Parents can't sleep because 3.5-month-old wakes every 2 hours

“My 4-month-old used to have a very specific way of falling asleep. He would lie in the crook of my elbow with his head supported, I’d bring his cheek against mine, and gently move him up and down. This always worked. Over the past few days, it suddenly stopped working. When he gets sleepy after a feed, he now arches/curves his upper body forward toward my chest, rubs his face/cheek against my chest or clothing, and then starts crying . He seems like he’s trying to get some kind of sensation or f”

“FTM here. My baby is 16wk going on 17weeks old. I have suspected him being in the 4 mo sleep regression for about 3 weeks now but it’s become more obvious the last 3 nights. I need help trying to figure out how to sleep train my baby and where to do it. He’s sleeping in the snoo bassinet in our bedroom. Planning to move him to crib in 3 weeks after MIL visit. Takes his naps in the crib. The first wake up overnight we feed as he’s been asleep for about 5 hours (used to do 8-9 hour stretches on th”

“Please help!!! I know my baby needs a consistent bedtime but I cannot figure out how to get there. He is 16 weeks old and we’ve been in bad sleep regression for two weeks after previously sleeping a 6-7 hour stretch to start the night. He now wakes up after half an hour, is very hard to settle, often wakes on transfer and we usually spend hours doing that before giving up and holding him so that he will get some sleep at least. We want his bedtime to be 8pm. His last wake window is usually about”

“So my LO is 5.5 months old now. From 1-3 months he was a good sleeper at night. Only waking a couple of times. From 3 months has been terrible sometimes he is up every 30 minutes. They are getting better at self soothing but still is up every hour or so now. He will roll over and then wake up and crawl. Doesn't cry every time sometimes is just up and happy We understand that there sleep regression with skills learnt but they started crawling around 4 months old so we thought they'd get o”

“FTM, EBF It has been really challenging getting my baby to sleep through the night. I suppose, at this age, even 6 hours would count as “sleeping through the night.” He used to sleep for about 5 hours at a stretch, but since entering his fourth month, it feels like he suddenly dislikes sleep! How do I help him sleep for 6 hours again? Our pediatrician told us today that nutritionally, he no longer needs a night feed. He suggested giving him his last feed around 11–12 pm and then the next feed at”

“Does anyone else’s baby randomly have a day where they sleep most of the day? My 3 (almost 4) month old baby girl has been sleeping almost all day. She has still eaten, and had wet and poopy diapers, no sign of illness of any kind, but just sleepy! And yes I know baby’s sleep a lot. So I know I probably sound crazy lol but she actually slept really well last night (9:45 pm to 6 am) so I’m surprised she is sleeping today as much as she is. Anyone else have experience with this around this age? &#”

“5mo old, once asleep, sleeps pretty well. For about a week we have been practicing independent sleep at naps and night, but we are going insane over here. Feed her 20 minutes before aimed lay down, knock down lights, fairly dark room. Soft music, singing or quiet reading. Eyes start slapping shut. Get her over to the crib to lay down while drowsy. Slightly wakes up. Then, no matter the belly rubbing, the gentle jiggling, soft singing...she starts kicking and screaming and wakes herself fully. If”

“Turning to my trusted Breastys in this support group once again. My son just turned 16 weeks and for the last 2 weeks we have been going through a sleep regression. From weeks 10-12 he was sleeping 10 hr overnight stretches. Now he wakes at 1am, 4am, 6am. At 1 & 4 he is hungry and we nurse for 10-15 min back to sleep. At 6 he’s ready to start the day but once I bring him back in bed for a quick nursing session he’ll fall back asleep. Bedtime is at 8-830p and we give him a 4oz bottle of EBM.”

