New Parents Overwhelmed by Newborn Care

“Baby is 6 weeks old (7 weeks on Monday). He had a tongue tie. He’s a greedy boy, he has gained weight very quickly and lactation consultant confirmed my fast let down and oversupply. He was struggling to keep up with my let down and kept unlatching so we got his tongue tie corrected last week. We had some trouble initially the first 24 hours then things started to improve. The last few days however my boobs have gone completely soft. Baby this evening has been extremely fussy and screaming at my”

“Our son has a diagnosed anterior tongue tie with confirmed poor milk transfer (documented on a weighted feed). We’re weighing our options and I’d love to hear from parents who decided not to do the release procedure. If that’s you, I’d really appreciate hearing: • How old was your baby when you noticed the issue, and how old are they now? • What did the feeding problems actually look like (weight gain, latch, supply, pain, etc.)? • What did you do instead — bodywork, positioning changes, waiting”

“hi all, I hope I can get some advice and general help from this great community! I’m a first time mom and really wanted to feed, between everything I have a baby with tongue tie, very small amounts of milk being produced and a baby who ended up being dehydrated and lethargic as she wasn’t getting enough. So now pumping and supplementing wirh formula. I was also a c section birth if that makes any difference. at the minute I’ve been using a hospital grade pump with small quantities made. my issue”

“New mom to a 8 week old LO and struggling. Very fussy baby with hardly any happy wake windows (dealing with tongue tie and silent reflux since the beginning). I thought that I would be baby wearing all the time and purchased four different styles of wraps/slings as per the subreddit in preparation for baby. Unfortunately my chronic pain issues have not allowed any of them to work for me which means she's in my arms all day. I know I am supposed to enjoy the skin-to-skin contact naps while I”

“So our 2 week old girl had her tongue tie released yesterday. She’d struggled since birth to latch onto my bare nipples and would only manage to feed with a bottle or nipple shields. After the release she used the shield initially to get rid of some of my engorgement and then took to the bare nipple brilliantly when we removed the shield half way through. For 3 or 4 other feeds yesterday she latched onto bare nipple just fine, although she got increasingly fussy over it and in general. It took o”

“My 2month old had her lip and tongue tie released yesterday and while I despise the recovery and stretches, I’m so grateful that she’s already doing better with feedings. She actually sounds like she’s nursing now instead of just suckling. I’m so hopeful our breastfeeding journey will be saved once we get her latch even better. She no longer screams in pain after feeds, she no longer spits up a crazy amount after feeds, she already seems SO MUCH happier and content. I just can’t believe how much”

“Hi! I have a 6 week old who just got over a horrible diaper rash & yeast. We’ve now been using triple paste after every change but I’m noticing it gets stuck to his penis. He is circd. Should we be removing the excess / pulling back the skin to remove with a washcloth during baths? Leaving it? submitted by /u/bostongirl2123 [link] [comments]”

“My 6 mo old has had periods of excesssivr drooling. But the past week he’s been having fits of choking and swallowing excessively about 10 times a day. I’m wondering if he just learned he could swallow his drool up instead of letting it drop out of his mouth? Or is something else going on? submitted by /u/Disastrous_Cookie121 [link] [comments]”

“Apparently tongue tie often runs in the family. It does make sense when you think about it lol but I am pissed that I only learned about this at 4 months post partum when an IBCLC consultant checked my baby. I come home all excited to tell my husband how I feel relieved about finally having an answer for my poor breastfeeding experience that I spent WEEKS crying over, only for him to tell me that he had his tongue tie released at 7 years old…🧍‍♀️ I thought he wasnt breastfed because he was a tw”

“It seems that is the consensus that if the arch palate is a bit higher than usually there is also a tongue tie. However, my son has gained weight fine so far. The first month was ok, I didn't think much of his issues to handle the flow due to my strong letdown, the second month started with problems and he wouldn't like to nurse anymore, he has had some moments when he would choke due to the flow and position, though my flow started to slow and i think at 7 weeks I was already regulated.”

