Wedding planners struggle with the overwhelming workload
16 posts in the last 60 days, all from r/weddingplanning.
“My fiancée and I are getting married next year, and we’re trying to decide whether we actually need a wedding coordinator. The problem is… we really can’t afford one 😂 So I’m hoping to hear from couples who planned and ran their wedding themselves! For those of you who didn’t…”
“i love my partner and i cant wait until we are married but holy shit do i hate wedding planning. how come no one ever mentions how fucking ridiculous this whole process is i feel like wedding planning is literally a humiliation ritual if you’re not willing to spend $10k plus. we…”
“Hi all!! So I hired a partial planner about two months ago for our April 2027 wedding. When we hired her we had almost all of our vendors booked so I knew she wouldn’t be involved there. Her small company handles florals, decor, coordinating, invites/signs and photography. She’s…”
Multiple users express feeling overwhelmed and struggling to plan their weddings, particularly when doing so alone or lacking support. This includes difficulties getting started, managing vendors, and dealing with destination wedding logistics.
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“Hi all!! So I hired a partial planner about two months ago for our April 2027 wedding. When we hired her we had almost all of our vendors booked so I knew she wouldn’t be involved there. Her small company handles florals, decor, coordinating, invites/signs…”
“My fiancé (26M) and I (25F) have been together for 7 years and engaged for 6 months. Our wedding is in about 4 months, and the process has been exhausting. We always knew we wanted to get married in early 2027, but I had to constantly remind him to propose so we would have enough time to plan. While I never doubted his love (he has always been an exceptionally caring, loving partner who makes me feel deeply cherished), having to push for the proposal was disheartening. He eventually proposed, an”
“Hi everyone, I got engaged about a month ago! My fiancée and I have been back and forth about what type of wedding we want to have. We have listed pros and cons of everything but still haven’t been able to come to a solid conclusion as to what we want to do for our wedding. We have discussed everything from courthouse to a small destination wedding to a larger traditional wedding and reception in our home town. For context, we are 33 years old with no kids, both work in healthcare and have prett”
“My fiancée and I are getting married next year, and we’re trying to decide whether we actually need a wedding coordinator. The problem is… we really can’t afford one 😂 So I’m hoping to hear from couples who planned and ran their wedding themselves! For those of you who didn’t have a wedding coordinator/day-of coordinator , I’d love to hear: How did you manage everything on the wedding day? Who handled things like setting up decorations, directing vendors, making sure the timeline stayed on trac”
“My partner and I are getting married in about 18 months. Our friends are half-and-half: some say hiring a planner was the best money they spent, others did it all themselves and were fine I'm leaning towards DIY since I genuinely enjoy organising stuff, but I'd love to hear from people further along in their wedding planning: What did you use to keep track of everything (i.e. guests, budget, vendors, timeline)? Excel, Notion, a notebook? Was there any point that you thought "Ok this”
“Hello! Me and my fiancée have a very specific vision for our wedding as in what we want our venue to be like and our food and our decor and everything. In order to be able to have all of this we have a VERY trimmed down guest list (30 people total) and this made sure we could fit everything under the budget. Now we are paying for this wedding ourselves, and haven’t asked either of our parents to contribute. This weekend we were having dinner with both sets of parents and all four of them ganged”
“So my fiancé and I are long distance (same country, different states) but we’re gonna try and do it in my hometown because my family and I are here and most of his guests will need to travel regardless. The struggle is that we both have exhausting full-time jobs, I’m in school part-time, and plane tickets are too expensive nowadays for him to come here every other weekend. It also doesn’t help that both of us are totally new when it comes to wedding planning and the headcount for the wedding is”
“We had our first meeting with our wedding planner today and we just spent the entire hour going over proposals for food, photography, and DJ. I was hoping the first call would have been more of a get to know us -- what our vision is, our tastes, etc. We had messaged a few times on WhatsApp so we did cover a tiny bit of ground there, but not enough to really know what we wanted. We are doing a destination wedding, so maybe there are some differences in how business is run, but curious if this was”
“i love my partner and i cant wait until we are married but holy shit do i hate wedding planning. how come no one ever mentions how fucking ridiculous this whole process is i feel like wedding planning is literally a humiliation ritual if you’re not willing to spend $10k plus. we decided to just elope. it makes me sad my family won’t be there but we have only been engaged two months and this whole process has made me hate the wedding industry and ive lost all my excitement around it once i saw ho”
“We’ve only been engaged for 2 weeks and the wedding stuff has caused both of us nightmares. Neither of us want to do the planning but we also don’t want to disappoint our parents who want us to have a wedding. We have 0 financial family help from either side and we were going to plan a backyard wedding but got a quote for 4K to cater the event for 100 people not to mention we’d have to spend 2k on alcohol, decorations, staff, stuff to turn the backyard into a wedding venue… it just seems impossi”
“My wedding is 9 months away and there is so much stuff that I have to do. The pressure is really coming down on me as I feel I have to take care of it all, with minimal help from others. My fiance has been barely any help in decision making or finding vendors, as he has been working a lot to pay off personal student loans. He hasn’t even decided his groomsmen yet. My MOH/my sister is 19 years old, with minimal knowledge about weddings or bachelorette trips so I am basically planning my own Bach”
“I have a huge family and my fiance does not. My in-laws are graciously paying for a large portion of the wedding as my parents aren't wealthy, but as such wish that both sides of the guest list remain even. They don't quite grasp the dynamics of large families. They also insist on a certain level of experience and as such our wedding is capped at ~70 people for cost. That means I have 35 spots to invite my 18 aunts and uncles, 23 cousins and their spouses/children. I've had to cut al”
Posting this here because I don’t know where else to go. I am getting married and my wedding is coming up soon, I don’t want to give too much detail. We had…
“Our wedding is a year away this month. What should I be working on? I want to do crafts to add personal touches to things. I have my wedding dress, and the appointment with the seamstress. My bridesmaids are picked and we know the dresses. Flower girls and ring bears are determined. Venue and venders picked out (it was a package deal). We have a guest list narrowed down and want to send (digital) save the dates this month. I just need some direction cause I don’t know what I should be working on”
“Trying to plan my dream wedding alone is definitely difficult. Especially since I don’t have any one to help me my fiancé helps when he can but he works full time so I can be a stay at home mom to our kiddos. submitted by /u/toyota_girl_pnw [link] [comments]”