People in therapy feel unheard and cannot find a better therapist

“Idk, a lot of people who are also autistic can just get the vibe pretty quickly. My boyfriend got the vibe from me and then I got diagnosed lmao”

“I initially sought therapy for severe social anxiety, and it's been helpful. My therapist gives advice that I value. However, lately I've noticed a pattern: I often start the day feeling neutral or good, but after the session, I feel completely drained and depressed. Diving deep into issues, being vulnerable, and having my thought processes challenged takes a toll. She often points out flaws or issues in the way I think, and even in things I'm interested in. For example, when I menti”

“So I had a professional neuro-behavioral evaluation a few weeks ago and I finally got the results back. For context, I’ve been diagnosed with severe depression and anxiety since I was 12. I’ve tried around 10 medications and 9 years of therapy but nothing has helped my symptoms in the slightest so my therapist told me to do this evaluation and see if there’s something deeper. I’ve had doctors/therapists in the past tell me they think I could have OCD/ADHD so ig I kinda assumed I would have one o”

“I wish I had the guts to had asked this more louder and intensely , as had I done that 7 years ago so much wasted time could’ve been used on better things unfortunately”

“Last time I went to CAMHS (like a month or two ago) all they wld say is there's nothing they can do about it So like I've been trynna look into private options but the wait lists are fucking insane so idk? Does anyone have like super secret tips on what to do? Theyre driving me insane and obviously I'm not particularly attached to hallucinating men in my closet submitted by /u/Galeschesthair [link] [comments]”

“A little background I’m an electrical engineering student in my senior year, and I’ve basically been struggling with this since my second year of high school. I’ve always felt like the invisible child in my family. My brother and I are only two years apart, and he’s doing great in life. He has a normal relationship with my parents, does his thing, and seems to function normally. I don’t really know why he gets along with them so well, because I was basically never home anyway. I just never reall”

“I never went to a therapist for this, this is mostly just informal and curiosity. I am diagnosed with OCD, but never talked to a therapist about the things I'm going to mention here. I was sexually assaulted when i was 15 and it triggered a SEVERE OCD spiral that lasted 2 years, and during that time my ocd manifested in ways that it hadn't before. For around 6 months I had tactile hallucinations (bugs crawling on me, ice cold hands touching me) and sleep paralysis for the first time in m”

“Ive been struggling with my mental health for years now. I feel like ive tried everything therapy, meds, clinics. Nothing worked so far I just dont know what else i can do. Does anybody have any advice? submitted by /u/Lilwisp-08 [link] [comments]”

“There’s a young adult in my life who is diagnosed autistic but I think something else is going on and I’m a bit concerned for their mental health. We’re trying to get a diagnosis for them but it hasn’t been easy. This kid is smart, super creative, wild imagination, always thinking outside the box. And they talk. A lot. But they almost never answer a question with a simple “yes” or “no”. Sometimes they’ll sarcastically reply with “it isn’t not ____” and play it off as a joke. I used to think they”

“Seeking psychological support doesn’t always mean needing someone to find the answers for you. Sometimes, it’s about having the right support to understand what you’re going through and work out what you can do about it. People often have more capacity to navigate life’s challenges than they realise. Support can offer perspective, structure, tools, and a safe space to reflect—but the process of understanding, evaluating, and taking action still belongs to the individual. An activity-based approa”

“I tried out therapists since last year, but bc of my situation I stopped because whenever I was in therapy I felt normal. My parents seem almost sociopathic to me. They got all my college stuff down and then gave me the silent treatment wheni asked if they were paying for school so that I dropped out of school. A church member tried to expose me due to intrusive thoughts I developed bc of ssris when I was like 14. My dad told neighborhood watch to check on me. The high school kids in my neighbor”

“You lost me at the end. So much of modern "therapy" is unhelpful navel-gazing. Find a friend (not a group - one) you can confide in and do it when you need to, but make sure it's someone who will call you on your BS when you try to insert your head up your own ass. Become Ungovernable is truth tho.”

“I honestly don't know who to turn to for help. Doctor can't help me, Treatment barely works for me, Brain Fog make it so I barely can help myself, I don't have a group I feel like I can relate too w/ these issues, It just feels like I'm not allowed to experience life. I'm forced to spectate everyone else. submitted by /u/PianoMelodic3297 [link] [comments]”

“I agree! It sometimes tells me to get a grip, in the nicest possible way of course. And remembers stuff I told it ages ago when relevant”

“what makes AI so great is that it can pull together information and approaches from a huge range of sources, then contextualise them around what you’re actually dealing with instead of giving you some generic one-size-fits-all advice. so in a sense, AI isn’t necessarily “bad at therapy” — it’s more like an extremely sophisticated compiler of information and perspectives .. the important part is knowing where its limits are, especially with something as serious as your CPTSD and severe episodes.”