“Breastfeeding did not go well for us the first time around (poor tongue tie release led to more issues, baby struggled gaining weight, and I had no idea what I was doing) and we ended up exclusively pumping. Well I just found out I’m pregnant. I want to prepare myself better this time around. What advice or resources would you suggest? submitted by /u/namastelily [link] [comments]”

“My baby is approaching 8 months old, and we still nurse in football hold. He's quite a long baby and football became difficult for me around month 4/5. For the first 2 months or so I nursed in cradle, but I didnt realize he had a bad latch. (Clicking, swallowing air, dribbling) After switching to football I finally felt what a proper latch was and havent been able to achieve that in any other hold. Trust me, I try often. At least 2-3 times a day I attempt a latch in cradle, koala, cross, or”

“How are we doing things when we have a really fussy teething, baby? I have another son that I’m trying to do things with, I have appointments, just generally have life to live and I can’t do anything without whining and crying involved and it’s really taking a toll on my mental health and I am having breakdowns every day. Every time we try to do something it’s a fight to get in the car seat or stroller and I’m just sick of doing things buttttt I also can’t stop doing things. Are we doing stuff w”

“tldr: Mamas who did a tongue tie release with an older baby (4+ months), what was your experience? Were you able to exclusively breastfeed after? Did the procedure seem to traumatize your baby at all? Did they use a numbing cream during the procedure or not? **** My son is 4 months and we are considering a tongue tie release as he has had low milk transfer since the start due to oral dysfunction and a tongue tie (anterior + maybe posterior) which only just got diagnosed. I’ve been in the hell of”

“When my baby was born, she had a tongue tie that was corrected within the first few days of her life. The issue is that she can breast-feed for about 3 minutes on each side, and then she comes off crying. I try to get her to re-latch but she can't since she is fussing. I saw a lactation specialist who confirmed that when my baby does latch, she has a good and deep latch. She also confirmed that there are no issues with her sucking and was strong and coordinated. We did a weighted feed and wh”

“Hello I have a 2 week old and this is my second time EBF. She had to get her tongue and lip tie corrected due to severe ties :(( My question is, is this normal? She does NOT sleep. I know newborns struggle but she is awake every night from 11-4am. I feed her using a nipple shield due to latch problems from the ties for about 45 mins and she falls asleep and while I’m burping her she wakes up intently rooting. This is ALL NIGHT. She cries and fusses as soon as I put her in her bassinet. She is no”

“My baby was born with a tongue-tie (short lingual frenulum). At the time, our pediatricians were on the fence about whether we should have it released. More importantly, though, breastfeeding was going really well and the baby was gaining weight normally, so we ultimately decided not to go ahead with the procedure. Now that my baby is 4.5 months old, we’re planning to see a pediatric surgeon at some point to assess whether the tongue-tie actually needs to be released. The reason I’m a little wor”

“My son (6 weeks) had both his tongue-tie and lip-tie released with a laser 12 days ago. I have seen a little improvement in his sucking technique - his latch has become deeper, and we’ve had a few fairly good feeding sessions. However, for the past 2-3 days we have been totally back to the same pattern we had before the release. He uses his gums a lot, almost chewing on the nipple, and he constantly loses suction and slips off the breast. I’m doing exercises recommended by our osteopath to work”

“Hi all! When my baby was 8 days old I had decided to get her tongue and lip tie corrected at the advice of an LC. I was in so much pain, her latch was so shallow, and we were having issues with her getting and staying latched. She was breastfeeding though and gaining weight and I am having some regrets with the revision now.. The day I got her ties fixed I had to introduce a bottle. We are currently day 4 post revision and she is latching SOMETIMES. I can hear her gulp in the beginning but I&#39”

“Hi there! My newborn got the frenectomy for a posterior tongue tie at 12 days old. Since then she’s completely refused to breastfeed, so I’ve had to transition to bottle feeding and exclusive pumping. We’re three days post procedure. Wondering what others’ experiences were like - did your baby eventually go back to breastfeeding or did they end up developing a permanent preference for the bottle? How long did they refuse the breast? When did things start to take a turn for the better? subm”

