New parents can't get babies to sleep more than 30 minutes

“My boy is 4.5 months/20 weeks old and nap times have become horrendous. He was always able to nap well as a newborn but around 3 months he started to have trouble falling asleep. I know they go through a sleep progression around 3/4 months so I assumed it was that and it would get better. It just seems to be getting worse. Every nap time he starts getting upset as soon as he's a bit tired. His wake windows can be anything from 1.5 to 2.5 hours, but usually around 2 at the moment. He will kic”

“I’m a first time mom to a healthy 4-month-old. We have an appointment with his paediatrician soon where I plan on asking this question, but I was hoping to find out sooner if what we are doing is correct or not. Our baby sleeps from 9pm-7am, give or take half an hour in either direction. Most of the time he wakes once for a feed and then goes right back down, but once/twice a week or so he sleeps the whole way through. After he wakes up, he has a feed and will usually go down for a nap around 8a”

“I follow my baby's sleep cues and not going by the sleep chart. She is now 10.5-month-young. Till now, she used to sleep after rocking for 5-10 mins max. But since last 2-3 days, it's taking up to 45 mins to 1 hour when she finally falls asleep for day naps as well as night sleep. In this time, I can see that she is sleepy - drooping eyes, yawn, rubbing eyes, ears and head scratching.. All signs of sleep. I try feeding her to sleep, rocking, playing her usual lullabies, and comb”

“Baby is 6 weeks old and for the life of me, since he’s been born, I’ve never been able to get him to sleep more than 9 hours in a day. He has very full feeds, (have done weighted feeds with LC, he typically finishes eating in 15-20 mins), gets a good amount of tummy time, etc, but it’s impossible to get him to sleep. During the daytime no amount of rocking, shushing, or “comfort” techniques put him to sleep when he’s showing tired cues so i resort to babywearing to sleep but I’ve had such severe”

“My 12 week old generally has a really great initial stretch of sleep (usually 4-6hrs depending on when she’ll go down), and wakes up typically between 2-4am for the first time. After that first wake up, getting her back to sleep and to stay asleep is dreadful. She will usually fall asleep feeding, so I’ll put her down asleep and she wakes back up within 10 minutes and I’m sometimes spending up to an hour continuing to put the paci she spits out back in and rubbing her belly to get her back to sl”

“Baby had been mostly sleeping 7pm-7am. The last few days she’s been waking up at 6 but just rolling around and vocalizing in crib or playing with toys that are in there (just a binky/teether thing not unsafe.) It’s fine to let her stay in there longer right? If she’s not crying or upset seeming? I feel bad but also it’s my only time to get ready for the day and I want her to develop independent skills! submitted by /u/ilikebigcats2020 [link] [comments]”

“Have a 6 month old baby that does not nap longer than 35 minutes. He wakes up at 7 and has a 2-3 hour wake window then naps for 30 minutes. In the afternoon it is the same thing, 2.5-3 hour wake window and still a 30 minute nap. He has one more nap after that and when he wakes up from said nap that determines bed time. Usually 3 hours after the last nap wake up. He has been doing this since he was a newborn. He is a good sleeper over night, I would say, he wakes up maybe once or twice a night. S”

“My older child is 3 and still naps, but it takes a minimum of 30 minutes to settle. I can’t just leave my baby unattended while I help my 3 y/o fall asleep. How do parents of two or more kids manage this?! submitted by /u/feb1824 [link] [comments]”

“The average adult needs about 6 hours of uninterrupted sleep, but the average newborn wakes up every 2-3 hours and a large proportion breastfed babies keep waking up multiple times a night for feeds. It all seems like a huge contradiction! I have a 7 week old and I’m struggling despite having a village - my mum and my husband. We are all struggling! 😂 Baby’s longest stretch so far was 3.5 hours. Mostly breastfed during the day and formula fed at night (2 6oz bottles on average). submitted”

“My 5-month-old has never been a great sleeper. Her daytime naps are usually only 15–20 minutes, sometimes 30 minutes, and a 1-hour nap is very rare. Night sleep isn’t great either. During her wake windows we try to keep her quite active: tummy time, playing on her back, toys, singing/dancing, carrying her around, BabyBjörn bouncer, short supported sitting, sensory activities, etc. We also usually do a 1–2 hour walk in the morning. In the morning she can sometimes happily lie on her mat looking a”

“My baby (2 months old) currently has a very strange sleep schedule and it’s starting to seriously affect my sleep. She usually falls asleep around 2–3 AM and then sleeps until around 3–4 PM. During that long stretch, she wakes up only for milk and then goes back to sleep. But once she wakes properly in the afternoon, she is mostly awake until midnight. She might take a few very short naps here and there, usually only 15–30 minutes, but otherwise she is awake and wants to be entertained/held/fed.”

