Wedding guests RSVP late, causing stress

“I’m having a small crisis as we plan our wedding, a few months ago I sent a rsvp and my parents were aware of this but we have a big family so I figured they would understand that we couldn’t invite everyone. I have years in my church with different congregations of people and so a majority of our invites was family and church. It’s 100, which is my area is considered small. My parents are used to being the ones that coordinate parties and invite with no control. My first wedding, I didn’t know”

“RSVP deadline has come and passed. We had to do a final push to get people to respond and there are still several who haven’t. We decided to mark them as declined. What are the chances they show up anyway? Has anyone had experience with people showing up who didn’t rsvp? We have a day of coordinator and I will ask her how she will handle the situation if it happens but was curious what others have experienced? submitted by /u/ExestentialEchoes [link] [comments]”

“Ugh. Our rsvps were due Monday Sept 28th for our November 6th wedding. We sent our save the dates a year ago. Monday comes by, and after checking the mail we had 20 people who had not RSVP’d yet, all in my fiancés side. THIRTEEN were family members, the rest friends. So Tuesday comes and he follows up with people. Can you believe one of his good friends responds “yeah lol” when asked if he received the invite? That’s it. His family member responded they got the invite and he will follow up with”

“Our wedding is October 10th, and we are having a welcome party the day before. The welcome party venue is 21+, but we were able to get approval for 2 kids of my fiances cousin so their mom may join as well. Everyone else who RSVPd to the welcome party is over 21. We had an issue getting my fiances cousin and family to RSVP. On top of getting a STD and invite with all the RSVP details, my fiance reached out to them individually 3 separate times with the RSVP link asking them to RSVP. They finally”

“Our deadline came, reminders were sent, and these are the numbers: 140 Yes 49 No 110 No Response (Numbers are per person, not per invite) Is this normal? Lol the amount of no responses is so amazing to me but i didn't know what to expect. I just feel a little weird about it 😅 submitted by /u/Miss_Estrellita0420 [link] [comments]”

“I am absolutely freaking out. We have invited over 200 guests, only 40 have rsvp'd yes, and about 20 declines. Our rsvp deadline is in 11 days and still waiting on 160 people. Our wedding is a slight trip( 4 hour car ride) for most of my side ( about 1/3 of the guest list) but is local or a shorter trip for my groom's side. I am so scared we are not going to even hit our 90 venue minimum and also am frustrated at my groom and my own mother. My groom had previously said all his coworkers”

“Just going through the stages of grief right now for the wedding I thought I would have. The RSVP date passed and we’ve been chasing the stragglers. Landing at 79 declined and 76 attending my wedding. How pathetic and embarrassing, to have more declined. We know that 76 won’t stay 76 either, because you always lose people. I feel so defeated. I’ve been sobbing. Fiancé already asked if we want to change the date but we’ll love money and that feels disrespectful to our guests who booked travel. It”

“My fiancé and I are getting married in November, so our RSVP deadline is beginning of October. We have already sent out reminder texts and all that.... I'm just really disappointed with how people are responding, or not at all. My fiancé and I are both very social and have large friend groups and large families. We are in our 30s so a lot of our friends are already married. We have been to SO MANY weddings over the past few years, domestic and abroad, and really prioritize showing up for our”

“Hi! I have a destination wedding coming up in a month and I feel like people who were a solid confirm ( our RSVPs closed August 1st) and have been chatting to me about the wedding are now dropping out!! I think some of them left the booking and planning till now ( invites sent in April for October wedding) and when they saw the logistics are now dropping out and I'm feeling so so sad and taking each one so personal, I range from let me fix it and help u find the best flights etc… to shell sh”

“I'm having a destination wedding and so far 47 out of 77 people have RSVP'd online. We are 8 weeks out and the deadline was September 7th. I have followed up with a few people, but I'm wondering if I should expect the rest to rsvp later or not at all? submitted by /u/lola2026bride [link] [comments]”