“TLDR: Lactation consultant said latching issues are due to tongue tie. Pediatrician says no tongue tie and baby may just never feed from the breast. Feeling confused and tired of exclusively pumping. Baby is now 10 weeks old, and was doing great exclusively breastfeeding until his 3 week cluster feeding event. I started pumping like a mad woman trying to increase supply and that’s when things started to go downhill. He would get super sleepy and fall asleep at the breast just to wake up and cry”

“my partner and i are first time dads to a baby girl who is 9 weeks old/3 weeks adjusted and the amount of spit up that comes out of this baby’s body is absolutely insane. it’s gotten to the point where we are barely sleeping at night bc she spits up so much that she chokes on it, wakes herself up, and then it takes forever to settle. i know, i know she’ll grow out of it but i feel like there has to be Something i can do to get her some relief though i feel like i’m checking all the boxes so i’m”

“Baby started off as a fantastic eater… Somehow seemed to already know how to latch, which I was super grateful for after a challenging pregnancy and traumatic delivery. But as time has gone on he has gotten more and more difficult to feed. I mostly do direct breastfeeding. I also pump once a day so we can try a bottle or cup. At two months he stopped taking a bottle. Tried all the bottle and cup brands, temperatures, freshly pumped, various formulas, different people offering, adding vanilla ext”

“LO is 3 months old and struggled with weight gain most of his life. We found he had a bad tongue tie and lip tie which we released. We've been working with a lactation consultant to help his latch and strength, but he's only wanting the bottle more and more each day. Has anyone been through this and LO came back to breastfeeding? submitted by /u/BooksCoffeeWrites [link] [comments]”

“So my baby is five months old and in the last three days, she has been almost having trouble breathing occasionally. It’s almost a mix of breath holding but not quite as it seems like she struggles to inhale sometimes? I can’t work out if it’s developmental or if there was something wrong with her breathing. Doctor said at the moment we should manage it conservatively as she is otherwise very healthy and happy, never seems bothered by them except if they happen twice in a row she panics a little”

“Hello everyone! Our son is 4 weeks old and spent the first two weeks of his life in the hospital due to hypoglycemia. He was also SGA. Since coming home, he seems to be struggling with infant dyschezia. He screams, strains, arches his back and becomes completely inconsolable before passing gas or having a bowel movement. When he’s awake, he seems miserable most of the time — crying and screaming a lot. The only things that reliably soothe him are breastfeeding (he’s exclusively breastfed) and be”

“I know it's a little too soon to be this frustrated, but man this is the worst feeding has been for us and it's worsening day to day. My girl is almost 12 weeks. She is mostly nursed but takes one bottle a day usually as I go back to work in one week. She is so restless at breast, screaming and groaning at the breast, turning her head away, chomping (which she did before but not this bad). She pops on and off constantly, clicks. How she fed before is a dream compared to this. I think she”

“Posterior tongue tie and lip release done on Tuesday. 6 week old LO. Loss of suction is worse now than it was prior, no symptoms improved yet which is fair enough. Wondering people's experiences with healing and how long it took to improve, if at all. We are doing CTS too. I'm praying i made the right choice doing this, especially with these "stretches" we have to do 6 times a day. submitted by /u/Krymsunality [link] [comments]”

“My son has had latch issues since forever, I went to the infant feeding team multiple times and nothing helped. he had his tongue tie revised, still no change, in fact the last time I went they told me that it likely wouldn’t change because he has a high palate. I have been using nipple shields on and off my whole breastfeeding journey so far, at first I tried to use them just when the pain got too much as I was trying to correct his latch, but when they told me it wouldn’t get better I kind of”

“My 6-week-old LO had her tongue and lip tie released today, and I’m mostly stressed about the “stretches” we have to do for the next four weeks. We’re supposed to do them five times during the day and once at night. She has such short windows between everything. Feeding takes 30 minutes or longer, then we have to burp her and keep her upright for another 10–15 minutes. After that, I’m lucky if she has a short, happy wake window before she needs to sleep again. I’m also not supposed to do the str”

