New Moms Anxious About OB/NP Care

“I am 35 weeks low risk pregnancy. my OB said she can get me on elective induction list week 39. ive only heard horror stories from people close to me about EI's. i just dont see why OBs would offer it if its so bad?? submitted by /u/SeaweedWeekly993 [link] [comments]”

“Hi all - I'm currently 30 weeks with a singleton pregnancy after loss of one of the twins. I've been going to a new clinic this pregnancy as we moved and my old clinic was not convenient. This new clinic has been giving me red flags all over, from the handling & communication of our 2nd trimester twin loss to feeling heard about concerns in general & having to really push for certain lab work. But today when I walked in and the nurse congratulated me on my twins, it was the last”

“I’m 21 weeks along with my first pregnancy and debating whether I should switch to a better hospital to give birth, even though it’s further away. For context, I have a high risk pregnancy and I’ve had vaginal bleeding off & on throughout my pregnancy, starting at 4 weeks. At first I was diagnosed with a Subchorionic Hematoma, but now they’re calling it a chronic abruption. I’ve been to the ER 3 times during this pregnancy for vaginal bleeding. I’ve seen my OB (at Hospital A) almost every we”

“I'm wondering if anyone else has used a freshly licensed doctor and whether they had concerns as well or overall what your opinion is. I am worried about not having someone with many more years of experience especially since this is my first pregnancy and something could go wrong or be missed. EDIT: Thank you all for the input!! I understand that they go to school for many, many years before just going out by themselves into the world. I appreciate all of your opinions and it has sincerely c”

“I noticed while I was pregnant and going to OB appointments, and now taking our baby to ped appointments...doctors, nurses, and NPs don't proactively offer information. If you ask a specific question, they'll answer it, but they don't really seem to have a list of things they want to discuss or advise on. Just for the sake of an easy example, we just had our four-month well-baby visit. As his two front bottom teeth seem to be on the way, I asked her what her recommendation was for te”

“So according to the app I'm about four weeks. I'm going to call my ob and make an appointment, but because I'm over 35, would I be considered high risk? And possibly get in sooner? When did you see your baby's heartbeat? We have to go out of town for a week in two weeks to see family and it would be so special to have some pictures to announce/ show them. I know that's early though, it would just be really special to tell everyone while we're all in one place submit”

“Hi, I'm in AZ and I know September is an incredibly busy month for babies being born. I had an induction scheduled 4 days ago and it's been delayed due to no beds available. My OB is locked to certain hospitals and the next branch is an hour away. I already paid last week for this branch but I may be looking into another. My question to you guys, what's the longest you've guys gone with a delay? My OB price is not concerned yet because I'm still 38+ weeks but will be 39 weeks”

“i’m almost 22 weeks pregnant with my second baby and i’m having a pretty awful experience with my midwife. we also recently moved and the hospital i’m currently supposed to deliver at is over an hour away so i really just don’t want to give birth there. there’s an ob only 5 minutes from my house whose hospital is literally right across the street and i’ve heard great things about the ob, practice, and hospital. i actually originally wanted to see this ob but they didn’t have availability when i”

“I'm realizing that I don't really trust my OB. Has anyone switched this late? submitted by /u/looking2belong [link] [comments]”

“Im 4 weeks pregnant and my insurance covers the BILH network. I was looking at Winchester hospital vs BIDMC hospital which is bigger but further away. This is my first pregnancy and of course Im worried about anything/everything. BI has a location in Lexington which is near where I live and I can have follow ups there if they are accepting new patients but deliver the baby at BIDMC. I was looking for people’s experiences, recommendations, if you followed up with certain providers in BIDMC boston”

“Hi all, I had a wonderful midwife in Virginia, but moved to Arizona early in the third trimester to be closer to my family before baby number two. Established care and had a good first appointment. Second appointment I was told I can’t give birth in the midwifery birth center which is literally inside of the hospital because I was being risked up. I had a postpartum hemorrhage after delivering my first baby at a birth center not connected to hospital. My midwife in Virginia had done some researc”

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“currently the day before 34 weeks pregnant and these appointments are so exhausting. every time i go in they ask how i’m doing and i give them the same concern i’ve been dealing with (heart racing when resting, shortness of breath, heavy arms) they look at me with the same, crazy look and label it as pregnancy anxiety i understand some symptoms are normal but i’m tired of every concern i have being brushed off as ‘anxiety.’ i see a team of obgyns and the last one i saw said “maybe take some deep”

“This is my first pregnancy and I believe I’m around the 5 weeks mark. I don’t have an OBGYN yet but I do have a primary care physician. Are blood tests to confirm pregnancy still a thing? My period is 9 days late, I’m always starving and can be slightly nauseous at times. The thing that first made me think I was pregnant was an increased sensitivity to certain smells and my morning snack before work randomly made me nauseous half way through lol. So I’m pretty certain that I am infact pregnant.”