“What do you do to help baby go back to sleep when they only sleep 40 mins for a nap? She sleeps about 40 mins in her crib and then starts moving and wakes up but she is still tired. I have tried everything, the only thing that works is picking her up and letting her sleep on me. Will this take time for them to learn to go back to sleep after that sleep cycle I assume? She has no issues at night time, she sleep 8pm to 5am. submitted by /u/NextFee2923 [link] [comments]”

“my baby is 8 months old, and has 2-3 naps each day. She does not have fixed timings as to when she has a nap. I just go along with her. Her wake windows are up to 3 hours max or shorter. Does anyone else go with the flow or is it better to have fixed moments in the day for her naps? submitted by /u/EagleOwn7432 [link] [comments]”

“My 4 month old has been not napping longer than 5-10 minutes for like two/three weeks now with maybe two days of a break. Wont settle for sleep until maybe 9-10pm and wakes at 6am. any help? as soon as I lay her down, she wants to roll over on her stomach, so when I let her do that she just gets super wide-eyed awake and doesn’t wanna go back down to sleep. submitted by /u/NefariousnessFree468 [link] [comments]”

“How many naps and how long is your baby sleeping? Baby is 11 weeks old! My baby was strictly contact naps in my arms and wearing baby in the carrier for the first . He would sleep 1-1.5 hrs. But about 2ish weeks ago I started practicing naps in the bassinet, first week I did just one bassinet nap a day, then next week I moved to two bassinet naps a day each would last 30-40 mins in the bassinet. NOW my baby is only sleeping 10-20 mins if I’m lucky in bassinet and even in the carrier will only sl”

“My baby is 5 months old he sleeps well in the night. He usually sleeps around 6:30-7pm ( I know it’s a bit early but he’s so tired by this time) wake up 1 time sometimes 2 times if the temp is a little cold for him. He wakes up at 4:30am - 5am. First wake window is about 2hrs then he takes a 45 min nap next wake window is about 1:20 min then 30 min nap and so on and so forth. He doesn’t have a schedule I just let him tell me when he’s tired is this okay? This is advertising about 4 or 5 naps a d”

“My baby has been a bad sleeper since birth. She was up every 2 hours and would only contact nap until 6 months. Then she started doing 3-4 hr stretches, then longer, then finally 1/4 nights sleeping through the night at like 11 months. Only waking for short snuggles and would go back down easy. But that was short lived. Now she’s 12 months and waking up at some point at night (different times) and fighting going back in her crib for 2-3 hours. She falls asleep in my arms after lots of work and f”

“I have no idea what I’m doing, lactation consultant came and said my newborn should be doing 10 mins minimum each side but this baby keeps falling asleep after 7/8 mins. Should I keep forcing the breast, or stop. A nurse told me to formula. Idk what to do! Please help submitted by /u/manuelllzzz [link] [comments]”

“I have no idea what I’m doing, lactation consultant came and said my newborn should be doing 10 mins minimum each side but this baby keeps falling asleep after 7/8 mins. Should I keep forcing the breast, or stop. A nurse told me to formula. Idk what to do! Please help submitted by /u/manuelllzzz [link] [comments]”

“Actually 28 mins to be exact. My 6 month old refuses to nap any longer. Doesn’t matter what I do. We have a consistent nap time routine, a dark room, sound machine. I even try to rescue her naps and hold her to sleep but nothing works. She sleeps completely fine though the night so I guess I shouldn’t complain but it’s hard to get anything done or go anywhere because her naps are so horrible. I even tried to increase her wake windows but she stills wakes up at exactly 28 mins. Any advice?”

“He turns 4 months old this weekend. I am doing everything I can possibly do but the boy thinks he works a 9-5. He also hardly slept last night. We’ve been ebbing and flowing (lots of ebbing) since we seemed to hit our sleep regression a few weeks ago, but usually naps are okay. Now he didn’t sleep much last night and has hardly napped all day. Anxious me feels like I’m permanently ruining him and stifling his neurological development, even though I’m trying so hard to get him to sleep. I’ve trie”

“My baby just hit 4 weeks. He was born 3 weeks early and weighted 4lbs 3oz. He’s now just over 6lbs. I’ve seen conflicting information online about how far apart feeds should be. Throughout the day we’re feeding him every 2-3 hours. The issue is at night. If I could just get away with one 4 chunk of sleep then that would be enough for me. So my question is - if we are feeding every 2-3 hours throughout the day, can we let him sleep for one four hour chunk at night? Sorry for rambling… I’m tired.”