“Hi everyone, I’m looking for experiences from parents who chose a conservative approach before deciding on a tongue tie release. My son is 8 weeks old and has been triple feeding since the early weeks. He breastfeeds at least 8 times a day and gets about 250–260 mL of top-ups (down from around 400 mL/day a few weeks ago). He’s gaining weight really well, so growth isn’t currently an issue. The real issue is shallow latch and him sleeping at the breast. I recently saw a pediatric dentist who diag”

“Hi guys. My 4 week old just had a posterior tongue tie released with laser last Wednesday. The improvement in the latch after was like night and day. So much better. They sent me home with stretches so it doesn’t reattach which I have been doing 4-5 times a day. For the last day, she is not interested in eating, the stretches seem more painful, and when she does latch, she nurses for like 5-10 min max before falling asleep (this is new, she used to be awake and suckling for like 20-30 min), gett”

“I breastfed my 1st a little over a year with very little trouble . My 2nd is 10 weeks now and it started fine but then she had a lip and tongue tie she got that released at 5 weeks and it seems like things got way better for a week but then have just gotten so much worse for some reason . I’m seeing a IBLCL and we’ve tried so many different things. My LO is unlatching after struggling with my very fast letdown . When I pump , I get 3 ounces in under 4 minutes. She nurses for about 3 minutes and”

“First time mom of a 3 week old. His latch is decent but he doesn’t take big chin-drop gulps, mostly just smaller suckling movements before falling asleep at the breast. He’s not losing weight but isn’t up to birth weight yet. We tried using a SNS syringe / tube system, but he’s not good at sucking on his own and we have to press the syringe. This feels like it’s teaching the wrong lesson, that he can get milk without trying. We haven’t yet introduced a bottle but may have to soon. He doesn’t hav”

“it's Sunday and I think my baby's nose is blocked with mucus poor thing. She's 7 months old and this is the first time this happened. At the moment it's 4.19am so I don't have anywhere I can call. what will I need to do? I already rinsed her nostrils with saline water. I will be taking her to a doctor, but what is done in these circumstances? How do you apply the saline properly? Shall I buy an aspirator? I feel like a horrible mother not knowing what to do. submitted b”

“Just had my baby this past week! (Yay!) I ended up pumping about 95% of the time last time bc my first absolutely refused to latch for a while (later found out we were dealing with a tongue tie). I’ve been trying to nurse this baby from the start and thankfully she’s really eager to nurse! But it’s still really challenging bc I have a flat nipple on one side and it’s definitely a learning curve to learn. I’ve gotten some pretty bad nipple trauma this week.. blisters, some bleeding, and now that”

“Hi all, needing advice about what to do. Some background, my LO is 8 weeks today. He previously had an anterior tongue tie that was revised when he was a few days old. I am currently going through a nursing strike with my son where he is refusing to latch if he is awake or overstimulated. I’ve been surviving on catching him at the end of naps and sometimes with supplement with a bottle if he is borderline refusing and needs to eat. The last couple of days I’ve seen some improvement from him latc”

“I’m just so stressed out. My baby is 5 months old. She started out with a tongue tie and latch issues that required us to triple feed (with breastmilk only after the first day or two). She was finally was able to latch after a couple weeks and I needed to slowly reduce pumping because I kept getting clogs. Everything has been going pretty well minus the occasional clog here and there since she was about two months. That is, until last week. I was hospitalized with a bad e.coli infection. I had t”

“My 9 week old (exclusively breastfed )had tongue and lip tie release done 2 weeks ago She is still gulping air! Like really gulping ! when it happens it startles her and I can hear it swoop down into the stomach And she does this multiple times I do have a fast letdown but she does it even sometimes at end of feed She’s also still clicking My LC said I should see improvements by the 2 week mark I’m going to follow up again next week The surgeon is very reputable and been doing stretches on time”

“Why are they so controversial? Our son is one month old and I have almost given up breastfeeding about 10x. Longstory short we had a long complicated birth that ended in a c-section and I experience a death in the family at the same time. We had a hard time breastfeeding that first week (because we didn't know anything and I was healing from major surgery) and my nipples hurt so bad. We had an initial lactation consult and we found a breastfeeding position that worked while I healed and he s”

