Product Managers Losing Control, Feeling Burned Out
Experienced product managers express exhaustion and frustration with the constant changes in their field. They feel pressured to stay current with new technologies and methodologies, often at the expense of their well-being and professional satisfaction. Some are seeking ways to reduce responsibility and focus on building.
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“I tried the priority A/B paper trail as a one-person comms team, and suddenly fires became campfires.”
“I'm currently dealing with a shit show of a project and I learned these teams have bashed heads for a while now. Unfortunately this issue falls on my director so there's no pushing back, it's all steam ahead, work around the issue and cross those finish lines, even if we know we have to redo it almost immediately. In this situation the director is somehow manually triggering the file delivery and of course the file name is changing in every environment. Also the file was missing 60+”
“I went from startup agile to scaled agile in enterprise and i hate it. omfg.”
you will realize that days of product managers is numbered.
“Okay, this is a long read, but if you spare some time, the universe shall reward you ✨😬 I’m putting my situation out here because I’m genuinely confused about what the smartest next move is, and I’d rather get brutally honest advice from people actually working in Product. I have around 10 years of experience in SDET/QA — roughly 6 years in gaming and 4 years in tech/product companies . I started out mostly in manual QA and gradually moved into automation, although automation has never been the”
“Okay, this is a long read, but if you spare some time, the universe shall reward you ✨😬 I’m putting my situation out here because I’m genuinely confused about what the smartest next move is, and I’d rather get brutally honest advice from people actually working in Product. I have around 10 years of experience in SDET/QA — roughly 6 years in gaming and 4 years in tech/product companies . I started out mostly in manual QA and gradually moved into automation, although automation has never been the”
“Well this was fun but I must leave it here. I know I didn’t get to reply to every single question or comment. If I could distill my thoughts it’s that deeply knowing a problem is where amazing products are made. Research the crap out of any subject you work on. Life long learning (daily, weekly, yearly) is a mantra to take very seriously. Be kind to your teams and yourself. Challenge your own biases. Meditate.”
“What did you do during the 3-year gap? What did it take to return and how did you know when you were ready?”
“Thanls appreciate the openess. I'm moving towards exercise and away from drink too”
“No way Product Management was a thing 27 years ago. It started being a thing in like 2016-2018”
“It was great in startups. Didn’t scale well in enterprise (scaled agile sucks)”
“I'm currently dealing with a shit show of a project and I learned these teams have bashed heads for a while now. Unfortunately this issue falls on my director so there's no pushing back, it's all steam ahead, work around the issue and cross those finish lines, even if we know we have to redo it almost immediately. In this situation the director is somehow manually triggering the file delivery and of course the file name is changing in every environment. Also the file was missing 60+”
“Workslop has dug it's heels into organizations from sales to product. This has given way to people feeling like they are more productive, but not more effective. With this false sense of efficiency thriving through an organization, people use it more and more throughout their daily tasks. I'll be the first to say that it does have it's place in specific areas, but to have it do the creative strategic work that you were hired for, is to put forth an idea that you are easily replaceabl”
“I left a Cowboy feature factory after 4 years. I moved mountains in that agency to get them product disciplined. The CEO ultimately told me I was making things too complicated for him personally and he just wanted to make screens based on his Pinterest boards. Before this I'd moved thr company over from Illistrator to figma, set up jira and confluence, started light sprints (basic), and was was handed 2 totally unique products to build out. The ceo had founders syndrome and had no design or”
“I feel that I was hired in theory for my problem-solving and structured-thinking skills, but what's being required of me is to crack the whip on a growth-experiment (not even a feature) factory. I did not sign up for this.”
“My boss always tell me the biggest thing in product management is prioritization and knowing what I need to fix now and what can I fix later”
“Oh, I agree there's dysfunction everywhere. I'm only on this sub because I'm a data scientist who has taken on more and more product management because I'm good enough at it and my business unit refuses to have real product managers. But OP's case (just blindly using figma's AI designs) and their genuine desire not to be a PM are good enough reasons to me to try to move elsewhere. A designer who doesn't want to do PM isn't going to be happy doing PM, especially at”
“Can I also reach out, as I've been ALSO thrusted into a pm role if you dont mind?”
“I enjoy being able to generate software with AI tooling and act as a product builder. If anyone else does too (contrary to the general sentiment in this thread…) let’s discuss further. I’d love to start an informal group / chat of PM’s who build things too. Reply here or DM I’ll setup something if there is interest.”
“Managing management expectations is always a challenge. Even more at a startup because the products are the founder’s “children”.”
“After being with us since the start of the company, our amazing PM left to start her own thing. We were devastated. She was behind every big product decision. She also drove a lot of our biggest market insights and helped us navigate how fast AI was changing. We were in the middle of building our second product and it was brutal. That happened at the same time that all of our 20-odd engineers went all-in on Claude Code and suddenly had more bandwidth and were moving much faster. So I thought: ma”
“You need to take a step back and ask yourself is asking a legion of jaded PM's who browse reddit is really where you want to be taking career advice from. Think about how toxic people are on r/relationship going with the most unrealistic hardline advice. So I'm not going to tell you what you should do with your life but I'll pose these statements: - Roles exist because they are needed in an organisation and there a gap to fill. Product needs typically way more people, process, and ed”
“I was exhausted to read most..er..some of what you wrote there. Openly sounds like a bad situation, but I don’t think it’s like that everywhere. Product is a versatile role, practically limitless ways for the career to suck the will to live right out of ya!”