“FTM, 5 week old. My son stays awake for HOURS. He will fall asleep in my arms then as soon as I sit, or move into another room, his eyes burst open. I use white noise, rockers, bounce on a yoga ball, shush, pats on back, soft touch, swaddles, the works and nothing. He will not sleep in a bassinet for long at all, but will contact nap for hours. I know this is normal for a small bub and I don't mind it. My MIL, is always really trying to push the bassinet and I don't know how to tell her”

“Our 9-month-old’s naps have completely fallen apart for over a month now. She used to do roughly 1h / 1h / 30 min, but now almost every nap is 30 minutes max. Current schedule is 3 naps, usually something like 30 / 30 / 20–25 min, with ~3-hour wake windows. She normally wakes around 6:30–7:00, so we’d really like to move to 2 naps, but with naps this short bedtime would end up ridiculously early. We’ve tried pretty much everything: dark room, white noise, consistent routine, adjusting wake windo”

“My 5 month old son is in daycare, they do not wake him from naps; this causes him to get too much daytime sleep & then we have an early wake time in the morning. Is there anything on my end that I can do to stop this shitty cycle? Currently going to bed at 7pm, with 2 night wakings(approximately 30mins each for feeds) wake up at 5am & averaging 3.5-4 hours of naps a day(hard to adjust this one due to daycare rules) Any advice would be much appreciated! I’m at my wits end Edit to add: whe”

“I have a 5.5 month old. We nap based on wake windows (usually 2-2.5 hrs). She has started taking longer naps - her naps have been 45ish minutes and now they are sometimes 1.5-2hrs. I’m wondering how people manage going to groups/classes with nap schedules? For me, my baby’s sleep is first priority, so if I have to cancel a plan because she’s napping or needs to nap, I will do that. Is this what others do? It’s hard not to feel guilty for feeling “flakey”. submitted by /u/Quiet_Sense_”

“I’m a first time mom and my newborn is 3 weeks old on Wednesday. I wake every 3 hours to feed her day and night and that leaves me with about 4 hours of sleep every night since she got here. Thing is, I feel great! I’m not tired at all! She sleeps plenty in the days so I could nap whenever I want but I just forget to do it! I clean, do laundry, prep her bottles etc. without a care in the world. I do take the occasional nap but they’re rare and often don’t last over 20 minutes. I drink a max of t”

“My 4 month old is awake from 5:30 am to 7 pm with 2 x 1 hour naps a day. Anyone else ever experience this? He is literally wide awake and alert. He sleeps from 7pm to 11pm then awake for milk then up every 2 hours for milk until 5:30 am sunrise submitted by /u/Glass_Library_9498 [link] [comments]”

“My baby is going through all of the 4 month milestones early. We got the 4 month sleep regression and rolling over at the same time. Its currently 1am and baby has not fallen asleep. They arent mad or crying, just eyes open. Anytime baby falls asleep I wait and wait then transfer to the crib and their eyes just pop back open. When does this get better? When does baby stop waking themselves from rolling? How am I supposed to follow safe sleep and actually be able go safely parent if my baby never”

“NGL I feel a bit stupid for not figuring this out sooner so I’m just posting to save anyone else the headache. I’ve had my baby on the same schedule for months. Wake windows are 3/3/3/3.5. 6am wake up, first nap at 9, then 12, then 3 with bedtime at 6:30. BUT I could not get her to nap for more than 30 mins 90% of the time. I just thought this is how it is, she was a “FOMO baby” so I was rolling with the punches. Turns out she’s been overtired this entire time. Moved her first nap to 8, second a”

“Hi parents! Hoping someone can help me because I am desperate at this point. My 12 week old baby was a very good sleeper from the jump. As a newborn I had to wake her up for feedings and she was sleeping 6-8 hour stretches at 5 weeks old. About 2 weeks ago that changed and now she is waking up every 2 hours. I’ve tried offering her a paci and rocking her back to sleep but it seems like the only thing that will get her to sleep is eating. For reference she is breastfed. She also eats very frequen”

“My 3-month-old wakes up after 30 minutes during every nap and can’t connect sleep cycles unless he’s being held or in a baby carrier. I feel like I’ve been “lazy” about letting him contact nap this whole time because I’m just so tired of waiting for him to wake up at the end of a sleep cycle and then trying to soothe him back to sleep. Even when I do, he usually won’t go back to sleep unless I pick him up and rock him again which takes about 10-20minutes. So what should I do? 1. Rock him to slee”