“Why are they so controversial? Our son is one month old and I have almost given up breastfeeding about 10x. Longstory short we had a long complicated birth that ended in a c-section and I experience a death in the family at the same time. We had a hard time breastfeeding that first week (because we didn't know anything and I was healing from major surgery) and my nipples hurt so bad. We had an initial lactation consult and we found a breastfeeding position that worked while I healed and he s”

“I'm wondering if anyone else has had a similar issue to me with their bubba when breastfeeding. My LO is currently 21 weeks though since 11/12 weeks we have been having issues with feeding (EBF). After 3 weeks I went to a lactation consultant who identified that he had tongue, cheek and lip ties. We subsequently got them released the week later. Prior to getting them released he would arch his back, cry or scream, refuse the breast and pull away. Even putting him in a cradle hold to feed or”

“Hoping for some gentle advice or success stories after biting injury My 10 month old had latch issues when she was a newborn and I believe it was a lip tie that went undiagnosed. Because of that, we had to triple feed for a month until she was back to birth weight and since then everything had been going well. This past week her two front teeth have erupted at the same time. Nursing has been absolutely excruciating to me and I dread each time it's time to feed. I've tried unlatching and”

“Baby is 5 weeks old and had his severe tongue tie clipped today. All went well and he's recovering great! My original plan was EBF, but his complete inability to latch with his tongue tie threw a Spectra-shaped wrench into that plan lol I've been pumping 8 times a day round the clock and bottle feeding, producing an average of 17-22 oz a day while he eats 8-12 times a day with an average of 20-25 oz daily. When he's hungry and I'm out of milk we supplement with an ounce or two of”

“Baby is 5 weeks old and had his severe tongue tie clipped today. All went well and he's recovering great! My original plan was EBF, but his complete inability to latch with his tongue tie threw a Spectra-shaped wrench into that plan lol I've been pumping 8 times a day round the clock and bottle feeding, producing an average of 17-22 oz a day while he eats 8-12 times a day with an average of 20-25 oz daily. When he's hungry and I'm out of milk we supplement with an ounce or two of”

“Baby is 5 weeks old and had his tongue tie corrected today. My original plan was EBF but his tongue tie prevented him from latching so I ended up exclusively pumping and bottle feeding these past 5 weeks. As soon as we got home from the ENT I tried latching him and he did AMAZING! Was able to pull a LOT of milk from one breast and then fell asleep. Has anyone else transitioned from EP to EBF? My main questions: Do I immediately start nursing every time and hang up the pump altogether, or should”

“I’m hoping to hear from anyone who’s been through something similar because I’m feeling pretty discouraged. My son is 9 weeks old. He was born full term on his due date with no complications. We had immediate skin-to-skin and attempted breastfeeding right away. In the hospital we worked with three different lactation consultants, but he never latched. My milk took about two days to come in, so we supplemented with formula by bottle because he simply wasn’t transferring anything and I was worried”

“I’m a first time mom to a 4.5 month old baby. He used to be very easy to deal with until recently he started vigorously rubbing his nose against my body. It usually happens more at night. After feeding him I put him on my shoulders to burp him and he immediately starts doing this. It’s so vigorous that sometimes he ends up waking up from his sleep and becomes soo difficult to handle. I googled and read that it’s a sleep cue. Babies does it when they are tired. But in my baby’s case it’s not. Eve”

“Please help 😭😭😭😭 I have been absolutely going through it with my 7 week old. She has never been able to just be a content baby. I feel SO defeated and like I can’t do this anymore. Can someone please tell me their experience on pepticate? We have just switched from similac sensitive due to always being so fussy and having mucus in her poops. I thought it was going good but now we are just back to where we started just as fussy and now even worse with spit up. The amount of spit up she has is”

