People Lonely, Can't Form Friendships
These individuals express deep feelings of loneliness, isolation, and a lack of meaningful connection. They grapple with difficulties forming and maintaining friendships, often experiencing low self-esteem, insecurity, and a sense of being an outsider. The pain stems from a desire for belonging and acceptance that remains unmet.
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“when i was in my young teenage years, i was depressed & inconsolable. any angle you could come at me with to try and comfort, i had some sort of defense against. "i'm NOT ALONE? great, so now i just feel like one of many.…”
“I don't have a lot of friends. Recently I've been not in a great frame of mind, so I haven't been reaching out, I don't want to hurt anyone, but nobody has reached out to ne either. It's been days, when I normally talk to these people every day. It hurts that nobody ever reaches out to me and I have to do all of the heavy lifting, putting in all of the effort. I'm getting thoughts of cutting again and I really don't want to do it. Is there a pen of some sort I can use”
“Not being in one, I could never, im too ugly and broke for that. I mean seeing them. I immediately cut off contact with anyone I see in a relationship because it makes me feel infinitely worse about being alive submitted by /u/Scoopy_Woopy [link] [comments]”
“remember they cant read your mind. people are wrapped up in their own heads these days, its a stressful world. try asking for help or tell someone your needs and dont make them guess at something they have no clue they should be even guessing about. hope that helps.”
“I get the image of how attitudes almost seem baked into certain societies having travelled, but there are always the exceptions and the people who break away to live a different life.”
“Honestly the last few months have been terrible, I’ve never felt more lonely and never realised that being nice to others only invites trouble for ourselves and I have lost the only friend group I’ve had. I’ve reached a state where I don’t believe in female friendships anymore because all they do is betray and I am still young (hoping 19 is still considered young) and I know people would say I’ve so much to see but only if they knew how much it hurts to be lonely and it’s not even a choice I don”
“I grew up with my best friend and so by default her Sister and I are close as well. I actually met my fiancé through her and at first everything was great. Everyone was happy for me, but as my fiancé started gifting me really nice things and creating amazing experiences for me. I started to notice that my best friend who was in a relationship for 15 years slowly started to invite me less and started to lie about very small things like saying her boyfriend would do things when it was her or she’d”
“Hey guys, feel free to flame me since you did the last time but anyways I’ve been going through a lot recently and I’ve just been in a period of my life where I really don’t wanna talk to anyone not even my own family even though they live very far away. I’ve been feeling things that I ordinarily wouldn’t feel and thinking things that I also wouldn’t normally think. It’s all very strange. Sometimes when I’m looking in the mirror, I don’t even know who it is. I’m obviously I know it’s me, but I’m”
“Yes because I have no friends and AI is incredibly helpful and kind most of the time.”
“Yeah I dont have anyone to talk to or share my feelings to so i just suppress them and remain quiet about it”
“Hugs to you internet stranger. I’m here if you want to chat. It’s a little comforting when you know you’ve not alone in your struggles.”
“Yeah. And the weird part is I have people in my life. I have friends, people I love, people I can technically “talk to,” but sometimes I still feel like I have no one I can tell the whole truth to. I think I got so used to being the funny one, the helpful one, the one who understands everyone else, that being completely vulnerable feels almost uncomfortable. I’ll tell someone 70% of what I’m feeling and keep the darkest 30% to myself, then wonder why I still feel alone afterward. Sometimes I don”
hugs . It’s nice to hear that I’m not the only one struggling.
“I love you all and I’m sorry im a disappointment. I need to truly learn to be alone for a while. Not trying to go deeper in my void but to learn to love myself for real submitted by /u/Jumpy-Reflection-828 [link] [comments]”
“Them are fighting words. People know not to tell me this. Where were all the relationships when I loved myself when life was good i was romanticly alone. People just liked to be around me partying. When things got bad and I lost all faith a few reached out but noone showed up just to sit with me, most were gone and I was romantic alone. I am well on the recovery path. I have people i deeply care about and they care about me. And I am still romanticly alone. Noone deserves anything. But self love”
“After long enough, you don't have any friends to over-share to. So you just vents and talk to yourself. I did search for professional help for years, but after so many fails, I stopped. I just go through life by not caring. I just hope it won't last too long, but I don't believe it will.”