“Age: 4mo Weight: 13lbs Formula Fed 3oz every 2ish hours (except overnight) Avg 25oz a day Wake up: between 6-630am Bedtime: around 730 Wake windows: 1.5 Hours (every single one) Avg total daytime sleep: 3.5-4hrs My LO has been taking an average of six naps a day since 8 weeks old. At 8 weeks is when she started napping for 30 mins at a time. Now she will nap anywhere from 30-50 minutes and occasionally give us close to an hour or a little over. Still, she needs about 6 naps to make it until bedt”

“I don't think I totally understand this concept but I think I would like to maybe try My daughter (second child) is 3.5mo and is a wonderful sleeper. She goes down around 7ish (give or take 30m), drowsy but awake. Because she went through a period between 7&9 weeks where she slept through the night, I have been pumping once a night around 10pm before I go to bed to protect my supply. These days she usually wakes 1x to feed somewhere between 2-430am and then is up for her first wake aroun”

“Our 4 month old used to give us a 5 hour stretch initially and then would be okay to be put down after the first feed at night and sleep on and off till 3am. After that she always wanted to be held till morning so we took turns every hour doing that. However now at 4 months, she wakes up crying but nurses for like 5 min and then falls asleep. If I unlatch her, she gets upset and the Dad has to rock her quickly to go back to sleep. Not sleep trained yet and we are thinking about ST at 5 months. A”

“Looking for advice from anyone that may have had a baby with a similar temperament! LO just turned 4 months abt a week ago. Eats ~5oz breast milk per feed every three hours. We aim for four naps but realistically, lately, she has not been wanting to catnap after her 4pm feed. Sleeping in a snuzpod5 bassinet next to our bed. Sound machine and blackout curtains. From 2.5 months up until 6days ago she was the best sleeper! Slept consistently from 7:30/8 ish to 6:30am with no wake ups. She did well”

“So we have a bedtime routine that has worked for months. Bath, Get her sleeper on, Playtime for a little bit until she gets sleepy and starts rubbing her eyes, bedtime bottle and cuddles, she is usually out by 8/8:30. All of a sudden this week things start out normal then when she seems ready to go to sleep she suddenly gets a burst of energy and wants to play for another 2-3 hours! She is also waking up a few hours after she goes to sleep and standing up in her crib and crying until we get her”

“I thought I hit the jackpot with my baby boy. At 1 month, he was reliably giving us a 4-hour and 3-hour stretch of sleep at night. Would almost instantly fall asleep after being fed. Now, he’s up every 1.5-2 hours at night and needs quite a bit of settling to go back down. Constantly throwing his legs up and moving his arms around knocking his pacifier out. Still only contact naps during the day. Length of nap varies from 30 mins to 1.5 hours. I’ve tried drowsy but awake, have tried him in our r”

“My baby was sleeping 7+ hour stretches. We would lay him down at 8:30 and he would wake up around 5 to nurse then again at 7 to wake up for the day. The regression kicked in and we were up almost every 30 mins to an hour. Little noises would wake him up too. During this time though he learned how to fall asleep in his crib on his own. We lay him down fully awake and he takes 10 mins or so to settle down and fall asleep. No crying involved. He typically likes to mumble or practice rolling over un”

“Hello fellow parents those that have already gone through the 4 month sleep regression, would you agree with my idea? My LO is 13 weeks and I’ve had a bedtime routine with her since she was probably 5 weeks. It’s the same every time I never change it I just add bath time in every 3 days that’s all. Recently, I have been noticing my LO fights her last nap around 7pm. Which has warranted me to putting her to bed earlier than her usual time which is usually 8/8:30 sometimes 9 if I can’t get my shit”

“My daughter is 3,5 months old. This week from Tuesday we had to wake up at 6:30 almost everyday, so now she started to cry at 18:30 pm already to have her bedtime. She established a routine of sleeping from 19:30-20:00 until 06:00-06:30. Before this week we had the routine of 21:00-21:30 until 07:30 - 08:00. I hope we can go back to that. submitted by /u/DiscountVirtual9523 [link] [comments]”

“My 3 month old (who used to give me 3-4 hour stretches at night) has stopped doing that in the last couple of weeks. Now I transfer her to her cot and she can’t seem to get past the first sleep cycle. I breastfeed exclusively, and feed her to sleep. I would love for her to fall asleep independently or with assistance with me patting and shushing in the cot, but she won’t accept any dummy I’ve offered (and I’ve offered about 10 different types). I don’t know how to get her to fall asleep not on t”

“My LO slept for 7-8 hour stretches uninterrupted from the age of around 8 weeks and I was constantly told that if the 4m regression hit, she’d likely go back to this. But since 3 months onwards, a 7-8 hours stretch is very rare and on a good night it’s more like 4-5 hours in the first stretch. She’s now 4.5 months. What’s your experience of this concept? Are your babies reverting to their early sleeping tendencies? Or am I just wishful thinking? ETA: She has been falling asleep independently sin”