“Are we all doing this? My 11 month old just refuses to get his teeth brushed any other way. Even then I have to pry his mouth open. The only thing that has KIND OF worked so far has been having my husband come over and we take turns 'brushing' his teeth too. But that barely helps. If there's anything I'm doing that I'm afraid will mess up my kid, it's this tbh. 😬😅 submitted by /u/itchysnapdragon [link] [comments]”

“I just had my son Joshua yesterday he was 5 lbs 1 ounce but completely to term and healthy!! He latched onto me immediately after birth but we’ve had some issues since then, he’s a very sleepy boy so I’ve been using supplementing with syringes of breast milk and for peace of mind I tried him on a bottle last night (I needed some type of sleep and I was worried he hadn’t been eating enough) well even the bottle he didn’t care to suckle on just held in his mouth, the breast he will latch sometimes”

“I guess this isn’t really medical advice but wasn’t sure what else to tag. My 11 week old choked on her saliva last night, it was really scary for us even though she was able to expel it on her own she definitely scared herself for and cried for about 20 minutes. Has this happened to anyone else? She does not have any allergies that we know of and no other concerns. She’s had times before where she gets a little choked up but last night I felt like I had to help her when other times I haven’t. A”

“Hi everyone, I’m feeling really alone and I’m desperately hoping someone has been through something similar because I honestly feel like I’ve never come across another baby like mine. My son is 5 months old and we’ve been struggling with feeding for over 3 months now. He doesn’t have a classic breast aversion. We’ve been working with healthcare professionals who believe his feeding issues are due to oral dysfunction (high palate, tongue tie and poor tongue function), but we’re still trying to wo”

“Looking for other parents who’ve dealt with this. Our baby is bottle-fed, slow-flow nipple, we do 1oz increments with burps between and keep her upright 20 or so min after feeds. We also do saline drops and have a humidifier. She’s on a formula for milk protein sensitivity. She has occasional wet burps too. At random times between feeds (never during), she’ll suddenly have thick saliva build up and start choking on it; can’t breathe for several seconds, face goes red, eyes water, milky mucus com”

“Hello! FTM here with 4 week old after an unplanned c section at 39 weeks. I feel stupid to say this but I didn’t really know or understand what cluster feeding was and in the hospital the nurses and lactation consultant told me to offer my breast first and if baby was still hungry that it was okay to top off with formula. So unfortunately that’s what I went with. I experienced a few nights where I tried to exclusively breastfeed but after 5-6 hours of non stop breast feeding with little sleep I”

“Hello, Has anyone breast feeding had babies tongue tie cut and it massively changed their breastfeeding journey for the better?? My LO is 9 weeks old and I have been trying to avoid putting her through the procedure just for my benefit, she gaining weight well, although feeds can take longer. I’ve been working with LC to try and improve painful latch and nipple trauma, which is now somewhat more bearable but the main problem I’m still experiencing is vasospasms from nipple compression and the af”

“Pediatrician told us to get newborn tongue tie and lip tie evaluated. Went to an ENT who told us it was severe. ENT was shocked when I told him baby was able to latch and feed. He told us since he is eating we could choose to get it clipped now while it’s a simple procedure or wait and see. My husband has a brother who had a significant tie when he was a kid and didn’t get it dealt with until he was 8 and had speech problems and had to relearn eating so he wants it clipped asap while it’s simple”

“Baby had a bad lip and tongue tie, wouldn’t latch without shield but was primarily breastfeeding with shield. Got laser correction at 6 weeks old, he is now 8 weeks and has not even attempted to breast feed in a week. He never latched after procedure, screams if I even put him in nursing position, and absolutely will not latch to boob, even with a shield. Strictly bottle fed now. It pisses me off so bad that we did all of this to him, did the stretches religiously, and he still won’t latch. Thin”

“My LO is almost 9 weeks and has been having issues with forceful and excessive spit up. We’re currently trying meds to treat GERD and we did well for about a week before it came back. She’s had ultrasounds and stuff and it’s not pyloric stenosis. Shes gaining weight slowly but surely (10lbs in her 2mo visit, she was a late term premie) Thing is my husband keeps blaming my breasts for her issues. Like my heavy let down is why she throws up and keeps saying in the problem. But then last night out”