labor yet. Although I’m grateful for the support, I don’t remember a single person bothering me nearly this much with my first baby? My dad and his girlfriend are non stop texting me all day asking how I’m feeling, if anything is happening, how much I think baby will weigh etc. With already bein”

“I have not so fun pregnancies. Not the worst but i get HG, exhausted, and my hips get so loose and painful that i feel like im walking around on a pelvis made of q tips and severe pain anytime i sit down/lay down then stand back up. And this second go around the braxton hicks have been so bad. I also have a very active and clingy almost 3 yr old who i try to be active and engaged with all day. I cant wait to not be pregnant and be in this pain anymore but im imagining ill be more tired physicall”

“I have a toddler and I’m currently pregnant, I am SO SO exhausted I can barely function. I find myself not even being able to speak correctly to think because I’m so tired. Before pregnancy I was a frequent energy drink drinker now I can’t have energy drinks and coffee really isn’t helping much…I don’t know what to do because I obviously have to stay awake bc of my toddler. What’s the best thing that’s safe to use for energy? submitted by /u/justfrosty19 [link] [comments]”

“today I’m eight weeks pregnant with a 15 month old after getting back from the park I was exhausted, hot, and feeling super nauseous. Decided to lay on the couch and I gave my baby a sweet potato fry. I saw him smooching something into the carpet but honestly, I was too nauseous to sit up and so I figured I would just take the sweet potato out of the carpet later when I I wasn’t super nauseous. Finally, I start to feel better after having a bite or two of banana then I set up and realized he was”

“Hi! I'm a FTM, currently 13 weeks pregnant and still dealing with some fatigue (first trimester was ROUGH). I'm finishing my PhD and scheduled to present at two different conferences, one in late Nov (I'll be 26 weeks) and one in early Dec (28 weeks). They are both ~3.5 hour direct flights, three days long, and my husband has agreed to accompany me to both/either to help out. I've been to conferences before, and one of the best parts is the networking, getting to hang out with pe”

“Im currently 28 wks with baby #3, due on Oct 29, and it feels like each week of this pregnancy, life just keeps getting harder and another dumpster fire pops up. Last month, my father in law got diagnosed with an aggressive brain cancer and had a massive stroke during the surgery to remove said tumor. At best, he'll be around for Christmas, but he's already declining so its unlikely. My mother in law, someone Ive always struggled to get along with, is completely breaking down and is rely”

“Almost 34 weeks, being induced in 4 weeks. I have been slacking on stuff around the house because I'm just so sore and tired. Trying to cram all my chores in around work, appointments, kid stuff, is killing me. On top of normal chores, I need to prep baby stuff, do some reorganizing, getting things ready for his arrival. It takes everything I have just to load the dishwasher, then I'm beat 😭 I keep telling myself I'll be more rested next weekend but it's never true. I know I&#39”

“had my 39 week appointment today with 0 signs of labor starting and feeling a little defeated! between so many people checking in daily (which I swore wouldn’t be annoying until now lol) and just being very uncomfortable and done being pregnant I’m needing any and all advice for keeping entertained and keeping morale up for this last stretch!! submitted by /u/bear_dog_ [link] [comments]”

“*literally what I googled today. I've had a pretty easy go of it so far with only fatigue to complain about. As soon as I entered this third trimester, everything shifted into pain and panic. I was 95lbs pre so now, at 143lbs, my skin is tight and my muscles are on fire. No matter what i do, the swelling will not relent. I cant sleep for longer than an hour and every move kills. Is this my anxiety manifesting or is this for real normal? *background: im no stranger to suffering.. I have Iiver”

“A few things are going on mentally... I hate that I don't recognize my body and ate like shit for two/three months just trying to survive the first trimester. I put on 10 pounds in the first 10 weeks. Now I am almost 16 weeks and I haven't been checking my weight because I just couldn't even believe that. I HATE not feeling capable and confident. I pride myself on my self discipline, ability to accomplish a million things in one day, my very hard work ethic, etc. So far in pregnancy”

“FTM at 30 weeks and by the end of the day, I feel like my stomach has doubled in size and I’m 40 weeks! I’m wadding around, unable to move and truly feel like I’m going to burst. I know it’s all digestion since in the morning my stomach is smaller. Does anyone have any suggestions to help relieve this symptom? submitted by /u/tms5436 [link] [comments]”

“Like when you have a cold and you realize you took breathing through your nose for granted. I’m realizing I took for granted not having hip pain, acid reflux all the damn time, spd pain, random charley horses and probably other things I cant think of right now due to pregnancy brain. submitted by /u/brattydoll [link] [comments]”

“29 weeks today and feel like I’ve hit a wall this week with the exhaustion. After my breakfast I want to go back to bed to lie down. For the past 3 days I’ve had to have a nap in the afternoon. I’m so fatigued, trouble concentrating and get short of breath so easily. My iron is 11 and haemoglobin in 108. According to the hospital I’m at, I meet the criteria for an iron infusion based on my haemoglobin but not ferritin levels. I’m getting my bloods rechecked next week but not convinced the levels”