“I had an OB appointment a few hours before my primary care which I was seeing to follow up on a UTI. They wanted to retest to make sure my antibiotics worked and I was UTI free. Well my OB offered to do the urine test for me and its been almost 5 days with no results. They send out labs so I was being patient but I'm so annoyed. My PCP has the ability to do a dip stick in office and then send for cultures if necessary. God forbid I actually had a UTI making a patient wait 5 days prior to tre”

“First appointment visit had blood drawn (I’m assuming NIPT and other tests) and was wondering if it’s normal to not get any blood results until 4 weeks after said appointment? If something’s off, isn’t that too long of a wait? submitted by /u/beefbowl1 [link] [comments]”

“I made my first appointment with my OB/GYN when I was 11 weeks pregnant. I live in Southwest Florida, which is an aging community, so they told me they couldn’t fit me in until three weeks later. I was 14 weeks when I went in for my first ultrasound and met with my doctor. With insurance, I still had to pay $300 out of pocket. At the end of the appointment, they told me I would get a call the following week from financing, and then we could set up my 20-week scan. I was supposed to get a call on”

“Hi everyone! My gyno that I've had for years is a NP and doesn't deliver babies/work with pregnant women. So, I am starting to shop for a new doctor. I have an appointment tomorrow and I am formulating a list of questions - but I'm curious, if you could go back in time, what do you wish you would have asked. This is my first time TTC and I don't even know what I don't know. I just want to have a doctor already picked out once I am pregnant. Thanks!! submitted by /”

“I’m a bit confused, just because almost every video I have seen online, most people call L&D or they’re called before. I have a scheduled induction coming up on Monday, and I did ask my OBYGYN if I have to call and he said just to show up at the scheduled time they have down. I’m just a bit nervous of being turned around / not being accepted. I understand this time of month L&D is getting busy. submitted by /u/Snoo13905 [link] [comments]”

“Hello! I'm based in the US and pregnant for the first time (currently 6 weeks). I have a question about preferred providers for those in the US. When I took my home pregnancy tests and they were positive, I initially called my OBGYN office. I had seen them a couple times to get my IUD out and saw different practitioners for each visit. The office was very nice, but they said I wouldn't be able to get in for an appointment until I would be at 14 weeks, which they even said was late. The r”

“I have to get medically induced and was told it would be September 1st. My OB said to call L&D first thing in the morning if I didn’t hear anything. I waited and called around 9:30am. They said they don’t follow that policy and that they would call me when a bed and nurse opens up, but that there were 5 people in front of me and that they were at least 2 days behind. She couldn’t even give me a round about idea of when to expect to be called in. I ended up calling back around 7:45pm just to”

“Does anyone get such bad anxiety between their appointments/ have a hard time trusting that the baby is doing okay? I'm almost 14 weeks and won't have an appointment for another week and I'm struggling big time with not worrying that something is wrong, baby has passed and I don't know it, etc. My first pregnancy was right before this one and it ended in a chemical, so I'm sure that's not helping. submitted by /u/mshike_89 [link] [comments]”

“I am 32 weeks pregnant and have been receiving prenatal care from a group of family doctors who have specialized in prenatal care and women’s health. My family doctor has sent a request to many OBGYNs and I have been rejected by everyone. Finally, I received a call from an OBGYN who is currently in school saying she is willing to accept me. I haven’t responded yet because I am not sure what to do since I have been seeing these other doctors for a little over a month. The way it works with these”

“I'm currently 10w+5d and I've been miserable since about week 7, when I called the ob office they said they wont see me before 11 weeks since I'm a new patient and haven't had a miscarriage. I have epilepsy and have to take keppra everyday. However my nausea and vomiting got so intense I couldn't even keep the keppra down and I reached out my neurologist and they sent in a limited amount of zofran just so I can keep my seizure medicine down. I take the zofran sparingly becaus”

“Would love to hear others’ experiences with membrane sweeps! For context - I’m 37w, second time mom (also have a 3yo). My OB offered a membrane sweep at my next appt (will be 38w+3). I’m scheduled for a 39w induction, so if the membrane sweep doesn’t help with spontaneous labor, I’ll be having the baby a few days later regardless. My first was a 39w induction that went beautifully. My labor was very fast for a ftm considering I was not dilated at all when the induction began. My mom also had pre”