“I am losing my mind. My 10 week old will not stay asleep longer than 10 mins for naps during the day. His night sleep is pretty good with getting 6-7 hour stretches, but my days are just spent getting him to sleep and getting him back to sleep. I put in so much effort to get him down: bouncing, rocking, singing, white noise, dark room…etc.. because he just can’t go down otherwise. But then once he’s FINALLY down, he wakes up 30 mins later. And I thought ok maybe he just doesn’t need to sleep for”

“Baby is almost 9 months old and will nap sooo well at home. In her crib. In the dark. On weekends, we have to wake her up after 2 hours so I know she is both capable and tired. She is sleep trained for nighttime. At daycare, I'm lucky if she naps 30 minutes. I'm assuming it's FOMO and other babies being loud. Her night sleep has suffered the last few days but I'm hoping it's temporary. (Her daycare naps have been like this months before this broken nighttime sleep, so I'm”

“Hi everyone, My 11 month old is waking up earlier and earlier in the morning then her usual wake time. She currently takes two naps, but the second nap is always a fight where she takes 1+hours to fall asleep. I have posted on here before when she was 10 months old and a lot of people suggested that developmentally she needs two naps still so I’ve been trying to do that but I would say out of seven days in a week 2 to 3 days she is completely missing that second nap because she just would not fa”

“My 4.5 mo baby boy is definitely not going by the text book definition of wake windows? (lol) Wake windows range from 2 hours to maximum being 3 hours only to nap for 35-60 mins not more! Is this developmentally okay?? Night time starts at 8 pm and he wakes up at 6 am daily (poop time🥲) we try to ensure he has 3-4 naps daily ranging from 3-4 hours total ( contact napping only) 🥲 if we try to make him sleep before his cues like red eyebrow and stuff he will scream and scream! Anyone else who ha”

“First time dad, trying to deal with a 2 month old baby. During the night he is actually sleeping great, but it's impossible for me to get him to nap. What works during the night (darkness, sleeping bag, big bottle) does not work during the day and I am at my wit's end. Doesn't help that my wife is managing to let him nap for 30m here and there on her lap, and even though I do exactly what she does he does not want to sleep for me. As I've been forgetful and making small mistakes”

“I would need your opinion/experience. This is our first child and we are therefore new to this. As being our age, we ask AI or Google and they say that babies at that age are up for 45-90 Minutes (change diaper, feed, interact) and then drift off to sleep. Our boy is up for 4 hours, sometimes 5 hours! We think it’s not normal. When he is tired and trying to sleep, he seems very uncomfortable and we think maybe that’s it? submitted by /u/miadomo1 [link] [comments]”

“7.5 months. Wake windows are right on point according to books and internet. He’s on a 2-nap schedule now (absolutely refuses to go down for a third for weeks now). Sometimes we get an hour, rarely a glorious 1.5 but mostly it’s 30-40. I even try to rescue the nap in my arms but that’s hit or miss. Anyone successfully solved crap naps? submitted by /u/imdirrtydan12 [link] [comments]”

“And when will they get better? Everything I am hearing is that a baby this age should have longer wake windows, 2+ hours between sleep. My guy no matter what time he woke up, as soon as the one hour mark hits after waking in the morning, he’s miserable. Crying non stop at everything. It’s been like this for a long time. Nothing soothes him and if I put him down that early, then his entire day of naps is ruined and screwed up. I’m at a loss at what to do. submitted by /u/throwaway8458”

“My baby is 2 months / 9 weeks old. it just seems like every day is groundhog day trying to chase naps - she naps for no longer than 30-45 mins each session, but her wake window is only 45 mins-1hr before she’s down again. also she feeds for like 15-30 min so really that wake window can be as short as 15-30 min before she gets overtired and upset… was wondering whether anyone is / has gone through a similar experience with their 2 month old and when do their naps improve (if so?) submitted”

“7 day old newborn woke up an hour after eating 2 oz. Then she ate another 2 oz and hasn’t really fell back asleep yet. She’s been up almost 3 hours. She isn’t fussy or hungry we’ve changed her diapers and checked. New to this and want to see if this is typical or not since she’s so little. submitted by /u/peepee2112 [link] [comments]”

“My daughter is 11 months old. She was in a great routine of being put in her crib awake for naps and falling asleep with some brief rolling around and hand holding. Now that she can sit herself up from any position, she just sits up every time I lay her down for a nap. Often, if I then pick her up and rock her, she’s asleep within a minute, so obviously she’s tired. Today after 6 times laying her back down I gave up. I tweaked my back and I’m not up for rocking her. I don’t want to wrestle her t”