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“I’m almost 39 weeks pregnant and last night was one of the craziest nights for me I was extremely exhausted out of the usual and could see I was getting frequent contractions As I went to call triage I could feel a trickle and as I got up it just dribbled down my legs. I could see it was clear and didn’t have a urine smell I rushed to triage as it’s quite far away and was assuming things would escalate quickly over there I was having this pressure like I need to push out more I put in a pad but”

“Pretty much this whole pregnancy I’ve been anxious that something bad is going to happen. The first 4 months I had mild hyperemsis so I kept thinking to myself “what if I’m going through all this for nothing?” Because I was just so worried something was going to happen. After every scan I felt reassured for a moment and then fear set in again. I’m young and never had a loss before this but I just keep feeling like somethings going to happen. I’m so ready to be done and just have her here , which”

“It’s probably those second trimester hormones but I just got home from a family cottage weekend and man oh man am I sad. The prospect of being a parent has made me think about my own childhood so much. I had a pretty good one and my parents did so much for us - they really threw their all into parenting. I see my young nieces and nephews and the fun things we do with them, like go to the beach, playing games outside, setting up a soccer net, and you realize HOW important these moments are and th”

“we have a HIGHLY energetic 20-month old daughter. I am 34 wks pregnant and ever since I found out in Jan, it’s been quite hard keeping up with her (nausea, extreme fatigue)… not to mention juggling work stress (started a new job after taking 15 mo off to raise her last year as a a full-time sahm.) having dinner prepped by the end of the day and dealing w her big emotions/sleep regressions have been challenging, as well. my husband has been great while I’ve been out of commission and does his bes”

“hi! i am 25 weeks pregnant with my first and honestly im just getting to the point where i feel hopeless with dealing with pregnancy anger. i know emotions are going to fluctuate but a little back story: i have worked hard over the span of my life to become a glass half full person, and i am really proud of how i am able to rationalize and regulate my emotions as a diagnosed BPD person. i do not take medication for anything mental related i just have worked hard for many years on retraining my b”

“I'm 35 weeks pregnant and the joints in my hands are absolutely killing me. It started a couple months ago with just the joints in one of my middle fingers, but at 33 weeks my hands and feet suddenly swelled (nothing drastic, just a little), and now all of my joints in my fingers hurt, especially my right thumb which is the one I use the most. When I wake up in the morning I can barely make a fist. Does anybody know what could help? I've been running my hands under cold water but it'”

“31w, anterior placenta, this girl is WILD. I got kicked/punched/ in my ribs, sternum,.and cooch from 6pm-midnight last night. I'm starting to get muscle spasms all over my body, especially right under my sternum, from all the activity. It's so violent it knocks phones, utensils, etc out of my hands when she starts. If I'm sleeping it stops, but the second I move it'll start up again for at least an hour. All throughout the night. It makes me so overstimulated and when it's no”

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“I found out I was pregnant at about 4 weeks with a very “sooner than expected” baby - my husband and I were actively trying to not have a baby right now. I am now 30 weeks and I am so over it. I have not found it enjoyable, I am miserable 98% of the time, and I am so tired of people telling me their pregnancy and birth stories and giving opinions or telling me what I should do when I haven’t asked. I miss sleeping, and don’t tell me to wait for the baby to come I’ll lose my mind LOL. I know I’m”

“My body is telling me to take a nap- I get it. But I am at work, and even when I'm home, I have a toddler. I don't recall being so so tired my first pregnancy- but I also spent the whole weekend sleeping. For those who have experienced first trimester fatigue, and aren't lucky enough to be able to nap at will, how did you persevere? I am drinking the allotted 200mg coffee, but even that isn't helping. submitted by /u/Free-Cauliflower2446 [link] [comments]”

“I just need to vent about the series of pregnancy ailments I’ve had over my second trimester (currently 26 weeks): 1. A cyst formed in the fold between my leg and torso near my vulva. So painful I couldn’t walk. Took antibiotics, it went away. 2. Antibiotics gave me a yeast infection. 3. Got a hemorrhoid the size of a grape. Could barely walk and it was so painful I couldn’t sleep properly for a week. 4. Cyst came back, worse than before now 2cm in diameter. Derm had to inject a steroid. I know”

“My pregnancy symptoms haven't been severe by any means. I am on Diclectin for nausea since about 7 weeks, never thrown up but felt like shit most of the day so figured I'd go on it (has worked very well for the most part!). My sleep has also been off and on, and never struggled with sleep before pregnancy. However, I'm 2 days away from 12 weeks, and I feel more down, emotional, bloated, and overall shitty than previously. I'm starting to get heartburn in the evening, and feeling”