“Hi all, I'm 8 weeks today and have my first doctors appointment and ultrasound tomorrow. I am nervous about what to expect and if I will find out bad news. I've been really exhausted and nauseous the past 2 weeks so don't feel like myself. submitted by /u/Lilac722 [link] [comments]”

“Okay this is my first pregnancy so please excuse the stupid question. I will be 6 weeks tomorrow and my first midwife/OB appointment is this Friday. I have been experiencing intermittent nausea and occasional diarrhea so far, but I am also aware that things could get worse starting this week. How do you handle gastrointestinal symptoms when you have an appointment? Especially since sometimes the symptoms come on quickly and suddenly. Do you just go anyway? Vomit in the doctor's office? Tell”

“Hello friends! Currently at 40 and 1, have been on the elective induction list for over a week (our hospital is slammed, apparently), just missed out on my favorite OB being on call despite doing all the labor-inducing things. Also I work as a psychiatrist so I had to transfer all my patients last week so that it would be a more smooth and predictable transition for them. But now — my toddler is in his nannyshare and I’ve got a free day ahead of me! And so — I’d love a little inspiration! Will o”

“I have my first ultrasound next week and I'm not clear on what I get to actually know at the appointment. I was told a full report will go to my doctor a few days after. What happens during the appointment? Will they tell me if things look good or not? What information do they share? Do I get given a picture or do I have to wait to see my doctor to get that? Not sure what to expect, I was so excited to book the appointment that I forgot what they told me and forgot to ask questions. su”

“I called an OB a they said they can schedule my 8w and 10w appointment but can’t schedule my first ultrasound until after my 8w appointment. They didn’t say how far out that would be. Called another OB who could schedule an intake appointment at 6w and then an ultrasound for 10.5w. This is my rainbow baby and just want to have an US ASAP. submitted by /u/Loud-Calendar-2937 [link] [comments]”

“I had a bit of a fall around 36 weeks and was told to go into L&D to get it checked out. I had a bit of a bad experience with the nurses for my stress test and I’m nervous about giving birth I’m almost 38 weeks now. I am a person of color and the only person who will be there is my husband whose a bit passive so I’m worried no one will advocate for me. It’s my first baby so ofcourse all this will be new to me. I’m pretty confident in most of the Obgyns I have met with, they seem kind and kno”

“I swear I'm not dumb (usually) but anyone know of any telehealth 2nd opinion obstetrics options? Or something like that? My OB office already did lab work and heard all my symptoms and whatnot and said it's all normallll. But I want a 2nd opinion. And I don't think I could just go to any local office in person because my insurance DEFINITELY won't cover that. This is a weird ask I know 😬 submitted by /u/chunkeycat614 [link] [comments]”

“So I haven’t been to my OB/GYN since my 6 week check up more than 3 years ago. I had made an appointment for my annual exam 1 year post birth but due to circumstances out of my control, had to cancel/postpone twice. The second time it happened, I was put on a waitlist to be called should any appointments open up. They claimed they couldn’t give me a concrete appointment date because of demand. Welp, that was 18 months ago and I have yet to be contacted. I have called 3 times now to inquire about”

“Hello! I am a first time mom who is 16 weeks pregnant this week. I am pretty concerned about the lack of ultrasounds or dopplers I have had so far. My OB did not do a scan at my first appointment. I had my first appointment at 4 weeks so I was not at all surprised by that. But I have had 2 more appointments since and he still has not done a dating scan or a doppler. He did do a very quick "portable" ultrasound on like an iPad at my last appointment but all he did was make sure it wasnt”

“I'm 26w6d and I'm a little confused about some of the things with the rotating offices. I understand that it's common practice and it's so you have a higher chance of knowing the person that delivers the baby. But I also only know this because I read "Birth Vibes" by Jen Hamilton and she explains the practice in her book. Is it normal for no one at the office to explain this? If I hadn't read that book, I would have been very confused why I was always scheduled with”

“Hi - currently 37w pregnant with my first. My parents are planning to come out to help with the baby once born, and my mom keeps asking me if I'm doing cervical checks at my OB appointments She is convinced that cervical checks will tell us when I'm within a few days of labor so she can come out "on time" instead of rushing when I go into labor. I've been trying to research this and finding mixed results, and my doula specifically recommended I turn down cervical exams unle”

“There’s so much to consider and I don’t know where to start! All my friends went to the same hospital and have recommended their doctors to me, but unfortunately my insurance is renegotiating their contract with that hospital and it’s looking like they won’t renew :( so I can’t really take suggestions from friends. How much does distance/ location matter? I’m in a city south of Dallas so there are a couple highly regarded hospital but they’re 20+ min away in highly congested areas. How are y’all”

