Bridesmaids decline invitations due to cost concerns

“My bridesmaids have known / been asked and accepted to be a bridesmaid since February of 2026. It is October 2026. The wedding is in 4 days. They each agreed a $40 dress wasn't too expensive. I asked them to buy them by August so we can see how they fit and get altered if need be. Neither of them bought their dress. Someone else bought their dresses at the middle of September. I've been asking just about every other day if they can send me a picture of them in the dress. Both keep coming”

“I want to keep this as short as possible but I’m wondering what, if anything I should say to one of my bridesmaids. Bachelorette weekend is coming up soon and I had a bridesmaid who originally said she can come has now said she can’t (which is ok!!). My sister is my MOH and is coordinating the bachelorette so she told my sister but she hasn’t said anything to me. She has texted and asked me other wedding-related questions but hasn’t said anything to me directly about changing her plans. Should I”

“looking for suggestions on good online brands for jewellery for my bridesmaids. Anything bracelet or necklace wise, but reasonably priced (ideally $50 AUD or under), any suggestions? submitted by /u/Ok-Many7216 [link] [comments]”

“looking for suggestions on good online brands for jewellery for my bridesmaids. Anything bracelet or necklace wise, but reasonably priced (ideally $50 AUD or under), any suggestions? submitted by /u/Ok-Many7216 [link] [comments]”

“Hi all, I'm starting to think about what to get my bridesmaids to say thank you. I am paying for hair and makeup, and I gave them some jewelry when I asked them to join me. For photos I will be gifting nice pjs or a robe, but that's not really a gift because it's for me. Do you have any recommendations for a small gift that I can personalize for each? submitted by /u/17mangos [link] [comments]”

“Hi! I want to give my bridesmaid's a gift but am wondering if it would feel bad if I got them a visa gift card instead. Hear me out, my wedding is a destination wedding and it costs a fair bit to get there. I want to help pay for those expenses as a gift? If you were my bridesmaid how would you feel about that? I personally don't like non-monetary gifts as I have certain taste and I know my girlfriends do too - Like i know they would enjoy a Nordstrom gift card more than matching necklac”

“Hi all, long story but due to personal reasons I was not able to work for a year. I finally(!!!) got a job (it's a minimum wage part time job) so I'm just now paying my cc debt off and trying to get by & my best friend choose me for maid of honor Look, I love her & she's my family but I just cannot afford a trip and espically since I live in hcol area, even if we're going somewhere close it's still very expensive. There will be 4 including the bride going on a trip an”

“Hi guys! I’m wanting to throw a bridesmaid proposal brunch at a restaurant where I give them each their boxes. Is it the norm that I’m supposed to pay for everyone’s brunch? It’ll be 8 of us 😅 submitted by /u/msandreataylor [link] [comments]”

“Pretty much everyone except my 2 best friends pulled out of my Mexico destination bachelorette because of costs. We've been planning for the last 6 months or so and my MOH found the absolute cheapest options possible and still no one can make it work except my MOH and other best friend. I'm pretty bummed about it but now I have 2 options. 1. Shifting to a local bachelorette to have the full experience with a larger group of friends. I still think this could be fun, I live near NYC but go”

“Hello, 6/8 out my bridesmaids are out of state. What thoughtful and affordable ways have you asked your bridal party? I’m not interested in mailing 6 boxes. I’d much rather cover costs down the line as a thank you. submitted by /u/Sensitive-Ad7853 [link] [comments]”

“I know nothing about weddings and I just came across someone saying they paid everything for their bridesmaids. I’ve read it also depends on the region? I‘m from Europe/Austria. I wanted to give my 6 bridesmaids a colour palette and let them choose their dress on their own. Do I pay for them? What’s the budget? If yes, do I tell them how much I will pay? Isn’t that weird? How much is the norm? Help submitted by /u/dubuflower [link] [comments]”

“Our family and friends live in all different states so I’d probably only have about 6 people there. I also don’t want any gifts, which is usually the main purpose of a shower from my understanding. I thought about doing a brunch, but then it just feels like a free meal for everyone and not really a celebration for me (I mean that in the most unselfish way possible lol). I’m already doing a destination bachelorette with my bridesmaids and am so grateful for that. We’re also doing a welcome party”

“Hi all! So I have 5 bridesmaids and would like them to get their dresses through Birdy Grey in a specific color. If I could, I would just buy them for each of the girls, however that isn’t feasible for me at the moment. For Christmas, I was thinking that as a part of their gifts, I could also give them a $50 gift certificate for Birdy Grey towards their dresses (average price is $99-129 per dress). I guess I’m just wondering if that would actually be helpful, or should I try to save up for longe”

“I am planning my wedding and it will be early next year, I'm having 3 bridesmaids and I was wondering what to get them that doesn't cost hundreds as I'm covering their dress, hair & makeup. Originally, I was thinking some jewellery, but they don't all wear it, and some have very particular things they like and dislike, so I'm moving away from the idea. I think my gift at the moment will be some under eye Masks, foot masks, a candle (they all love a good candle) and some e”

“I’m the MOH in a late-October wedding and I’m having an awful time trying to plan the bachelorette party. Including the bride, there are four of us total. We are all in our early/mid twenties and cannot reasonably afford most many of the recommended activities I’ve found online, let alone a trip or an Airbnb. The only day we are all off work is Thursdays after 5 PM. We are all tomboys, and I know the other bridesmaids and the bride would be uninterested in a girly celebration. The bride wants to”

“When I first started planning or thinking about a bachelorette trip, it felt like the sky was the limit. I originally had my heart set on an out of town weekend, a couple hours north of where me & most of my bridesmaids live. I pre-booked AirBnB (Ones with a $0 deposit) just to insure we’d have those available if needed. The accommodations broke down to a little over $180 per person for a 3 night Th-Sun stay. We’re still a little over a year out from when I originally planned to have the Bac”

“There is one coming up in San Diego. I can go for free but unsure if there is any benefit to it? We’re wanting a resort/hotel wedding and not a normal venue. submitted by /u/bluehotcheeto [link] [comments]”

“I need some advice if this is okay, or if I should just drop it. I asked my future sister in law (she’s engaged to my financées brother) to be a bridesmaid in my wedding and she said no. I am not asking much of my bridal party, and the cost will be under $1000 per person including a bachelorette trip because all my friends are getting married this year and I don’t want to burden the people I love, I just want them around me on my special day. I told her that I was having my sisters in my bridal”