“TL;DR: 26M, 12 years of treatment for anxiety/OCD and currently on five medications, but I still feel terrible most days. My total testosterone was in the low 300s ng/dL around 18 months ago, so I'm getting my hormones properly investigated. Has anyone in a similar situation found that treating low/borderline testosterone genuinely improved their mental health, energy and overall wellbeing? I'm 26 and have been receiving psychiatric treatment since I was around 14 after going through two”

“TLDR: I know my wife would benefit from therapy, but she’s so afraid of being told things she doesn’t want to hear that she won’t even consider it. For as long as I’ve known my wife, she’s struggled with anxiety and some mild depression. Her anxiety was much worse when we were first married 5 years ago, but she has steadily improved. She takes an antidepressant which has been super helpful. But recently her anxiety has gotten much worse. I suspect she may actually be experiencing some OCD sympto”

“they said bipolar, idk honestly, im better now but i still think what if they were right”

“I've been through 4 this past year. It felt like talking to a wall. There was one that I felt 75% understood me and she actually talked, but I couldnt keep going because of the distance. Maybe therapy just isn't for me? People just keep recommending it (generally not to me personaly), and I don't get it. My parent tried taking me as a kid and I saw it as a waste of time, learned how to make choclate milk where you shake the milk bottle so the milk is all bubbly. Then as a teen I trie”

“I’m pretty messed up myself so I don’t know how much good I would be giving advice. Do you have a therapist? I see mine on Telehealth every two weeks.”

“This is my first time ever posting on reddit so I'm sorry if I do this wrong (I got influenced because I keep seeing reddit stories about people getting help, and I wonder if I could maybe get that too?) For background; I am an 18yo female, eldest daughter out of 3. I'll keep this as short as possible because it's currently late into the night (one problem that I have is being awake in ungodly hours) and because I'm not used to telling anybody what I actually feel, much more to s”

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“I've been seeing the same therapist for almost a year and things are pretty stable, but lately it feels like we're not really making much progress. Nothing bad happened and I'm not upset with them. I'm just wondering if this is a normal plateau or if it can be a sign that it's time to try a different therapist. How do you know when it's actually time to switch? submitted by /u/Purple_Morning_8735 [link] [comments]”

“I am not a harm to myself but I am having a severe crisis. My deductible is too high to pay for an IOP. I have two small kids I am the primary caregiver of. Therapy isn’t cutting it anymore. The crisis is due to a situation with my husband. submitted by /u/Radiant-Echo8789 [link] [comments]”

“Sorry for the long post. (20 M) I’ve been dealing with some weird mental and physical stuff that have been with me for a while but its gotten a bit worse recently, I think. I never got checked out because I didnt think things were that bad or they were on and off so I didnt think I had anything going on. On the mental side, my anxious feelings bounce around a lot. I’ll randomly panic about things and sometimes spend a lot of time searching things up or worrying about my future or what im in gonn”

“Well years of mental problems wont solve a few therapy session. Its a long run and results Are not instant. Its more like an investment for your mental health. It can definitely help but its not Miracle. I know people who Are in therapy since they were Child And still strugle. So my advice Is to not to make any expectation. Especially when you dont know what has caused your mental problems. It think it works for people just want to vent, see things from another perspective or they are dealing wi”

“Hey guys so my mental health has been going down exponentially and it got so bad today where I almost relapsed so I was wondering if there’s a way I can talk to a therapist or something online anonymously and free? Ik it’s a lot but if there’s anything like that anywhere it would help submitted by /u/EntrepreneurBig3869 [link] [comments]”

“It’s been very clear to my therapist of ~4 years and about 5 psychiatrists that I have had over that time that I have some kind of personality disorder or something. Something is very deeply wrong with me and has been since I was a kid. It’s scary and impulsive and has ruined my self image over and over again. Now that I’m in my early 20s, I feel like it’s showing up more than ever. I have had bpd, OCD, and bipolar thrown around by psychiatrists and I do see myself in those, they’re good guesses”

“Just seen this comment and I’d like to reply to give you some peace of mind, I myself was the same. Last year however I was hospitalized in a mental hospital for a few months. I expressed my fears. And their words were “we do not punish people for seeking help, what’s concerning is if they DONT” please don’t worry about that, social services could be contacted but it’s to help you (my own experience) they were nothing but understanding and only phoned me”

“Who do I see psychologist, therapist or what? I have seen my doctor and his answer was meds. We tried and it seemed to make me spiral further out of control. Here’s the full story. Childhood: Came from a wealthy family, parents spoiled us with overseas trips etc etc. There’s a bit more that happened with a neighbours kid and potentially his dad. I don’t remember much of the night apart from screaming and then my parents being there. We packed up and moved to a completely different city in the ne”

“Okay you’re clearly not aligned with her but, maybe she was trying to be non judgmental and is in over her head. Time for a new therapist if possible otherwise, maybe assert your values with her specifically and be honest about this line of conversation. Hyper sexuality isn’t that dangerous. Although, I know various addictions can be borne from it. Risk taking is the way more dangerous component though. Do you think you are interested in sex or risky sex?”