“My baby is 5 weeks old, and I’m trying to figure out what’s normal at this age and whether I should be doing anything differently with her naps. She is mainly breast fed with 2 bottles of formula one at night and one in morning. Some of my queries are below: Nap length: Her naps are usually a average of about 1 hour. Is that normal for a 5-week-old? Wake windows: After her morning nap, her wake window seems to be around 1–1.5 hours, and her naps/wake windows seem to get progressively shorter or”

“We have a 4 month old and we’re on the 4 naps/day schedule. Usually we try to have the last nap ends at 530-6 for 730-8 bedtime with 2ish hours wake window. Sometimes his 3rd nap is at awkward times like 3-330 to 4-430. In this case, is it better to have a 4th quick nap at 6-630 and put him down for bedtime at 9-930? OR skip the 4th nap and put him down early at 6-630? submitted by /u/West_Experience_1042 [link] [comments]”

“I am getting desperate. We co-sleep with our baby and for the past few months, any time she wakes during the night she is awake for about 3 hours or more. She’s not crying or fussing, just awake tossing and turning and babbling. This will happen anywhere from twice a week to 4-5 nights. Usually about 2am-5am, will finally tire herself out but be back up and ready for the day at 7am. She naps a max of 2 hours total during the day so I don’t think it’s that she gets too much day sleep. I’ve tried”

“My son is 8 months old and picked up a head cold over the weekend. Lots of congestion and a very slight fever. I can’t get him to sleep for more than 30 minutes at a time. I pulled an all nighter with him last night and have been solo parenting as my husband is out of the country for the weekend. I’ve tried the snot sucker but he’s genuinely terrified of it. Like starts screaming when he sees it. Sometimes I have to use it anyways. I’ve also tried saline drops and a cool mist humidifier in his r”

“i’ve been trying to follow appropriate wake windows and nap times for my 8 week old during the day. i usually don’t let him nap more than an hour 30/2 hours during the day and his last nap *usually* happens somewhere around 6/6:30pm but is almost always a carrier nap when my husband and i go for a walk as he fights sleep harder and harder as the day goes on. this nap lasts about 30min- hour. so we start bedtime approx around 8/8:30pm. we try to keep the wake window in the appropriate time, have”

“Hi Looking for some tips or insight into how to move forward with a baby not sleeping well at all. My baby is 4 months old and wakes up 6+ times a night. We put down at 7:30pm and usually take 30-60 minutes to fall asleep. Without fail he will wake up after 45 minutes then wake again at 9:30pm and then 4-5 more times until his wake up until 7am. Most times he wakes up in the night it is instant inconsolable screaming, so we don’t even have the opportunity to try and teach him to self soothe in h”

“How do you get your baby to take 4-5 naps in a day? My 10.5 week old has never done more than 4 naps and he doesn’t even get to 4 in a day sometimes it’s usually more like 3 naps a day. Our day usually goes like this: Wake up around 7-7:30, sometimes closer to 6:30 sometimes 8 First nap between 9-10 Second nap between 1130-1230 Third nap between 230-4 If he cooperates theres a 4th nap sometime around 6pm Bedtime between 830-930pm He only wakes up once or twice in the middle of the night to eat.”

“My boy just turned 6 week and has been an absolute nightmare this past couple of days. It seems he just decided to refuse sleep. He’s getting maybe 8 hours of that 14-17 recommended. He blows past his wake window every single time despite our best efforts to follow best practices. Should I be concerned about his development? submitted by /u/Blokey24 [link] [comments]”

“Hello, Our baby girl is an early riser and I feel like I am drowning in information. She is overtired, and that is why she is waking up early or is she under tired and waking up early? NAPS: She is on a on nap schedule (usually around 11:30/12:00). She normally naps for 2 hours. Sometimes she only gives us 1.5 hours and other days 2.5. I cap it at 2.5, and only on rough days when I think she is tired, otherwise we try to stick to the 2 hour nap mark. We knew she was ready for one nap because she”

“I see people saying newborns should be awake for 30-60 minutes and then back to sleep. My baby has never done this from birth. We are awake for 6 hours at a time and sleep for 30mins-2hrs. I spent this last week trying to put her to sleep often and get more rest but she either fights it for hours or is truly just wide awake…….. I think my baby is broken?? I’m exhausted and getting no sleep but I don’t know what else to do if this baby has no interest in sleeping? submitted by /u/Diff”