“Sounds like a classical split. There is other things out there than liers and users, but if that’s what you’re looking for and expecting: that’s what you’ll get. Social life starts where you are: volunteer, join social activities, hobbies, events, stay open and curious. Black and white thinking isn’t the truth, it’s your brain playing tricks on you. Thinking on absolutes. Find one thing that gives you a glimpse of joy and enjoyment. Seek small moments of happiness. Notice when something good hap”
“There’s nothing but liars and users online or there’s people who try to humiliate you. I don’t know what else Reddit can do for me. I’m 26 and young but if I can’t get a boyfriend or a best friend you know what I might as well give up on it. Because it’s useless and pointless and hopeless.so whoever feels like ruining my life they can because I got nothing else I’m doing in my life okay I’m just a loser. submitted by /u/N1njaSlay3r16 [link] [comments]”
“I’m such a mess right now (I just took a panic attack and can’t sleep) because my friend has been very odd with me recently and distant and she finally messaged me saying we should meet up for a discussion about our friendship, because I have done some stuff to upset her. She said it was stuff from a while ago but it’s making her feel like she wants to drift away from me. At first I thought I was being paranoid and it was the anxiety talking when I noticed her being distant, but no I was right,”
“I feel that. Everyone starts projecting, giving advice, idk do anything but just listen to understand you, without judgement.”
“I have extreme black n white mentality. I can dislike a person and one moment they're perfect I love them, they're my favorite. One day they're demonized, one day they're idealized. I have unstable self image. I can look at myself and say "hey I look handsome and interesting" and then minute later "oh good I look so ugly and plain". I am scared and also prepared to being abandoned, I feel get used to it, desensitized and at the same time still fear it. I alway”
“I feel the same way. I’ve started keeping a diary just to get things out but it’s not really the same as having someone to talk to.”
“I forgot to mention I’m also same age as you, I used to feel like I’m the only person in this kind of situation lol”
I feel so alone submitted by /u/angellic19 [link] [comments]
“Hey, I know that this is late but i revisited this comment and would like to ask, what did you mean by connection ? is it friends and people ?”
“I'm early 30s, single, with no family here. I left my career last year. Financially I am okay, but the social isolation has been brutal. I tried the hobby groups and fitness classes, but they feel very shallow. My corporate friendships vanished gradually. Now, I'm considering getting a job again just to have a builtin community. Has anyone gone back to work solely for the human interaction? I'm trying to figure out if work is a valid solution to loneliness or a trap. Thank you! _____”
“46(f) (those words taste like vinegar coming out of my mouth) sadly never married, no kids.( Ghosted 9 years ago after a 13 year complicated relation/situationship that gutted me. I spent 8 years in a disassociating fog). Life has passed me by and I had a wake up call last year that made me realize, holy shit how am I this old and so unaccomplished. I do not look or feel this old. I don’t even feel like I’m 36. I know said ghosting did a number on my mental health, and I’ve been on a healing jou”
“I'm 18 and have nobody in my life I can comfortably talk to. Honestly, feeling pretty exhausted and isolated lately. I don't really have anyone in my life right now that I can just talk to comfortably or open up to about what's on my mind. Just putting this out there in hopes of connecting with people who might understand or relate. submitted by /u/Different_Bee_7606 [link] [comments]”
“I’m going to keep this short as usual because I hate this point in my head and I’ve already talked like this before. Am I lonely? Yes. Do I wish I had a partner? Yes. But what has this lead me to? Apparently now my mind has hit the zone of “I’ll literally take anything” desperate and I really hate that. I hate knowing I am going to die alone and there’s literally nothing meant for me, and that’s not even a depressed concept I genuinely know this. I’m not likeable, I’m not nice, I’m not pretty, I”
“Hi, I'm a 25-year-old woman with fibromyalgia and probably some other stuff going on. My condition has gotten a lot worse over the past year or so. I'm at the point where I can't work anymore and I can barely leave my apartment. It's incredibly isolating. My partner is amazing and does his best to support me, but I really need to see other faces besides his. So I figured I'd look into joining a club or association, just so I could see people once a week. But I have a ton of c”
“29M. I just need to talk about something that I feel like I am alone with submitted by /u/FlatwormOk7003 [link] [comments]”
“I pretty much rotted at home for years, and I feel like that really changed who I am socially. I understand why, especially after being bullied, but now that I’m trying to work through depression and get my life back on track, I’ve realized how hard it is to start socializing again the way I used to. For those who went through something similar, what helped you become more comfortable around people again and rebuild your social skills? submitted by /u/heyitsmereddit [link] [com”
“For as long as I can remember, I’ve always felt like something was missing. I’ve never felt like I’ve had any people that I’m connected to. I have had plenty of friends, but I don’t feel completely like myself around them. I only ever feel like myself when I’m alone, but I want to feel a strong connection to somebody. I’m scared that I’m never going to find someone that I actually, truly, deeply, care about. I also feel like I’m wasting my life. I have so many aspirations, but I never work towar”
“I'm a college student who is shy but very talkative to a lot of people. I'm 18, but im looking for newcomers who would like to be friends with me. submitted by /u/Outrageous-Floor-774 [link] [comments]”
I did not. As the comment below mentioned, I had a buddy.