“Well when you said you don’t do it because it wouldn’t benefit you I wondered. Sorry your therapist isn’t helping much. They should take their job more seriously.”

“I suffer from schzoafftive disorder and I had an appointment with my pcp and I told her I keep thinking that I might be Jesus reincarnated. She said “well we have no way to disprove that, you very well could be, just keep an open mind”. That “very well could be” sent me down a rabbit hole and straight into psychosis where I called 911 because I thought my family was “possessed” and I the took my to the psych ward. I switched doctors after I got out. I’ve learned over the years that outside of ps”

“Ik I should be talking to my therapist rather than the internet about this, but maybe hearing from others who can relate could help on a Sunday when a therapy appointment isn’t really in the cards? Does anyone else deal with depersonalization/derealization episodes? F35, Diagnoses: ADHD (I suspect AuDHD but no screening yet and unsure if a confirmation would do anything to help me atp), OCD, CPTSD, Clinical Depression w/chronic su!c!d@l ideation, GAD w/panic attacks I’ve been good for a long tim”

“Yes I think some of them don't seem very helpful... particularly when in mental hospital, the attitude of some doctors seems to be that the patient must do whatever the doctor says. But I don't think psychiatrists are going to make the right choices unless they actually listen to what their patients are trying to say. The Community Mental Health Team psychiatrists I saw were probably a little better on average. I guess in that situation there's less stress and they have a bit more ti”

“I have had negative experiences with drs , one dr that haunts me and i cant get over . this dr has accused me of faking , attention seeking , when i went to assert myself they said i was being threatening , lol cause i was being honest and not taking their bullshit . im still angry , i had to fkn fake an apology so id let back in the hospital 🤡 ( it was worse than almost dying of low oxygen ) ill take the low oxygen back . i know im being dramatic but i dont want my care being compromised cause”

“I know recovering from mental health problems and getting better is a long, gradual process but it feels like an absolute eternity. I’m struggling with anxiety, panic attacks, depression, alcohol problems. You name it, i’ve got it. I feel so consumed by it all. I’m in CBT therapy for my health anxiety, but the days between my therapy sessions feel like they’re lasting forever and although it’s helping my health anxiety, it’s barely touching the sides of any of my other problems. I honestly just”

“I’ll try to keep this as short as possible. I have been complaining about this for years, but haven’t found any support. I remember one woman with a very serious demeanor laughed at me and I question whether it even happened because it seems out of place. I have been to over 15 professionals, and two hospitals. I was prescribed abilify at some point but this didn’t stop and it had other side effects. the walls have been breathing for a long time, texture looks to me almost like trypophobia makeu”

“Yes, the psychologists here are licensed to diagnose but I’ve only ever been prescribed by psychiatrists. The therapists that I’ve worked with have been partnered with a psychiatrist, I should have said that. They all have been coming at it by first addressing the depression. The one I went to the longest and had lab work done through came to the BPD. I’m in this weird place between it making sense that it can take time vs. needing relief presently. It’s like when it feels like they’re not getti”

“Exactly! Also, that’s where my serotonin imbalance is too, which is why I need antidepressants? Lol”

“Are psychologists licensed to diagnose where you live? Or do you need to see a psychiatrist for an official diagnosis? Who’s prescribing your meds? What do they think you’re dealing with? The process of getting to an accurate diagnosis can take quite some time. The same symptom can be caused by multiple disorders - it comes down to patterns, getting the full picture, etc.”

“What you've said makes sense. Yes I agree that people usually don't appreciate being forced into treatment. I'm in the UK like you, and I think I was offered the chance to go into mental hospital as an informal patient, which is better because you can leave the hospital for all of the daylight hours if you want, as long as you are in the hospital for the evening and night, and you take the medication they expect you to take. The deal they offered was that I could either enter the hos”

“I have done lots of healing. You name it, I have done it: CBT, DBT, inner child healing, self-help books. None of that mattered, and the only single thing that truly made a difference to my CPTSD healing journey was having money. That is it. With money now, I could afford things to better myself. You want a good sleep? Money. You want to go to a better environment, like a house? Money. You want to not work and treat yourself to a good day? Money. The list goes on. For myself and many others, the”

“I’m not sure if it’s me being emotional or if i’m getting worse, regardless of what it is i’ve finally decided to get help. I’m 23 F and i’ve been REALLY questioning myself and my mental health since i was 15. I can acknowledge that i was depressed during my teen/highschool years but i barely pushed through. I thought i was just an angsty teen that was thinking of — a few times. I wasn’t sure if it was normal or not but brushed it off. I didn’t seek help then since mental health was a touchy sub”