“I actually sit in a really weird place. I’m in learning and development, but I own DAP in all of our systems. I have it easy. PM by title, but I build all my own stuff too…so who knows what that makes me. But, I do end up working with a lot of PM’s from other parts of the business and damn, I don’t know if I could do it. It took years to build the trust I need to basically do whatever I needed to do to get it done. It probably helps that I’m the only person in the L&D org that can prove a RO”
“There are definitely better places to work. Medium to large businesses with either a CPO, or an SVP that reports to CEO or CIO. But the problem you have happens everywhere. Everyone thinks their idea, or one they heard from a customer or executive, is the next thing your team should do. (And it costs them $0 to blow up your roadmap.) If you want to shut down all of the armchair PMs, you need data that makes it embarrassing for them to throw random ideas and heresay up against your research.”
I feel bad for this person. Feels like a lot of anger and resentment.
“This sounds exhausting, especially with the VP Product departure removing the person who would normally help create the compass. I would be careful about treating the anxiety as proof that you need to work more hours. You have a long list of incoming requests, but you are also being asked to make decisions without a shared frame for making them. That is a leadership and operating-model problem, not simply a personal productivity problem. A practical next step might be to make your current view v”
“Every PM I know in every kind of company is exhausted. This is the “children working in a factory” era of software development”
“Just stop taking it so seriously, honestly. You're part of a team, you're one person, and you can only do so much. We in Product never really have the power to actually do a lot of the things that need to be done, like enforcing process, hiring/firing/PIPing people, or setting actual business direction. In the best circumstances, we can influence, build, and take bets when we're empowered, but you have to have buy-in from the wider org to actually be effective. When it's wholly d”
“Everyone’s playing musical chairs waiting for the music to end, hoping they grab a chair. POs want to write code, PM (when they still exist) want to do management, engineers want to do product. (I didn’t miss QA, they got laid off two years ago)”
“Yeah lowkey I feel like the big tech sentiment rn. Don’t think kids are on the table for us, GF is tryna get her PhD soon, so ideally I’m trying to maximize my income so we can get comfy while she’s studying”
“Yeah it's wild. My role + the entire PMO was eliminated in Nov of '25. Took until June of this year to finally land a role about four ladder levels lower and at a massive pay cut. I don't particularly care what the government puts out, this is the worst market I've seen in my lifetime and I worked through 08-09.”
“Just curious if anyone has a remote product manager job that pays well but they don’t have that many meetings and maybe work like four or five hours a day? Looking for a low steaks and coast type of roll and thinking about leaving high-tech stressful product management where you are expected to be on call all the time. Really interested if you have this role: can you share 1. what is the industry/company size 2. how many years of experience 3. TC 4. How many hours u work? Stressful? Looking for”
“Been there, exactly the same, all responsibility regarding delivery lied on me, paranoid ceo, non chalant cto, devs taking advantage of my limited tech understanding, non-existent tech lead = Recipe for disaster. Get the hell out of there, that's what i did, so far turned out to be good.”
“I think this with half the posts here 😂 We have entire reporting structures of people whose job it is to demo, and so I get PISSED when ownership falls to me. Happy to support, emcee, give direction but you all are selling it.”
“Thanks! It was framed as a lateral team shift, so I don't believe a new role was formally created, but if it was it would have been through our VP, who I do have a good relationship with. The roles and responsibilities from the director were shared internally within our team- I first found out in my 1;1 this week. I think you're right that speaking to the VP is a natural next step, while it is quite likely that he'll just say it's the directors' job to decide these things as”
“Thanks :) Thinking on it more, I think you're bang on the money; It's not personal or about my abilities, it's more just corporate politics and games. I'm not keen to pivot my career in this direction, and I'm unlikely to do a good job at it, so I'm going to look for a new role.”
“Something like that, yeah. Combination of awkward circumstances and a new team director who has no idea what he's doing. I replied to someone else downthread- our directors are writing internal newsletters, our apprentice is doing big client pitches, our developer is doing CS under this new structure. It's a mess, and I think you're right, it's CV brush up time.”
“I really like this :) Thank you, I'll try take it from this perspective, it's a great way to look at it.”
“This sounds odd, but I genuinely don't think it's intended as a demotion or to discourage me. Though obviously I am... They've just promoted me from regular PM to Senior, and it was quite some effort to get me into the team. Our director has a very poor understanding of what product is or the value of it, and he sees things like events as important. Which is stupid, but. EDIT to add: Part of the issue is that they've given the product dev work to the guy on the team who was our p”
“There is a reason every single project manager is depressed and angry. And it ain’t the paycheck”
“you can absolutely skip the mba, especially staying internal where they already know your work. the easiest path is to just start doing parts of the pm job now, write the prd for your own feature, sit in on customer calls, run the sprint planning like you own it. soon enough you’re the person everyone already considers a pm, then you just make it official with a transfer”
“I did plan to do some consulting when I FiREd, but actually I really can’t be assed doing much at all. Too busy having fun.”
“I went from startups (ship things to make money for the biz) to big enterprise (just ship the thing that my boss aligned with the other team that we should ship, and get sniped from every direction, and data driven approach to drive impact... not as important as what the higher up person said they want us to do). It feels like a completely different job. I'm basically just setting up meetings for our architect and eng lead and my boss so 'we' can define requirements aka the architect”