“As the title says, my 5 month old daughter has been a bad sleeper since birth. As a newborn we would lay her down out of our arms and her eyes would pop open. Now as a 5 month old for naps if we lay her down she’ll give us about 20 minutes but if she’s in our arms naps can be 2+ hours. Last night was another brutal night of waking every single hour. We only feed her the bottle 1-2x a night outside of that it’s picking her up and soothing her and laying her down when she’s asleep again. I can’t h”

“I’m so exhausted and feel paralysed and unable to make a decision. My 5.5mo only contact naps and is waking up every hour overnight. She has no independent sleep skills currently. Naps: Pretty much every nap of her life has been a contact nap. Occasionally she’ll sleep in the pram/car, but generally only when she’s been awake 3+ hours and cries herself to sleep. Otherwise it’s 3 naps a day, all on me. She falls asleep quickly and easily being rocked but transfers fail or she wakes up within 3 mi”

“What does it mean when a baby will sleep 4-5 hours first and then wake up every hour or two after that. My baby has been doing this every night and even sometimes after 30 minutes of going back to sleep. He’s 4 months old and I thought he already passed the sleep regression cuz he started early. submitted by /u/Hot_Insect2902 [link] [comments]”

“My son is showing signs that his circadian rhythm is maturing and is entering the big and notorious 4 month sleep hurdle. I'm wondering if my experience looks familiar to any of you, and what your path through was. Sleep was starting to feel pretty manageable but now we're back to waking every hour. I cosleep with a bedside bassinet, so I've been watching the process a bit before helping him in hope that he'll fall back to sleep. It feels like he wakes up a bit in between sleep c”

“My baby is 12.5 weeks old and has been an amazing sleeper since day one. Last week he was sleeping 7-10 hours a night with no wakes. He has always given has 4 hour stretches. He was feeding like crazy too. Now, he’s giving us 45minute to 2.5 hour stretches, that’s it! And he’s not even hungry. Just needs to be rocked back to sleep. We’re transitioning him from arms in swaddles and he’s been doing 2 arms out for the past 3 nights. Last week he was 1 arm out doing those good sleeps. Last night we”

“As the title says. Until baby was 2 months we would regularly put him in his bassinet but during night he still slept on his dad’s tummy. He had his 8 week vaccination and he was very fussy for days and wouldn’t sleep in his bassinet so his dad started to let him sleep on his tummy regularly. Now he has lengthened ( my husband is a tall guy) that he won’t fit on both of us. We have been putting him on his back once he is deep asleep, but he starts wriggling in a minute and then eventually fully”

“My baby is nearing 8 weeks old, he has never ever been a good sleeper- and I keep seeing things about 3/4 month sleep regression and I’m honestly terrified. Some facts about baby: EBF Gaining weight very well, never lost weight when he was born and is up over 4 pounds as of his last check up Got diagnosed with silent reflux at 3 weeks, started famotidine I cut out dairy at 4wks and he seems to be doing tons better since then with his reflux From the time he was born he’s never slept more than 2”

“My baby is 7 months old and wakes up often at night. Anywhere from 4-9 times. He will sometimes give me a 3 hour stretch, but it is usually only 2 hours. I haven't had a 4+ hour stretch in probably 3 months. Every time he wakes up I nurse him because when I try to soothe him he just cries louder but instantly calms when nursing. I would try more to soothe without nursing, but I'm just so tired and it's the easy thing to do. I also don't want to completely stop night feeds (would”

“My baby just turned 5 months and her wake window has gone from 2-2.5 hrs to 3-3.5 hrs. This happened in the last 3 days and it’s making me worried. I know her wake window is supposed to increase with age but is it normal to happen this early? Her naps have also decreased to 2 from 3 naps. I’d be interested in hearing others’ opinions. Thanks!! submitted by /u/ewqazx [link] [comments]”