“You never think it will be you, but I'm shocked how many people have canceled since rsvp closed. My wedding is tomorrow is my RSVP deadline was three weeks ago. Since then, 6 people canceled. Two people two days before! Backfilling the already paid for seats has been so hard. We are paying $200 per person so having empty seats is crazy😭 I understand shit happens, they have valid reasons, but damn it's so stressful submitted by /u/No-Investigator-8007 [link] [comments]”

“Need advice- I sent my wedding invitations out 2 weeks later than I would have liked since they weren’t done being made. Which means people started recieving them with about 3-3.5 weeks to RSVP before the deadline. We are having a 100 person wedding & have been planning the wedding since last November so we have been in close contact with majority of our guests through out the process. A save the date went out around April 2026 - so I felt like we had a good idea of who would be attending. A”

“did you notice a big discrepancy in the responses of your RSVP? We put all our information on our website as soon as we made it, which is when we sent our Save the Dates. I like to have as much info as possible and so I added everything when I made it. I think it’s kind of weird to leave out info if I have it but maybe I’m too eager?? Or maybe I’m just inline with the new information way? We will still send out invitations 8 weeks before the date. Im curious how it played out for those that were”

“My wedding is happening in October with an RSVP date of the end of September. Everyone has already let me know if they are coming or not. Should I wait until the deadline passes to finalize things or just go for it now to get it out of the way? I have some family members that said no and I am not sure if we should wait to see if they change their mind submitted by /u/Zetophir [link] [comments]”

“We got engaged last Memorial Day Weekend (2025), sent out Save the Dates a year in advance, now we are 44 days out from the wedding date and have had several friends who originally told us they are coming, now decline. I never expected this to make me so sad and feel so disappointed. Any advice? submitted by /u/little_fajita [link] [comments]”

“I sent the invites out over a month ago maybe two. Deadline for RSVPs is in a week. I’ve had about 20 people out of around 200 actually RSVP. I live in a rural (everyone knows everyone) area and think people just don’t take that kind of formality seriously and assume that I would just know that they’ll be there. I’ve heard a lot of word of mouth with people who will and won’t attend but they still haven’t sent in their RSVP. What should I do? submitted by /u/Areotew [link] [com”

“My fiancé and I sent out almost 200 invites. We are less than a month away from the ceremony, and we have only received 24 RSVPs, most of which are from the bridal party and groomsmen. I am terrified that there will be no one in attendance. What do I do? submitted by /u/Soft-Sherbert-6398 [link] [comments]”

“We're about a month and a half out from our wedding and about 10 days out from the RSVP deadline. We opted for a small wedding (anticipated originally to be about 50 people) and due to time off on weekends being difficult for my partner because of the nature of his job, elected for a weekday at the end of September. Because we wanted to keep the wedding small we really limited our guest list and kept it mainly to family and some friends. But I'm feeling defeated because people who I expe”

“So I repeated to my in-laws what gets said a lot on this sub when it comes to RSVPs. I told them we aren’t suppose to send messages about the missing RSVPs until the day after the cutoff date has passed, and that’s why I scheduled a week buffer between the RSVP cutoff and the caterer headcount for those last minute people. Well, they thought that was silly and decided they would handle it So for the last week they’ve been hunting down guest. They’ve been at it almost every day, in person and ove”

“We are getting married in Paris in April because of a crazy work deal we got which ended up making it much cheaper to get married there than the US. This has been awesome except for some of the logistical difficulties of planning things in a different country. My fiancé did a make up trial in Paris a few weeks ago and it went badly. I guess it was way to glam and the artist didn't listen to any recommendations or references. Anyways, she has been freaking out trying to find someone new and I”

“We have about 35% of our RSVP’s returned back to us via our wedding website, with three weeks left until our deadline. The most annoying thing is anytime we talk to family, friends, or even the bridal party just making sure they received their invitation, they make a joke that we should basically know they’re coming and it’s almost silly to ask them to RSVP. I’m a little surprised we’ve gotten that response since I’ve never felt that way about RSVP’ing to someone else’s wedding. I also apparentl”