“I’m 19M and I don’t really understand what’s wrong with me socially. I don’t have many friends and I feel lonely a lot. I see people my age going out, having fun and making memories, while I feel like I’m just watching from the outside. I’m studying, doing internships, learning new things and trying to improve myself, but I still don’t feel satisfied. I overthink a lot about how people see me, my looks, my voice, how I talk and whether people actually like me. I don’t know if it’s lack of confid”
I did and I kind of got ghosted 😅 but I will be persistent!
“I'm sick and tired of starting relationships that go nowhere I'm now 18 and a virgin. I've attempted DOZENS of relationships, I have successfully dated one person... For about a week. Then when I bring up my problems to my therapist she said some shit like "you gotta learn to love yourself first" . I've been isolated ever since I remember. Wake up - go to school - get home - eat- sleep -repeat. Without someone else the isolation gets bad. And because of this whenever I”
“No towards the women, but towards myself. The fact that I'm not desired by women makes me feel genuinely worthless, why do only males ever want to be around me? In any way. Attracted, or just friends. I fucking know why. It's because I'm pathetic. Males love a pathetic little bitch they can suck up to, with low self esteem, wimpy appearance, sensitive character. Males do not admire, all they want to do is feel superior to someone in some way, mainly regarding their masculinity. They”
“I am 27 and This whole year I ve been feeling lonely and depressed after breaking up with my ex, because I knew and I know I dont have any close friend or family. I’m about to start therapy with a psychologist, and as part of the initial registration form, I’m required to provide an emergency contact. I asked the psychologist about it because I wasn’t sure who to put. The problem is that I live here and my support network is currently quite small almost non exixtent.. I have a friend wh”
“First, recognize and stop the loop of "I am lonely i need a bf". Trust me when I say, the fantasy always looks better than reality. What if you find a person and get the love you so desire, and then something happens and its no longer there? Are you prepared to carry yourself through that? You do not get one without the other, unfortunately, and you have to be steadfast in your own identity. Love yourself and embrace being alone, in the end, it always comes back to you.”
“I'm 25M and honestly feel like I've been stuck for years. I was bullied, mocked and put down a lot when I was younger, and over time I became extremely withdrawn and isolated. I spent years mostly staying at home and avoiding people, and now I have very little social experience, confidence or communication skills. I also feel emotionally numb and empty most of the time. A lot of life feels like autopilot—I do things without really feeling present or connected to them. Even things that sh”
“Hi All, Just wondering has anyone else experienced this, just feeling a bit sad and alone right now. I struggled a lot with my mental health from maybe 16 to 23 and then really badly from 25 to 28. A lot of it was to do with bullying when I was younger, then abusive relationships and it all snowballed into physical health issues too which peaked in my late 20s. Ive never had trouble making friends, but due to the above, I know that I became too much for people or people were not able to handle w”
“After all those years of struggling with loneliness and depression, I realized that no matter what, I wouldn’t be able to find someone to share my life with. I can’t find a friend with whom to make memories, or someone to help me when I feel lost. This situation has pushed me time and again to do things I couldn’t take back. But I’ve managed to stay away from that every time. Finally, after all these years, I no longer feel the need to be loved. I no longer feel the longing for a friend. I don’t”
“We’re exploring how people process difficult or tangled thoughts, what makes opening up to others hard, and how reflection tools could help organize thoughts before reaching out to friends or professionals. https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSdbHrPOX9DUvfpme5fVEOAgRoYufbV7x2v0okQzaDgY7JKvnA/viewform?usp=sharing&ouid=111841141950372582878 Every response helps a lot. Thanks for your time! submitted by /u/Shreyansh_1703 [link] [comments]”
“What i do to get a boyfriend that really loves me ? Because im tired of feeling lonely and I want some love. submitted by /u/N1njaSlay3r16 [link] [comments]”
Fuck my life 😭✌️ submitted by /u/PresentationLess5927 [link] [comments]
“To make a long story short, someone started text screaming at me, being passive aggressive with me, mocking me for something that I still think could've been solved in a way that wasn't icing me out and being mean. I'm tired. All my other friends are asleep. I just need a person to talk to, who can also tell me if I was the one being a total jerk. submitted by /u/Self-proclaimed_god [link] [comments]”