“My baby is 3 months old in a few days. As a newborn he was up loads in the night (to be expected) and he did start going through longer stretches. About two weeks ago he had 3 nights where he slept 4-5 hour chunks. However, for 8-9 days now he has been waking every 1-2 hours (sometimes every 45 mins) thrashing around in his next to me crib, moaning and sometimes crying. He’s not hungry, no reflux or anything so I am so confused. Could this be the dreaded regression? submitted by /u/c”

“As the title says wondering when your little ones were able to sleep through the night and for how many hours, if yours hasn’t slept through the night what was your longest stretch and what age! submitted by /u/Jumpy-Recognition664 [link] [comments]”

“How are you surviving the 4 month sleep regression? 😅 we’re in deep over here. Little man is taking 4-5 two hour naps a day. Since he’s sleeping so much during the day, he’s super hard to get down at night. It isn’t an issue of him being tired. He’ll be exhausted and still not stay asleep. I want to help but I’m not sure how 😭 submitted by /u/ConspiracyGhost [link] [comments]”

“I’m specifically looking for experiences from parents whose babies were really bad sleepers around 4 months — waking every 30–60 minutes, needing help/breastfeeding to fall back asleep, waking during transfers, etc. If you didn’t do any formal sleep training what happened as your baby got older? I’d especially love to hear from both: parents who ended up cosleeping/bedsharing for a while parents who kept baby sleeping separately in a crib/bassinet Did your baby eventually start sleeping longer s”

“Going through a hard time here, my baby boy just hit the fearful 3th month sleep regression and I’m desperate as he also doesn’t accept any bottle just nurses directly from the boob and loves to snack. I give him the pacifier but once it falls he starts crying. This past night he woke up literally every 30min and I have a toddler who’s 17months old so I am completely exhausted. Any tips that can help? Thank you submitted by /u/Top_Parsley_1989 [link] [comments]”

“Going through a hard time here, my baby boy just hit the fearful 3th month sleep regression and I’m desperate as he also doesn’t accept any bottle just nurses directly from the boob and loves to snack. I give him the pacifier but once it falls he starts crying. This past night he woke up literally every 30min and I have a toddler who’s 17months old so I am completely exhausted. Any tips that can help? Thank you submitted by /u/Top_Parsley_1989 [link] [comments]”

“Cross-post Just looking for some insight and recommendations. My 3-month-old baby had been sleeping so well for the past few weeks, but now she’s suddenly waking up every two hours at night. Thankfully, we’re able to feed her and get her back down pretty easily, usually within about 15 minutes. I’m just wondering if anyone else went through this and what you did to help your baby start sleeping through the night again. submitted by /u/sholmes1234 [link] [comments]”

“My 8 month old baby has only slept through the night twice, he constantly wakes up every 3-4 hours and sometimes wakes up every two hours. He is not teething, he already went through that and has 4 top teeth and three bottom ones and I could tell when it’s teething pain. My husband and I are both extremely exhausted and both sleep deprived. I tried letting him cry for two mins and patting him but he only gets worse when i turn my back. He is breastfed and that’s the only way to get him to stop c”

“My baby is coming up on 2 months. For the past couple of weeks sleep has been very rough. I start his bedtime routine around 8:30-9. We do a bath every other night followed by a feeding and swaddle in a dark room with the sound machine. He will fall asleep for maybe 10 mins and then fuss. This goes on till 3am. Sometimes I can’t even soothe him, he just cries. I am feeling very much defeated and don’t know what to do. When I do eventually get him to sleep he will sleep for 4-5 hours which is so”

“The sleep regression is a different kind of hell is it not? Some nights we get a 3/4 hour stretch but then it’s 1-2 hour wake ups and difficult to settle, early morning wake and then, to top it off, they need entertained ALL DAY. At least as a newborn I could just sit there and hold them. Now I’m battling exhaustion and the need to entertain this baby all day who apparently just wants to be sung nursery rhymes on repeat for hours! My only saving grace is that they will finally nap independently”

“Hey all, LO is 3 months old now and sleeping okay, usually 1/3/3/3. I know the dreaded sleep regression is coming eventually and I am trying to do some prep for the constant wakeups Currently she only falls asleep when we feed her. So every time she wakes we change her and feed her and she falls asleep on the bottle. I know it is recommended feeding 30 minutes before so she can learn to settle and fall asleep herself. Any recommendations on how to change the association of bottle=sleep? Rocking”