“I registered with a major hospital group in the area when I first found out I was pregnant. I was told by my current OB they were the only ones to handle my specific pregnancy complication. Turns out this isn't true, but she is affiliated with them. I've had bleeding since 6 weeks, now 20 weeks. Even when I was seen in the same hospital er at 8 weeks and treated for hemorrhage, they couldn't follow their own guidelines and see me within 48 hours, let alone two weeks. They've dism”

“My ob has asked for ultrasounds every 2 wks starting at 18 wks. But I’m also being monitored for a bleed and have some additional ad hoc appointments. However her clinic availability is very limited and between my work schedule, work travel, and that they only have 1-2 ultrasound slots per week at clinics up to 1 hr away I’m not able to schedule them in the timeline my ob wants. Is there an alternative with independent ultrasound clinics (is that even a thing) or I can establish care at another”

“I couldn't find an OB willing to get me in for an appointment until the 19th 🫠. I'm still super nervous it might be etopic as I have stage 4 endometriosis. In the meantime being sick all day everyday has capped my ability to do my job severely. The fuel lane smells make me sick, the truck stops inside & out as well as road construction smells make my stomach drop. I now understand why most female drivers are post menopausal age. I had to spill the beans to my employer today and to m”

“I am 10 weeks pregnant. I went to my OB for first prenatal visit and to confirm pregnancy end of June. They did labs and urine sample/culture. Two weeks after my first appointment, I had lab work for my NIPT/Carrier screening. Since I was already there, I asked the front desk girls if they had my results (there was nothing in the portal but I had already received bills from lab corp a week ago). The front desk girls pulled up my results and showed me that I had an abnormal urine culture with 50,”

“I’m about 33w, and really annoyed with my drs but am wondering this is a bias opinion I have from my pre nursing experience with ecea experience? I haven’t had fundal measurements, I get adds on my phone about them and saw a tape measure last appointment on the counter. I had one ultrasound which I’m told is fine. And because I went to the dr later with working for the first three months and expecting in all honesty things to not be great, as usually I’m hormonal imbalances to start, so missing”

“I have an OB appointment booked for 6w because my mom had a septate uterus and 2 preemies with pre-eclampsia which puts me at high risk. And I know there’s nothing they can do for you pretty much before 8 weeks. But I am ANXIOUS. Every cramp, twinge, odd feeling is stressing me out. I’ve never been more aware of my internal organs than I am right now and I just want to know everything is okay / going well. submitted by /u/Informal-Thought83 [link] [comments]”

“I'm being seen at a teaching hospital as it is the only one in our area on my insurance who will see me with my complications. My OB, who was experienced and who I quite liked, has suddenly left for a new role. I've been reassigned to a resident nurse practitioner who is overseen by a resident ob. Originally they made a big deal that I needed to see an experienced ob with my complications. I now feel really anxious. Called them and they said they do not have an ob available to see me dir”

“Hey y'all, according to my last period dates, I should be right around 5 weeks. I called the OB to make my first appointment, and they made my first appointment for when I'll be almost 10.5 weeks. That seems so far out to me? That's pretty much the end of the first trimester. On the phone she told me that it's typical and I shouldn't need to see my primary at all in the meantime before. But I'm wondering if I should I check in with my primary care doctor anyway? Call a di”

“Hello, First time pregnant and just had positive home test at the beginning of the week. I've been reading all the books and doing research and guess I expected needing an MD appointment within the first 4 weeks, however when I called to get established today (7/2) they said they don't need to see me until 8/31. Nurse did mention it was a couple week later than usual due to MD being booked (very popular OB in my area), but is still within the time frame for first appointment and ultrasou”

“I am currently at 25 weeks with an uncomplicated and low-risk pregnancy. I've been going to a midwife practice (standard model in my area), and generally patients don't meet with the OBs until they go into labor unless a complication arises. All of the midwives have been great except for one, and I was told she doesnt do deliveries, so I figured the rest would be fine. Then I took a fall last weekend. I knew I was probably fine, but consulted with the midwife on call who told me to go th”

“this is my 3 pregnancy, and I still can’t help but crack up over the OB schedulers when I call to make that first appointment to establish prenatal care. “How do you know your pregnant” “well how far along are you really to be scheduling“ “mmm well the doctor has full books for the next 2 months soooo….” I swear it’s always a hassle to just get a simple appointment. it honestly makes me laugh at this point how predictable every office is. submitted by /u/Critical_Elk6735 [link]”