“I´m currently on psychological therapy due some new and old problems of mine (and a depression diagnosis). She said that one of the main pillars of the human being is faith, and it is commonly seen in people that believe in (but not limited to): different religions, the universe, karma, nature. The point is that I'm supposed to believe in something in order to feel better and have a sense of purpose but I cant really point something that truly resonates with me. How do you manage to believe”

“Oh no, he is a psychiatrist, it's just he didn't ask me any problems relating to my life that lead me to come here , he just say anxiety and anxiety disorder that is then prescribed me meds but didn't even ask my preference like I have body dysmorphia and I will die if I even gain a few pounds.”

“I tried a breathing app and I only used it twice. It's pointless when the stressors of everyday life are still present and these supposed bandaid solutions do absolutely nothing. I won't need therapy when I have entered a point in life when I am content with myself, my career and my lifestyle.”

“Yep, that guy does not seem a great therapist, if he cant listen he is obviously working in the wrong field. Psychology and psychiatry are different fields, with psychiatry being more "clinical" and less personal than psychology, so it is normal that a psychiatrist feels more cold. But the guy seems an ass anyway, so drop it. In any case you dont seem a bad person, so dont think there is something wrong with you. Maybe it is anxiety, maybe it is depression, maybe it is adhd, maybe it i”

“When I entered the adult workforce at 22 my whole idea was, “get a job with health insurance, then you can figure out the mental issues.” I’m 35 now and what a nightmare it has been. My first job I had good insurance in 2013. But it was hard to find a provider, one with availability, one that I could coordinate with my work schedule. Sleep studies were booked way out. Every single year it has gotten so much worse. The job opportunities and health insurance have declined rapidly. I’ve become more”

“I saw a psychiatrist because my therapist said she recommended that I see one. Is a psychologist just a therapist and psychiatrist combined? I would have to find one covered by my insurance first.”

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“I have borderline personality disorder, CPTSD, Autism, Anxiety, Major depressive disorder, and Bipolar 2 disorder. I'm almost 24. How the hell does a person live and cope with this? I'm about to start therapy again but I'm just so tired of fighting. submitted by /u/Sharp_Professor1995 [link] [comments]”

“Online sessions can work at that age, especially when the therapist keeps things interactive rather than relying on 45 minutes of talking 😅 The setup and therapist’s approach probably matter a lot.”

“This gonna be incoherent as hell. Sorry. Things have been bad recently. All the medical professionals treating me have apparnelty come to the conclusion that I need to be hospitalized. My doctor called me to let me know that if I don't go voluntarily today, they'll "help" me get there. Idk wtf that means. Is the police going to come drag me out there or something? What are they gonna do to get me there? Everyone knows I won't go voluntarily. I feel like they're just tel”

“Around 4 years ago, I started seeking a therapist because I was unsatisfied with my life, sad all the time, hated myself and couldn't really connect with other people. I had just finished my Master's degree, moved in together with my boyfriend at the time and started my first 'real' full time job. I found a place, got a diagnosis (depression and social anxiety disorder) and started with group therapy. The concept of the group therapy was to identify your values and then plan acti”

“This is a long one so sorry in advance. *TLDR*: medically gaslit for years, doctor admitted why, I want to make sure no one else experiences the damage done by ‘social media diagnosis’. Hello, I am writing this as someone who spent years battling the NHS for a hEDS diagnosis, unsuccessfully. I was dismissed countless times and it wrecked my mental health, so my family helped me go private; and I received the diagnosis (among others) within about 20 minutes from a private rheumatologist. After so”

“Ive been meaning to start sessions with my psychologist, however my mental health worker said the psychologist doesnt want to continue unless I get my ADHD symptoms ”in check” I asked her what she meant, she said that my ADHD symptoms are showing a LOT. This baffled me, because I am on the highest dose possible of concerta. She told me that I clearly have severe ADHD and that they will have to mosy likely put me on two medications because its that bad to them?? I dont want to take new medication”

“I am kind of an introvert, and I don't think I would be able to communicate if it's a meet directly. I really need suggestions for online therapy. Please give genuine reviews and recommendations. submitted by /u/hmm_odd [link] [comments]”

“Please tell me it’s going to be okay. I’m not in danger, nobody else is either. Yes I’m calling my therapist tomorrow, it’s just almost midnight. I’ve been overthinking things and my mind has been wandering into the worst outcomes in my overthinking. I was in the shower about two hours ago and had what I can only describe as… not a panic attack, but an overthinking attack. And now I’m in bed crying with my cat, and I’m trying to convince myself that these feelings will pass and all the worse out”