“FTM to a 9 week old. His circadian rhythm seems solid i.e. he does his longer stretches of sleep overnight. I am NOT expecting him to sleep through the night at this point. We are usually up every 3-4 hours which is okay. My issue is he takes AGES to get down to sleep and a whole song and dance to do so. Earliest I can get him to sleep is about 10:30-11 but every night I try to do all the calming things a tiny bit earlier. He also nurses to sleep, and won’t take any pacifier, and won’t go to sle”

“My son is 5 months old and we are dealing with lotsssss of broken nighttime sleep. Multiple wake ups and then also just being awake from like 4:45-5:45am. I’m not sure where to start? He doesn’t seem like the type of baby to ever soothe himself in the middle of the night. He’s lost his voice from crying so hard. He also recently started daycare so unfortunately I don’t have much control over his daytime naps 🙃 He typically goes to bed between 6:30-7pm and on a good night, wakes around 3am to ea”

“Forgive how scrambled this all is - my brain is totally fried. LO is nearly 5 months. She has been a fantastic sleeper since about 2 weeks. Shortly after 4 months, we experienced what we thought was the 4 month sleep regression (aka more night wakings). She started having very short naps, unless contact. Nighttime sleep was broken but life was manageable (our older daughter was a poor sleeper, so we are pretty accustomed to functioning even with multiple night wakings — so long as there is actua”

“5.5 mo is getting her 3rd and 4th teeth. Here it is at 4 am and she is in so much pain/won’t sleep. Tried Tylenol which didn’t help, earthing toys, etc. any other solutions for her (and me) to get some sleep? submitted by /u/asoursk1ttle [link] [comments]”

“I have not gotten 4 hrs of uninterrupted sleep since he was born. I get about 5-6hrs a night. The longest stretch is 2hrs but it's usually every hour I wake up. We are semi cosleeping, Im joining him in a floor bed for nursing and end up falling asleep with him but I do start off in my own bed. He's 4.5months old now and I do nights alone in the babys nursery with my husband back in our bedroom. I did our 4 month check up and the pediatrician seemed to pity me. I'm not too bothered b”

“My baby is 4.5 months and started sleep regressing about a month ago. He was sleeping very well through the night—normally one 5-6 hour stretch and then one 3-4 hour stretch after a night feed. His naps were always fine and could fall asleep in pretty much any condition (in the car, in stroller/carrier, being held in public). When the regression started, his naps took the first hit and he started only being able to take like four 20-30 minutes naps/day after being rocked to sleep. Bedtime was a”

“Everyone is talking about naps, but nobody has hard time with feeding intervals? It seems to me like everyone is just taking it as a given that a 3-month-old feeds every 2 hours, but will it just come to us later or is it something you train somehow? I don't want to leave her hungry, and if I don't know if she is or not, I offer the breast. Sometimes she latches very well and drinks, and other times she just hangs there for comfort. In theory, she should be able to feed at longer interva”

“SUPERVISED!! Let me start off by making that very clear. My almost 5 month old has been taking 30 minute naps and waking up exhausted but refuses to go back to sleep. So yesterday I decided to try to put her in a different position that I see her natural go to when she sleeps and she gave me a 1.5 hour nap! Woke up a brand new baby!! So if you can supervise baby in whichever room you need to get stuff done put that baby in the "unsafe" sleep position and see if that gets you some extra”

“As the title suggests my nearly 5 month old (EBF) will only feed before a nap or sleep. She has two dream feeds but even after waking in the morning, won't feed and will only feed before her next sleep which could be +-5 hours between her last dream feed and her next nap feed. She has just started getting used to her new sleep cycle but now if I try latching her when she isn't tired, she will be fussy and cry at the breast. Is this normal? We are also looking at starting her on solids in”

“Our 3.5 month old used to give us a five hour stretch and then would be up every hour or two when she was swaddled. Now she has been rolling from back to belly so we have transitioned her to a sleep sack cold turkey. We rock to sleep and then place her down after holding for 20 minutes when she is asleep. The last night or two we have had success in putting her down but she wakes up after about 20 to 30 minutes. By the time it is midnight, we just end up holding her to sleep because she ends up”

“First time parent, our 4mo old hates bedtime but sleeps GREAT once finally asleep, but it can take hours to get her there. She’s screams and cries and we try everything to change it, but nothing seems to work. Our only solution at this moment is putting her in the car seat and walking around the house and transferring her once she falls asleep, with a 50/50 success rate. I’m scared we’re gonna form a car seat sleep association, but don’t know what else to do. submitted by /u/gravityc”

“Our baby used to sleep through the night, then we had a 5mo regression. We’re at 7mo now and she is sleeping in her own crib, but she’s waking up 2-3x a night. I’ll feed her but she doesn’t go as long before waking up again. She has never taken a pacifier and I don’t really want to introduce one now. How do I encourage her to sleep longer stretches? My husband and I are desperate as we don’t do well on little sleep. submitted by /u/stitching_librarian [link] [comments]”

“My 4.5m old EBF baby seems to have entered a regression where she is waking every 20 mins- 1 hour for most of the night. She is feeding for most of the wake ups but sometimes just wants to be held and will immediately fall asleep. If your baby has been similar how did you split the night with your partner? I always feel it’s pointless to wake my husband because I know she’ll settle fast with me but I am very tired and think this isn’t sustainable. Any tips on how you have managed this if your ba”

“My 9-month-old has never really slept through the night, and we are absolutely exhausted at this point. He wakes up almost precisely every 2.5–3 hours overnight, and each time he wants a bottle. He drinks a full 6 oz, which is basically the same amount he normally drinks during the daytime, so it genuinely seems like he’s hungry and not just taking a few sips for comfort. The worst part is that after the bottle, it can take another 30 minutes or so to get him back into the crib and settled, and”

“After 5 months of being sleep deprived, I’m worried I’ve developed selective hearing so I can sleep through baby’s cries. We are still room sharing and her travel crib is less than 2 feet from my bed (nightstand in between) but not close enough I can just roll over and pat her. My husband sleeps in a different room for now because he snores and it was waking the baby. My baby is a relatively good sleeper usually only waking once during the night for a feed. And sometimes she’ll sleep through the”

“It’s easier to list out what’s going on so doing that below. I’m just wondering if this is normal. It doesn’t seem to be just one thing contributing to not wanting to eat, but my main concern is the weight not going up for a bit. - isn’t gaining much weight, I think has him at same weight for past couple weeks, but can’t find where I wrote it down last weigh in. I know he’s still around the same maybe a few oz difference (14 lb 4oz). On home scale. He’s having enough pee/poo diapers, alert, happ”

“FTM to 4.5 month old. For context, our bedtime routine for our son is feed-bath-diaper change-lotion-pjs and sleep sack-books- sound machine and lights off. Over the past two or three weeks, my son starts to cry as soon as we get back into his bedroom after his bath and start changing with diaper. He cries on and off from after his bath essentially until he falls asleep. It almost seems like he realizes sleeping time is coming and is protesting? We started sleep training a week ago and he’s doin”

“I have an almost 5-month-old who sleeps great in his crib for the first 30 minutes, but then needs rocking, an eye “mask” (a muslin blanket over his eyes), and a contact nap to keep sleeping. His nights are pretty decent—he’s not sleeping through yet, but his first stretch is usually 4–5 hours, with a wake-up around 4–5 a.m., then back to sleep until about 6:30–7. His wake windows are on the shorter side (1.5/1.5/1.75/2) since he’s a preemie, but I mostly follow his sleepy cues. Any tips for ext”

“My son is 5 and a half months old. The past 2 weeks, we were traveling staying with in laws, then housesat for my parents. My son didn’t take well to his pack and play, previously he was in one in our room and slept pretty well. Was up at midnight, then around 6 am, then around 10 am for the day. Hes a high sleep needs baby, and his bedtime is usually around 8 pm. He gets one solid 1-1 1/2 hour nap around noon then a 30 minute power nap at 4. We start his bedtime routine around 7:30. On our trip”

“Looking to learn about diff weaning methods that felt gentle and worked successfully for you around this age! I’ve seen the Dr. jay Gordon method get mixed reviews - some love it, others think it confuses their toddler. Any other personal methods? How long did it take? What prep work did you do before your official start date and how far in advance? (Ex. Communicating with them that they’re going to be all done, etc.) I understand there will probably be some resistance or tears, but would still”